I had an arguement with a guy... he has feelings for me and I have feelings for him.... he was angry at me and said not to text or email him anymore... I wrote him an email yesterday saying Im really sorry but I havent heard from him... does he need time? its only been a day... should I call him? Im a bit scared to call him ... maybe if I do that he blows me off and that would really hurt me... will he respond to my email?
2007-07-03 05:55:35 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some hold grudges longer than others.
2007-07-11 03:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending on what you did. Apologizing is not some type of free card that wipes the slate clean. You have to show/act like you mean it, and even then, there are things that can't be forgiven. In some cases people need time to get over what ever you did, and if he is telling you that he needs a little time, he probably means it.
In the meantime, don't bother him too much. Maybe send a short SMS: thought about us when doing this (went to movie, had breakfast, ...) today. If you guys like each other, he will start missing you.
Also, if you really did something bad, you should worry more about his feelings that just selfishly worry about rejection. On the other hand, if it was something minor, just ignore him and let him get over it on his own.
2007-07-11 03:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We guys are funny and sometimes prove stranger than fiction, well, so do gals. We 're all living in a strange world and that's why we're all strangers! I see no reason why he should ignore your apology, perhaps he needs time, perhaps not, but do know that guys are powered by a supernatural 'gasoline' called ego, the more you launch out your sorry state to him, the more the increase in his 'gasoline' But one thing remains, if he truly loves you, he will call back, just give him some time, a day is rather short, and remember to downplay on assumptions and irrational conclusions, he probably is reverring in his inflated ego still being buoyed by your launch which further confirms your love for him.
2007-07-03 06:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by T. Boy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men go into "the cave" when they need to iron things out. There is a sign above it saying "working it out, come back later."
This is in stark contrast to women who'll usually talk things out.
That, my dear is the male/female conflict.
I'd say give him like 2 days, and send an email, or text. Don't call yet. Leave the ball in his court. If he feels he's not being chased down, he'll call you, and hopefully things can work out. This is not guaranteed though.
I have a temper, and this is how I'd want my woman to approach me.
2007-07-03 06:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by Benjamin W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when were angry we say things that we really don't mean to say.Now,i really don't know what kind of argument you two had(if it's really that worst or not)but in any argument i don't think there's no way to fix things up.Sometimes sorry isn't the hardest word to say(that's why sometimes a person won't believe or give a d*** even if you say it a thousand times) but anyway, if it's straight from your heart im sure he can feel and tell that.
If you two have that mutual feelings then you shouldn't worry much.
2007-07-03 06:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by thes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mary,
Have some self-respect. Stop contacting him.
You make yourself look desperate for his attention, plus, the time you spend pining after him, you could be missing out on a great guy who is watching you from a safe distance.
Pull off the band-aid right now. The pain will go away much quicker, than if you draw this thing out.
2007-07-11 05:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by yoak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what made him so angry as to dismiss you out of his life. I say give him time if it wasn't that serious of a problem, if it was serious, you may need to move on b/c all it takes for a man to turn off of a woman is one time, he'll never forgive as we do, like I said, ie: if it's serious. The most you can do from your side if he doesn't want to talk is sincerely apologize for your actions and move on, if he wants you back, he'll come around. But, then again, that's Just My View!
2007-07-03 06:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to call or emial or text him. leave him alone, give him space, if he is already mad you will just make him more mad and he might think your a stalker .. let him cool down, if you havent heard anything in few weeks, then try. Also it depends what you did to make him angry.. if you did something really bad then wait longer
2007-07-03 06:01:06 · answer #8 · answered by erica b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say just give him some time, Its gonna hurt you if he doesnt call but if u call too much and hes mad it might make things worse... So wait it out at least 3 days before u do anything I suggest..
2007-07-03 05:59:45 · answer #9 · answered by Pierre C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to calm down. with u emailing him and calling him will make him get even more angry. let him blow off steam. dont do anything else. if u dont hear from him this weekend call him sunday night.
2007-07-11 05:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by ..::..Lovin him..::.. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys in general? No...THIS guy? Perhaps. You can't make blanket statements about all males or all females.
If you want to talk to this guy, then try to talk to him. If he does give you the brush off then you aren't any worse off than you are now...but t least you'll know he's still upset and after that you can leave it up to him to contact you (if he desires).
2007-07-03 06:00:56 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋