What should i do?

Question

well...here goes. my ex and i have been apart now for about 2 months. we broke up, but we still went to the prom. i haven't heard from him since up until the other day. the problem isn't that i'm just hearing from him...the problem comes in here. we were supposed to be on a "break", but within 2 days he was already talking to other girls on the phone. i was so upset about this. it took a while for me to get over it, but i eventually moved on with someone new a couple weeks ago. he great. ok...here's the other problem...i still love my ex and he wants to get back together. i love my ex, but i feel a connection with my now. what should i do? should i take a chance and give my ex another try or should i take a chance and move on to the next?

Answer 1

This exact same problem happened to me. My boyfriend at the time said he "needed to have a break", "some time apart". And this is going to sound harsh, but 99% of the time- what that really means is that he's got someone else he's interested in, for the time being- and when he's done with the other girl..............that's when he decided to want to get back together with me.

This happened about 10 times thru our 4 year relationship.

I finally caught on, and realized he was having his cake, and eating it too- using the excuse of "needing a break".

During our "last break", I had met someone, just like you did. And it was a wonderful relief..........I mean- it was nice being with someone and liking someone who's gonna be there for me..............and not keep leaving, then coming back. It's hard on your heart. So I suggest you stay with your new guy and give him a chance, cause it wouldn't be fair for him that you step out on him, just cause you're ex is done being on "break".

Answer 2

Do you really love your ex or were you just comfortable? As crazy as this sounds try this out. Take 2 pieces of paper. On one write your Ex's name and list the good things, and bad things. On the other paper, do the same with your Now guys name on it. Who ever has more good points and less bad points wins. Honestly though, if you truly loved your ex, you will never forget him. Years from now you will sit back wondering what he is doing now. You need to move on with your life though. You had a "break" for a reason. Think of why you had the break and see if it is worth it. This new guy may be the one and I'd hate to see you lose that. Good Luck, let me know how it works out.

Answer 3

You've got to think back to when you where dating your ex, what caused you two to split? Is he really worth a second chance? Or you can stick with your new boyfriend, which may be best, only if you care about him more. If your still in love with your ex, then don't continue dating the new guy, it would hurt him to know you have deeper feelings for someone else. Take some time to think about who's better. You eventually need to talk to both of them, the one you choose, you need to tell him how you feel. Reassure him that you want to be with him. Good luck!

Answer 4

You have to follow your heart. You are the only one that knows the REAL reason why you and your ex didnt work out in the first place. And he might be looking to get back w/u just b/c ur with some1 else. Most of the time the past is the past for a reason and it needs to be left in the past. You have to always want to move >>>forward in your life. Taking steps back will get you no where. But some times we take steps back to learn a hard lesson. But if your moved on...why not keep on moving and teach him a lesson. Good luck!

Answer 5

This is a tough one. You really need to have a serious conversation with your ex about what he wants. Is he going to get back together only to need another break? And what caused you to need a break in the first place? If that issue hasn't been cleared up, then you're just asking for trouble.

You just really need to search your own heart on this one. I don't think it's a question anyone can answer but you.

Is going back to your ex worth the chance, or will it be better to start over with someone new? Talk to your ex, find out his motives behind wanting to get together. You will find your answer.

Answer 6

I think it sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too to be honest. Now it hasn't worked with the other girls, he expects you to drop what you're doing and have him back. If I were you, I'd explain to him that you're trying to move on and that you have a new special person in your life now. If this applies, then you could tell him that he was your first love and there will always be a place in your heart for him as your first love, but now you're at a new place in your life and want to give your new bloke a chance. Good luck xx

Answer 7

Your ex sees that you have moved on and thinks that he has lost you and realized that he shouldn't have broken up with you. You should see where the current relationship can go because you never know what can blossom from it and you don't want to be asking what if for the rest of your life. Leave the past in the past and move forward.

Good luck!!

Answer 8

people use the word "break" so that they can get away from the person easier or let them down easier. If someone wants to be with you, they don't want to take a break. Don't be naive, the behavior is right there, he doesn't want to be with you and wants to be with other girls. Open your eyes.

Answer 9

Let your ex be your ex. He had a chance and he blew it. Continue with your now.

Answer 10

girl you are in a tight spot if took that small amout of time to find another girl
then maybe he didnt love you as much as he let on.