I'm in the anger phase of a break up. I was seeing someone for a month, seemed great on paper...claimed he wanted to settle down and have a family. He's 15 years older, nice apt in manhattan, descent house in the hamptons. I played the hard to get role for about 3 weeks. I had slept with him once after 4 dates. I decided to spend the weekend with him @ his house. He was attentive and sweet and did all the right stuff,like wanting to go fruit shopping @ a market for my parents to driving me around for da nxt time .On sunday I went home he txt me about 4 times, we spoke once and the nxt day the pursuing stopped. I called on the monday and tues and he seemed occupied. he'd call me, but it was what very distant, he called on Wednesday. I never picked up the phone or returned the phone call. It's been a wk, no txt, no call..nothing. he cut me off completely. I will never call!!. I have my thoughts on this, but why do u think I was dumped or will he call. I want to get him back :(
2007-07-03
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asked by
vonparis17
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➔ Singles & Dating
He got what he wanted from you, and now he's done. It's called, "being used for sex". He played your game until you let him score the touchdown. Forget him, he's not worth it.
And don't be so easy next time.
2007-07-03 07:41:03
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answered by Anonymous
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You got played. as soon as you had sex with him it was over. that is a classic example of a man that played you. you made him the person in control, and thats why it is what it is now. u had the control the whole time you was with him, u witheld what he wanted, and now he probably feels good that he accomplished is goal. remember, when a player(i know because i was one) wants something from you, he will say and do anything to get what he wants. and the sad thing is its not just sex. even it was money or other materialistic items, this is the same situation. remember as well, a player knows women. a woman can have sex with a man, and be emotionally attached, but not all men. a player will definately not. especially knowing what he wants when he sees you. a man can know within the first ten minutes whether that woman will be his fling for the night, his lady or his wife. real talk, i ve did what he done before. but i dont think he will call until he get the sexual urge. but leave him be, there are too many good men out there for you. feel free to email me to keep me updated if you like.
2007-07-03 15:34:05
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answered by Tony E. 2
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The hardest thing to accept about love is that it is neither logical nor fair.
There are women who have had marriage proposed by multi-millionaires. They could have anything they want, but they turn down the offer. The guy might be decent looking, as well as a decent and caring person, but you can't make yourself love someone.
I love someone who will never love me. There is nothing I can do or say that will ever change that. On the flip side, I have been on dates and realized how nice and unproblematic life could be if I could just muster the enthusiasm for the relationship, but I can't. You just can't fake love.
Just accept the fact he probably gave the relationship his best shot. He probably genuinely likes you, but you're just not the right one for him.
2007-07-03 14:45:16
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answered by pachl@sbcglobal.net 7
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Ummm it sounds way to good to be true, were you dating for a month or a week? If it was like a week then it's possible that he already has a girlfriend and that is why he cut you off like that. Or it could be that he met someone else and this is just what he does to girls until he gets board and goes out to find his next prey. I'm really sorry but I think that I would just let it go. It doesn't sound like he cares or he would of called already.
2007-07-03 14:46:13
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answered by chelsea 2
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ok you need to calm down and think over on everything. was there anything you did wrong or he did wrong? Try getting together at his house or your house and talk over everything. cuz no one can really help you except him. you will have to ask him yourself if he found another girl or if he just doesnt feel the same way he use to anymore. You have to call him and talk open heart to heart with him. If he says that he has moved on then i guess you cant get him back but if he hasnt then you hav a chance to tell him that you want him back and wish things were normal again! Hope this helps!
2007-07-03 14:45:12
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answered by ♥D3Si ChiC♥ 2
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Sometimes people just don't fit together. It doesn't have to be something bad about you, or something bad about him.
I think you're right to not call, and that the relationship is probably over. Just move on and pick up the pieces like we all do and you'll be better off.
People make dating some big contest, where someone has to be wrong. Sometimes it rains on the parade, and nobody is to blame.
2007-07-03 14:42:40
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answered by Anonymous
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sweety i know you are very hurt and want him back but he is only 15 i mean what does he know about love. He doesnt even know what love is and youve only been together for 2 months right well what you should do is call him leave him a message that describes how your feeling and is it over. or you could always talk to a relative like a mother father brother or something i really do hope that everything works out and you get your man back
2007-07-03 14:44:44
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answered by attitude_angie2000 2
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it doesnt sound like he dumped u..it sounds like he's busy lol. u might wanna call but in all honestly it may be too late since u didnt answer his phone call wednesday he may assume ur done...until he says to u hey its over then i dont think ur broken up. but if ur both being stubborn and waiting for the other one to call..u may never hear from him again. why would he call if u didnt return his last phone call? i think u should suck it up and call him and actually talk to him..dont write him off if he doesnt answer immediatly..he may have stuff to do like work etc. talk with him and see whats goin on..or if ur too scared to call then text him and see whats the deal..ull never know until u ask!! whats the worst that can happen? he'll be a dick and not speak to u..and at least then ull know he was worth the dog poo on ur shoe!! then u can move on and find someone who will treat u amazingly!! good luck
2007-07-03 14:44:26
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answered by jennybean7985 5
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Honey, He's not worth it. I know it's very hard, but you must be patient. You will find a guy when the time is right. If you are sure it's this guy you want, play hard to get for a while. Don't ask him to call you and don't seem interested for a while and see what happens. He wouldn't treat you badly if he truly loved you.
2007-07-03 14:49:04
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answered by Anonymous
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If you want him back drop your pride and call him. The way you described things was confusing. It seemed one minute like he was perfect and the next minute like you were a booty call. But lets look at the facts he was the one calling you. He may think that you don't care seeing as how you didn't pic up or return his calls. But mainly it sounds like you were being used.
2007-07-03 14:41:42
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answered by Anonymous
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If he has a house in manhattan and the hampton.. he must have several ladies after him.. theres no reason for him to settle down.. he can have a different young blonde anyday... sorry.. you need to move on.. he can feel you trying to tie him down.... he has tooo many options...
2007-07-03 14:47:14
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answered by Anonymous
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