My Girlfriend is a christian, and doesn't beleive in sex before marriage. I am fine with this until last night when she was drunk she told me I could put it up her "other hole". Is this allowed in Chistianity? Also, I have spoke to her about it since, and she seemed quite embarrased, however did say to me again that it was ok to do that. Should i take her up on her offer considering that i am not religeous?
SHE HAS SAID IT AGAIN SOBER... .but more embarrased. Also, i dont plan on marrying her, but do want to spend the rest of my life with her. I am very tempted.....
2007-07-03 06:51:30 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
But unless you try, you'll never know right??? Also, does anyone know of a good quality lubricant?
2007-07-03 06:55:52 · update #1
I dont want to marry her as i am not religious and dont want to be hipocritical like most people in the world....
2007-07-03 06:59:10 · update #2
Go for it. If she is fine with it (sober) the enjoy!
2007-07-03 06:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Matt - 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think your girlfriend seriously needs to reconsider what she has said, as I don't believe she understands the consequences. And to put it politely - your 'other hole' was not made for having sex - there's a reason why it's called sodomy and not sex.
I think that maybe you need to explore the possibilities of enjoying foreplay together. That way you can both get something out of it without going all the way and having sex. As I think your girlfriend will regret making her remark about 'the other hole' if you do go through with it.
2007-07-03 08:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by beausbreeches 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all props to you for your concern. That's very honorable of you. =)
Don't do it. Everyone gets tempted with things and Christians are no exception. But if she does, she'll regret it. Don't be the one to put her through that.Think about it if she's embarrassed just by talking about it, imagine if she actually did it. She would be far more embarrassed, feel guilty and it most likely will even drive her away from you. Totally not worth it.
If you really care about her, you'll want her to have the best, and the best thing for her is to be able to have all of that with her husband. If you do want to be her husband and get to that point, it will be more than worth the wait for you both. But if you don't want to marry her, then don't take that away from her. If you really love her, you will help her to wait and resist the temptation.
I'm a Christian female too, and I know first hand what it means to only have been with my husband. It's one of the best experiences in my life. I wouldn't trade it for the world. Please don't take that opportunity away from her. If anything help her get there too.
Many blessings.
2007-07-03 07:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by Consuming Fire 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with nice _girl a sexual relationship meant to within the marriage bed, if you have no intention of marrying this girl then hands off. Sex is a God given blessing between husband and wife and should not be perverted. The "other hole" is an exit not an entrance.
2007-07-03 10:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by Chaplain 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. You can have civil ceremonies, so you can marry without being a hypocrite.
2. Does she know your feelings about marriage?... it may change her point of view... so it would only be fair to tell her.
3.Sodomy is not permitted in the bible... So if you have any respect for her I suggest you tell her this.
4.An idea... myself and my partner have been together 17yrs, we do not wish to marry, but he brought me an eternity ring to symbolise that we are together for the long haul!!
Be gentle with her... the other orifice can cause alot of pain, which, considering her beliefs, may leave her feeling used!
2007-07-03 07:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by :~Debbz~: 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your girlfriend is confused. She should abstain from all forms of sex to fulfill what the Bible says.
Her bigger problem is her relationship with you. If she is a Christian why is she getting drunk and open to anal sex? Why is she with you a non-believer?
These things she needs to deal with before professing Christ as her Lord and friend. It sounds as if she does not really know Him!
2007-07-03 06:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by M and M 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Unless your Bill Clinton, sex is sex. Since she is not, that would be sex outside of marriage and not approved by the Church. Why would you want to be spend the rest of your life with her, without the hope of intimacy.
2007-07-03 06:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on spending the rest of your life with her, than you SHOULD marry her.
Sex is sex - if you're doing ANY kind of sexual activity, it qualifies as premarital sex. What you two do is between you and God, but don't lie to yourselves and say anal is not sex. She should understand that.
2007-07-03 06:58:06 · answer #8 · answered by sleepy 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
...'Scuse me, but I think your story is poorly concocted and not believable at all. I really doubt that you have a girlfriend at all. You have way too much time on your hands to sit at the computer and make up this kind of crude stuff. Your story really ought to embarrass you.
...Instead of trying to put us on, why don't you get off the computer and get a job or give yourself to other worthwhile pursuits; then maybe one day you'll really get a girlfriend.
...What do you say?
2007-07-03 07:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by carson123 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You want to spend the rest of your life with her.
You don't want to marry her.
She does not want sex without marriage.
Therefore you will have a life without sex.
On the subject of anal sex, why not if you both agree. KY jelly, Durex or many lubricants sold in sex shops would all work fine.
2007-07-03 07:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by John B 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2014-09-27 22:14:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋