Why can't I get a date?

Question

Forget a girlfriend I have not had a date in 2 years and I am a virgin. I don't really think I am good looking so I guess that could be it but I don't really know. In the past when I ask out a girl it would only last maybe a week or 2 and I feel they went out with me because they felt sorry for me. I have more confidence now then I did in high school but still laking. I don't have too many problems with talking to girls anymore, but I still get nervous and don't know what to really say if I like a girl.
Is it because I am not good looking or just a lack of confidence, that I can't get a girlfriend? Oh yeah I am 19.

"That would be a question for Dr. Phil"
LMAF maybe but please don't post just to post.

Answer 1

hmm, well i dont think it's that you're not good looking. i do think that it could have to do w/ur lack of confidence though. if u dont think that u look good @ all, then ur definitley not gonna atract attention from the ladies. the way 2 get our attention is 2 flirt and show that u R confident, but not arrogent. girlz luv compliments, and we luv 2 b told that we're pretty and gorgeous and all that jazz, but u have 2 b confident enuf w/urself 1st. we're not really gonna believe that u seriously think that we're really beautiful, if u rnt confident that the relationship is only working bcause we feel bad 4 u, bcause that NOT true. u may think ur a nerd, or not gr8 looking, but thats wut my bf thinks. and i think that he is the most sexy, wonderful, gr8 person in the entire freakin world. there is a very very special gurl out there, who is gonna luv u 4 U, not 4 ur looks. looks do help, granted, but she's gonna c past ur looks, and c that u r a really wonderful gr8 person. u just gotta show her. and w/luving urselg enuf 2 show her urself, u will get more confident, and ull stop caring about how hot u r or wutevr guyz say. she's gonna luv u anywyz. so screw weather or not ur the most gorgeous thing 2 hit the planet. she will luv u 4 u. hope this helps!

Answer 2

Its a lack of confidence and they way your putting yourself down, it can come across in your conversation. Relax, learn to accept compliments. Take time to ask meaningful questions to women and try not to be so nervous. A lot of women are not just looking for the celebrity looks, they are looking for a real man who can romance them, have passion and keep their attention and mostly to have a good listener and converstationist. Your status of being a virgin is not a hinderance, a lot of women may feel that it is a challenge to see who can get to you first after all she will feel as though she is the teacher and she can assist you to mastering what she needs. So don't let that be a flashing sign either. Check out what you're wearing and know what you are able to bring into a relationship and don't sweat the small stuff, there is someone out there for you.

Answer 3

Your biggest problem is your confidence. You said it yourself you don't think your good looking. You got to think like this everyone is good looking so someone. When it comes to girls its not really about looks. Its about confidence, being funny and having a good personality. That doesnt mean girls don't care about looks. But if you have confidence with a great personality girls will usually won't care how you look. What you need to do is starting thinking positive and your confidence will start showing and that will attract girls. Your making this complicated.

Answer 4

im single pringle had a damaged chilhood and everyone likes my friends but never me......im 17 nearly 18
You will find someone im sure you will...Someone will come along and like you for who you are...you have a whole life ahead of you (tht what my friend tel me!!!doesnt really help - sorry)
- Confidence is a big issue for most people, and you will fall deep in love with someone.
- Just try to be yourself and talk to them like normal,the flirt factor will naturally come into the comvosation there is no stopping it.
- No one ever thinks of themselves as good looking, but from your picture i have seen LOTS worse. confidence grows with time and being a virgin is the least of your worries, makes the first time really special when it happens (if it is with the right person)
Good luck....keep up the confidence.

Answer 5

If a girl doesn't like you for who you are, she's not worth your time. A girl should like you just the way you are inside AND out. You can work on the confidence. Just be yourself, I'm sure there is a girl that would love to be with you.

Answer 6

I can't say for sure, but it most likely is neither a lack of confidence or your looks. Relationships take time to develop fully. It is possible that the girls you are asking out are just to shallow to take the time and like short flings vs. meaningful relationships. Hope things work out for you and good luck!

Answer 7

ya dont look bad... must be confidence, or a good piccy... lol what ever, boys are good confident, but not too, or they are show offs and big heads. If you see someone you like, don't just ask them out... Find a reason to chat, then don't go staight for a date, just a wanna meet up some time kinda thing :D good luck lol.

Answer 8

You've just gotta have patience bro... I'm turning 20 this month, and haven't had a date in 3 years. Read this article though... It'll make you feel a little better because it's so true.

http://www.stwing.upenn.edu/~jenf/writing/rant04.html

Answer 9

That would be a question for Dr. Phil

Answer 10

Justin i think that you are a very good lookin guy. you don't have a problem it's the girls they must be blind if they don't think that you are good lookin.just be yourself and if they don't like what they see well the hell with them.