I haven't outed myself at work yet because I really don't think it is anyone's business. I work with a woman who has something to say about gay people every day and I am at my wit's end. I'm ready to just leave, I don't need the stress in my life. My problem is I don't want to give two weeks notice because I'm pretty much going to out myself when I quit and I don't want to deal with her nasty remarks. Is that wrong?
2007-07-03 07:21:31 · 19 answers · asked by Lost 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
Sadly, some persons choose to identify themselves as Jehovah's Witnesses when they have done little or nothing to actual follow the beliefs of this Christian religion. For example, Jehovah's Witnesses are almost constantly reminded that there is no place for unkind and insulting remarks, and such remarks can work to bring reproach upon God and Christ.
Ironically, Jehovah's Witnesses are quite unique among self-described Christians in that they understand the bible to teach that heterosexual fornication is just as sinful as homosexual fornication. The bible mentions the two "serious sins" together again and again, and in fact the single term "fornication" describes either.
The bible plainly teaches that some formerly practicing homosexuals are among the 'kings and priests' ruling alongside Jesus in heaven. No actual Jehovah's Witness would ever demonstrate homophobia or work to insult homosexuals.
Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/e/20000622/
2007-07-05 02:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although negative remarks about race, sexual orientation, and other such things are not allowed in the workplace, the reality is that they happen. If you chose that lifestyle, that is your business, but like everything else, someone will have something to say about it. It's not just gay, it's almost anything that you do. You need to just let it roll off your shoulder and go on about your business. I am a Christian and do not agree with being gay, but I am also smart enough to know that the workplace is not the time to debate the issue. Like I said, just don't pay any mind to it, you got more important things to worry about at work, and you can't please all the people all the time.
2007-07-03 11:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by swcasper2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, whether or not you are "out" is not an issue. You don't need to come out to your employer or fellow employees. It is your own personal business and really doesn't have a place in the office. Just as discussions about who someone is dating, or what their personal relationships are or are not happening. It is your choice whether or not to bring up that issue at work.
As far as you co-worker goes, their behaviour is not ok what so ever. You never know what people's sensitivities are, and you don't know what is offensive to whom. You need to make a complaint to your H.R. representative that you do not appreciate the comments and content of what they are saying. You don't have to give a long explanation why you don't like it, you just don't like it and they should not be making those kinds of comments in the office any ways.
Good luck!
2007-07-03 11:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by hr4me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up a bit, and tell her the truth of what you are and that you don't appreciate her remarks.
Though I don't support your choice and lifestyle, she is out of line with her comments and having them said at work. Not very professional at all. You should lodge a complaint with the supervisor.
But of course - I think the underlying situation is that you want to quit and you have singled this lady out and her probably one or two remarks to use as an excuse so you don't have to do a two week notice.
You probably have it in your head that if you can't get Unemployment after you quit, you will try suing the company over this. You will lose.
2007-07-03 07:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Mike Frisbee 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's called sexual orientation discrimination and is a no-no in the workplace. Report her to human resources immediately. Leaving your job is not a wise thing to do, and this co-worker needs to learn the laws of the workplace.
2007-07-03 07:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should report her, I'm a Witness myself and while we don't approve of homosexuality. It is wrong of her to force her opinion on you especially if it makes you uncomfortable. You might even try talking to her.
2007-07-05 21:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by Brent R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are being treated badly or you feel uncomfortable than u need to leave or talk to her about how you feel. There is nothing wrong with leaving if you are not ok with the comments she makes daily!!
2007-07-04 19:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by Legitwork2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give you two weeks and bow out gracefully, if it's no one's business then don't make it everyone's business. She is inappropriate for saying anything about your sexual orientation but don't judge all Jehovah's Witnesses on one ignorant person.
2007-07-03 07:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by Pssssh Whatever 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to keep her negativity to herself. Let her know you only wanna be around positive people and if she keeps up with this attitude you don't want to converse with her anymore.
You shouldn't have to give up anything to make yourself happy. Of course, I'm saying stay legal.
good luck
2007-07-03 07:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by Highbeam 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should report her to the HR department. You don't have to come out, just say it offends you.
If you just leave the ramifications will probably be worse for you than if you stay.
2007-07-03 07:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by Sean 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋