I am currently taking correspondence courses, and it takes an average of 3-4 months to earn a full credit. When people in my family ask me how my courses are going, I tell them about this, and they say it's bad timing, and I should complete the course in 1 month instead of 3. Even my teachers at school told me that my pace is excellent, because if I do it quicker, I won't produce a good product in the end. I have received a credit in 1 month before, and I got 75% in the entire course, but for the ones that take me 3-4 months, I get 90s, which I prefer. They (my teachers) told me not to sacrifice my marks, and they told me to keep doing it at my pace. What should I do about my family? Sometimes I just feel like I'm not good enough for them.
2007-07-03 05:52:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Everyone learns at their own pace and what's best for your family members may not be best for you. Continue to do what you're doing. If you sometimes feel you're not good enough for them, stop yourself and ask if you're good enough for you. That's all that matters.
When your family members ask you how your courses are going, tell them they're going just fine, thank you and leave it at that. You don't have to go into detail about what your doing or how long you're taking to do it. That is your personal business and doesn't have to be shared unless you choose to do so. Your family probably thinks they're being helpful and don't realize that their comments are putting pressure on you. If you explain that to them and they continue to make similar comments, just change the subject any time they ask you about your work and refuse to discuss it.
2007-07-03 06:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hun I have the same problem. My sister is the genius of the family, she does alot of community service and she got schollarships. In fact she got so many schollarships that she doesnt have to pay for the hole year. My parents are always saying how good she is at everything and that shes a excellent person(wich she is). When it comes to picking my classes im taking all AP except for math. My parents dont think i can take it but i want to. My sister is my idol, my role model and im gonna have to work hard so i can accieve. Do you get what I mean? basicly im saying, do your best and your family can't ask for anymore. Sometimes think, " If they were in my shoes, how would they do" i often find myself saying that and the answer is always " They wouln't do half as good as I am doing"
2007-07-03 06:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue doing what you are doing..Your family should see that you are doing what is best for your future..and not just the moment. Don't worry about them..If they really make you feel that way..you don't have to stick around when you are old enough to be on your own..If you are old enough now...you shouldn't even be asking this;)
2007-07-03 05:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by KJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you need to do things for your self unless you are forever going to be wondering and worrying about pleasing everyone else in your life. From now on when ever someone asks you about your classes (or anything else that is personal) unless they are paying for it just tell them that everything is going great thanks for the interest and then change the subject. It is no ones business unless you let it be!!
2007-07-03 05:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They aren't making you feel that way, you are letting them. Only you can control your emotions, they can't do that for you. Quit blaming them and find some self-respect.
2007-07-03 05:55:56 · answer #5 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ignore them & do your best, don't listen to anyone do what you think is good for you
2007-07-03 06:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋