please help me any body
he drinks alot and smokes weed all tha time
with his friends idk hat else tod o .
2007-07-03 07:18:54 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
How about break up with the loser and find a good boyfriend who isn't going to work at mcdonalds when hes 30
You can't change anyone who doenst want to change
2007-07-03 07:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's 17.. I did similar things at that age (I'll just keep it at that - wouldn't want to ruin my chances as president later)... when you get to college everyone will do things that you might look down upon - including drugs (Iceman said it right)... This is a phase and can't really predict any future outcome such as a job or income bracket. As long as he is a good boyfriend and isn't habitually abusing the drugs/booze 24/7, it might be ok to let him experiment. He can use drugs or he can abuse drugs, have an open mind but look out for him... maybe just tell him how you feel.
2007-07-03 07:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Ty McC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure of the last sentence, so you may be too high from second-hand smoke. Here's the facts: explain to him that you don't like it and ask him if he is willing to stop. If not, then you should leave him. No good relationship was ever built on one person changing another, so you may do better just to move on. Did you know that weed is the most safe drug there is (including alcohol, aspirin, prescription drugs and all illegal drugs)? So take a puff and relax.
2007-07-03 07:22:38 · answer #3 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do would be to leave him. I am assuming you are young as well and you have your whole life ahead of you. Please dont waste your youth being with someone who is a pothead and underage drinker. Obviously this guys friends are into it as well so if you try to change him, it wont do any good if his friends are still doing these things.
The most you can do is tell him you hate that he smokes and drinks and you are concerned about his well being. Give him an ultimatum. Tell him if he doesnt quit, you'll leave him. If he doesnt care, then that is not a relationship that you want in your life anyway. Good luck =) ...
2007-07-03 07:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by oOo GINA oOo x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he doesn't quit or scale back you will break up with him. It sounds harsh, and it might seem difficult for you or him to accept, but it's the right thing to do if you feel him doing those things are wrong.
It sounds like he does it a lot, and if he is doing something morally unacceptable to you, you have the right to nix the relationship...you'd be in the right. Above all, however, stick to your word. If he needs councilling, help him get it. If he continues, or stops then starts...leave him and stick to your words; otherwise he'll think your word is worthless.
Good luck,
Joe
2007-07-03 09:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by radiodxrichmond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he doesn't quit, you're going to turn him into the cops! You don't need a boyfriend who is doing illegal things! I know it's difficult to quit loving someone, even if they do things you don't like! You don't want to further this relationship because it will lead to disaster! If he continues his behavior, he'll end up getting himself into a lot of trouble! You need a boyfriend who is concerned about his health, being a law abiding citizen and making something of himself! Think about it this way:
When you become a mom, will you want your sweet, precious daughter to end up with a guy like your boyfriend?
If you continue to be his girlfriend and hang around him and his juvenile deliquent friends, the more chances there are of you getting involved in the lifestyle you now view as wrong.
Take it from me! I oughta know! Been there and done that and now, at age 49, I'm living a life filled with regret!
You can't MAKE him stop! You can encourage him to stop by giving him ultimatums. If he choses the alcohol and smoke over you, don't take it personally.
If you believe in Jesus, you can pray with all your might and ask Him to help you with this problem.
You know what he is doing is wrong. Find a new boyfriend who you can be proud of and who shares the same views and morals that you do!
You are young and have the chance to make important decisions and choices for your life. Don't let him drag you down into that lifestyle. You'll end up being depressed and feeling bad about yourself!
Birds of a feather flock together! What sort of bird are you? Do you want to soar with eagles or hang out at the dump with the sea gulls?
It is all up to you.
2007-07-03 07:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say it, but you can't change a person, no matter how much you love them. You can give him an ultimatum, quit or we're breaking up. But if he doesn't want to give up his lifestyle, he won't. And you shouldn't put up with it. It sounds like his habits are more important than YOU. Always look out for YOU.
2007-07-03 07:26:49 · answer #7 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he can make the effort to live a healthier lifestyle.
I used to drink and smoke weed, but since I stopped, I feel a lot better.
2007-07-03 07:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 17.
Mst people do that at his age. And just wait until college.. everyone does.
Leave him, or deal with it. You cant change a 17 year old guy.
2007-07-03 07:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him do anything. You can tell him how you feel about it, but if he isn't willing to stop doing it, there's nothing you can do besides decide if you're willing to put up with it or not.
2007-07-03 07:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by missstevi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋