Did anyone notice the fact this young lady was RAPED????

Question

My God, how many of you out there are rape survivors? I AM, not once but twice. How could you expect a woman to carry a child born from rape? There has to be a part of you that feels compassion for what this young lady has been through. I cannot tell you how long it takes to heal from being raped. I cannot believe how callous some people are. How could you expect her to accept a pregnancy brought about by rape? (There was one man who answered that it doesn't matter how it happened........has it ever happened to YOU)

A young lady posted about how to tell her Christian mother about her intention to abort after being raped......it wasn't that long ago. By the way, I know some of you noticed but others.......

Primoa, being raped is like being murdered. You have to find your will to live again.

Answer 1

I have to say that I must have missed that question. I cannot expect someone to carry a child that is the result of a rape. The pain of that is unreal. I know. I, too, am a rape survivor. I have had 3 experiences in my lifetime. I was molested as a young child, in college, there was a guy that attempted but I got away, and a year ago, I was raped by 3 people. I am a survivor. I am not a victim. Thankfully, there was no pregnancy in my case. However, I can say that I took the morning after pill at the hospital to prevent that very thing from happening. I do not feel guilty about it. My body was ravaged, my mind and heart were broken, my spirit was torn in half. I was in NO condition to carry a child. My parents, who happen to be pastors, both understood and supported my taking the pill.

The pain of rape is something that no one can understand unless you have been through it. The embarrassment--the physical pain--the thought that you just may die that day or night. It's horrible. The flashbacks. The fear. The mistrust in humanity. The dislike of a simple hug from a friend or a family member. The discomfort in simple tasks. It's horrible. Nothing, NOTHING, can compare to that. To this day, I still believe that it was my fault. To this day, I still sit back and think "if I would have just done this or that..." I still blame myself. It's a battle. It's an uphill climb through the worst conditions, but I survived. I am still pushing on. I am still climbing to the top of that mountian. One day, I will reach the top and I will cry with a shout of victory.

Answer 2

If there was a baby from it then you don't think God put the spirit in the child? How many time do people have sex and *not* get pregnant, alot. For a child to be conceived, it should not be killed-regardless of how it came to be.

I am a survivor, I been through it. But haven't let it (the rape) hold me hostage. You have to move on, God helped me mentally w/ that. Bad things happen all the time to all kinds of people good/bad. If we were to follow what Jesus taught, the one thing to love your neighbor as your self, the world would be a kind place-but it is not.

That unborn child maybe the next president, find the cure for Cancer a teacher/preacher we never know but it was meant to be or the child wouldn't of came about.
Murder is by far worse than rape, you can survive a rape. that child could be the best thing that ever happened to her, just because it came about doesn't mean that everytime she looks at the child she will feel raped, this is real life not TV.

Love is holding your baby after you've felt it move inside you, or giving some one else that chance to have and love it. Any way you look at it, it is not the child's fault...

Answer 3

I was discussing this matter with my mom the other day. I watched a very young mother and father (she couldn't have been past the 10th grader) give her maybe 5 month old son up for adoption last week. I was in tears in the courtroom. Being a mother of 3, I couldn't imagine every giving my children away. And that brought up even if I was a victim of rape and happened to become pregnant, I know that I couldn't have an abortion or not even give the baby up for adoption after carrying it for 9 months. Now I am not saying that everyone should feel like this and I am not sure that is how I would feel if the circumstance came upon me.

Answer 4

I agree with you. No one should be forced to carry a child conceived from rape. I am a Chrsitian and cannot imagine that anyone would be so cruel as to suggest that a girl/woman who was raped not get an abortion.

One of my former students was raped when she was 10, got pregnant, and had the baby. Whoever made her have the baby is guilty of child abuse. The same goes for anyone else who would make a young girl who was raped have a baby.

This really makes me furious.

Answer 5

I’ve not only been raped, but have also suffered from years of molestation (by my uncle).

IF I had gotten pregnant from either scenario, I would probably weigh the effects abortion would have on my physical state of being against those on my mental.

If doing so, gave me reason to believe that having an abortion would be less harmful; I probably would opt for one.

If it turned out that I could not handle the knowledge that I had MY OWN flesh and blood is to be terminated in the process of having an abortion; I’d carry the baby to term. I would allow one of my relatives to adopt the baby, that way; he or she would still be in my life. But I would not have the constant reminder of how that child came to be in my life, in the first place.

In either case, it would be MY decision to make and no one has the right to tell me otherwise!

Answer 6

I did not see the previous question, but to answer your question, yes you are absolutly correct. I too have had to face the issues of molestation and rape and for those who don't know what it is like should keep their mouths shut. First, all men should keep their mouths shut on abortion anyways. When they get pregnant and experience childbirth and have a baby themeselves, then I will be glad to hear what they have to say. Until then they can kiss my ***.

Also, carrying a baby from rape might not be the only reason to have an abortion. Until anyone has had an experience that is exactly the same and until you do experience it you do not know what you would do. You can say you would fight or you would do this or that, but you don't know. You don't know how much you can take until you have to.

Answer 7

A lot of people find it hard to empathise and a lot of people don't want to try to empathise with a rape victim or survivor because it is a very difficult position to put yourself in if it has never happened to you.
For a lot of people its much easier to see the world in black and white and this is one of those awkward areas that those people need black and white in because it is so hard to deal with.
To the person who asked her how she got into those situations I can tell you you do it by living. I have never been raped but I have been taken advantage of by 3 people starting when i was 6 (most people don't believe that 7 year old boys can harm you in that way). I have been touched up in the street in broad day light wearing a hoody in fact i get less unwanted attention uncovered than i do covered. Men who are sick and need that feeling of power will find a way to get it whether it is by befriending you for years or dragging you somewhere.

Answer 8

People are gonna be stupid no matter what. It's funny how men are always giving a woman a hard time for things like this when they have not a clue what it feels like to be violated.

Most of the answers on her page were very + and about 4-5 got downsized for stupid remarks. I am sure that she will get the abortion first and then tell her mom... it's whats best.

I cant imagine her caring for and carrying the baby for 9 months and then giving it up for adoption.. that'd be highly insane...

Answer 9

I understand where you are coming from. No I have not been raped. I do think it would be terrible to become pregnant because of rape. But open your mind for a second. What if you yourself were born because of rape. Maybe it would be terrible for your mother but she would still love you. You would be thankful that your mother went through with the pregnancy. Abortion is wrong people!!! No matter how the woman becomes pregnant. You are killing an innocent life. It's murder!!! That baby will look down on you from Heaven and wonder why his/her mommy didn't want them. Could you live with yourself? I couldn't. Think. Babies don't have a voice. Someone has to stand up and be heard for them!!! They may not know what has happened when they are aborted but they will know that their mommy didn't want them when they get to Heaven. I can''t understand why people are for abortion. It is not the child's fault. If you think that you cannot raise that child like a normal child because of how it was conceived, give him/her to foster care or a family member. I think I got my point across. Thank you!!!

Answer 10

I'm lost and must have missed something. This has got to have something to do with the abortion issue. No, I don't think anyone should be forced to carry a child of rape though
Have to have a reminder everyday for almost another year how cruel. My sister was raped and if I could I'd kill that sob
or anyone else that told her that she to carry that thing full-term! That is just too sick. Even if It was a sin i don' think my
God is going to send her to hell just for that, that is something that should be left up to her and God!