He says that now that im with him i cant go anywhere and i hate it when people tell me what to do(me and my boyfriend have been going out for2months)And we have got in alot of fights because of that i even invite him to the parties with me but when he goes he doesnt leave me alone i try to dance and well hes with me 24/7 hes like my bodyguard i hate it what should i do? Help
2007-07-03 07:46:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My man is the same way........try being a good girl. Who knows...it just might work for you.
2007-07-03 07:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is trying to control you after two months of being together then there's something there that is not right.
You should be in control of your own life, if you want to party then party, invite him along though since he is your boyfriend but he should not tell you wether you can go or not.
He is too controlling and if you are young then you don't need to be whipped like that.
talk to him first and then if he still acts that way then dump his ***.
2007-07-03 15:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by The Coug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to recognize when a guy is controling! Your bf is! Dump him and find a bf who isn't controling! You teach people how to treat you and if you continue to put up with this, it's like telling him it's OK! You are in control here, NOT HIM!! You tell him if he wants to continue to see you, that he has no say in where you go or when! When someone loves you, they love you for who you are, just as you are. This guy is trying to change you! You need to look at why you are hanging on to someone who is controlling!! There are so many other guys to go out with, why would you keep dating someone who makes you so unhappy?
2007-07-03 15:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you have to break up with him. He is trying to control you and he is being successful. After two months he has already got you asking him for permission to do things and as time goes on it is just going to get worse and worse. Leave him NOW!
2007-07-03 14:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you aren't the type that is ready for a boyfriend yet...you can't have your cake and eat it too - meaning you can't act single but still be in a relationship. If you go out dancing, it's pretty much expected that you will dance WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND.
being in a realtionship means being together...
2007-07-03 14:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not married... meaning he has no right to give you any type of permission to do anythings. He has to understand you are not going to pick up guys... you just want to dance and be around fun people. This insecurity at it's best. Clearly he doesn't trust you.
2007-07-03 14:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jan the Beautiful 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um well there is an easy solution. decide what you would rather do...party or be with a controlling boyfriend that you fight with constantly.
i say dump the bf and find a guy who enjoys the club scene / party life....someone who has the same interests.
2007-07-03 14:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by KR52 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They say opposites attract but that doesn't mean that they have to stay together. You may want to consider splitting up because at this time in your lives you are not a good match. He shouldn't want to control you but embrace you for who you are......a fun party girl.
2007-07-03 14:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your boyfriend keeps you from doing stuff you wanna do, he's not a good boyfriend. espeacially since you get into alot of fights. this relationship could get abusive. i think the best thing to do is to break up with him. but i think you should do whatever you think is right. good luck.
2007-07-03 14:51:56 · answer #9 · answered by your sweetest catch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Don't ever waste your time with someone who wants to control and smother you. You will regret it. He should like you for you and if that means dealing with your partying, then so be it.
2007-07-03 14:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by veesmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋