how to cope with a death?

Question

i am not after sympathy just wondered if anyone could tell me how to cope with a loss i have just found out my grandad has died and i feel so numb and its killin me as i am 75 miles away from my family and got no one to talk to

thankyou all for answering my question i really appreciate it

can i choose you all as my best answer lol

Answer 1

I am so sorry about your grandfather. Mine passed away in 2001 and he was the first family member that I had ever lost. He was also my heart. I still love him so much and always will. His death was unexpected and I just remember sitting in my house feeling so heavy and numb. I would cry for a while and then just sit around and look into space. There really is nothing that I can tell you that would have made me feel better when I was in your position. All that I can say is that people do care about you and this will get better in time. God Bless!

Answer 2

Dealing with something like that is probably one of the hardest things ever, as I lost my dad at a very young age. But learning to cope with it sooner than later is the best bet. Stay close with your family even tho they are far away... Tell stories about the good times and the times that made you laugh... This is something that will never go away but with time it will get a little bit easier. Write down your feelings if you aren't ready to share them and put them away in a desk, that way you can get them off your chest but always come back to them... And last but not least there are always people out there that you can talk too, but the most important thing is to do it when you are ready...

Good luck, and stay strong... You will be just fine

Answer 3

I think that one of the hardest aspects of a loved ones death is never having had the final chance to say or do what you always needed to.

You will go through several stages of grief. One of them is anger toward them for leaving you. You never need to feel guilty. It happened to your grandpa and it will happen to all of us.

Don't block the pain, but don't feed it either. My grandma has been gone since 1980, my dad went in 1995. I still miss them both. Somehow the bad things that happened aren't as memorable as the fun times and good conversations.

Bond with some other family members like cousins, siblings, parents, aunts and uncles. Tell favorite stories about grandpa or write some down. Talk with friends who have lost someone they loved. You won't feel so alone. You will understand that the feelings you have are normal.

There are also support groups and books. Below is a link from the internet. It is a writing from a girl after her grandpa's death. My heart goes out to you.

http://www.beyondindigo.com/articles/article.php/artID/300687

Answer 4

Oh death, this is a hard one. Everybody handles it differently. And everyone heals at their own pace. Can you call or email family members that are grieving also. I found whenever I suffered from a loss it really helped to have others around. Can you go home for a few days?

Answer 5

Get out some photos of your grandad and think of all those happy times you shared, if you've got no photos just remember those fun times and have a good cry, an early night and maybe talk with your parents.

Hope this helps x

Answer 6

I'm so sorry to hear that. The thing is, All People Die after awhile and it's a hard truth we've all got to accept. Appreciate your grandad for all he has done for you. Dun regret not seeing him for the last time. I'm sure he doesn't want you to see him die anyway. He lives in your heart forever. It's perfectly normal to feel numb, I dint even cry when both my grandparents passed away. People die all the time.

Answer 7

The death of someone can leave loved ones numb,
people handle grief differently
this means it may not affect you immediately
or it will hit you hard
judging by your question you were attached to your
grand dad. I guess I could say one doesn't realize
this until a relative or friend or pet dies. Take care my friend.

Answer 8

I'm very sorry to hear that. My sympathies go out to you. There's no right or wrong way to cope...whatever gets you through is right for you. Personally, I just like to listen to music that makes me think of the person I miss, and cry my eyes out till it's all done.

Answer 9

When you loose someone close it is painful. I know. Try & remember all the good times you had with your grandfather & look at his picture if you have one with you....if not picture him in your mind....talk to him....he'll hear you...tell him you love him & that you will always have him in your heart. Tell him that he is in his final resting place & that he has gone home. Cherious the memories. My heart goes out to you. Time heals the broken heart you are experiencing right now. Just know that he is in a better place.

Answer 10

I'm so sorry. My Grampy was my first death experience also. He tried to reassure me that there was no need to be afraid but I was too afraid to realize why he came to me in spiririt. Just now, I understand. It was to share this truth with you. Here is a sadder place to be than there. Sometimes... depends on your beliefs. Believe in your grandfather's love and you'll have no need to be afraid. even if u feel like Hell.