At first it was just, kiss me, kiss me. Now that I have been dating my boyfrined for almost a year, has moved on to asking for more than just kisses. A week ago I gave him a hand job, but now i'm afraid he will think that whenever he begs for something from me, he can get it. What can I do to prevent this from happening?
2007-07-03 07:49:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best way is to not even go down that road. I've seen relationships fall apart for this very reason. I think sexual contact of any sort makes things way more complicated than its worth, so if I were you, I'd tell him that it can't happen anymore. Once guys get started on things like that, they often lose control of their desire and become really demanding...it can even become a need, kind of like food, which makes it really hard to say no to them. This is one of the biggest reasons I think it's best to wait until you have the security of a healthy marriage before you start getting into these things, because so many people get hurt when any form of sex becomes a part of the relationship. If he is demanding things from you that make you feel uncomfortable, you never have to say yes to him, you don't owe him anything except to be honest with how you feel. You may not need to break up with him, but it could help if you slowed down and got a little distance.
2007-07-03 08:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by Dan in Real Life 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to ask yourself why you gave him that hand job first, did you really want to do it?
I think you should ask for something back in return, that's always the fun part hehe......
If you are not ready to move up in the relationship then talk to him and explain to him you are not ready.
2007-07-03 15:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by The Coug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start wearing gloves.
2007-07-03 14:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give in to him..that only reinfoces his bad behavior...kinda of like when i trained my dog to not pee in the house lol dont reinforce his sh*tty actions!!
2007-07-03 14:56:32 · answer #4 · answered by jennybean7985 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do stuff you don't want to do, set limits/boundaries for yourself and him, tell him no if you don't want to do something and if he doesn't like it then f*** him....you don't need him....
2007-07-03 14:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Pisce-Pegasus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋