2007-07-03 05:49:06 · 35 answers · asked by Johnny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you don't just go up to a girl and say 'i'd like to be your friend' coz that's weird. You should say hi, start a conversation and let it go on from there
I got 3 thumbs down coz i posted by accident before I finished what I was saying, not because my advice is wrong.
2007-07-03 05:50:54 · answer #1 · answered by jewl 32 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think if you ask it just like that "hey will you be my friend" it may freak people out. It's kind of weird.
I think if you go up and just say hey, and ask maybe if she would like to get a cup of coffee with you or something that may be better. At least that way she knows you are interested.
If you are a guy and you are just looking for girls to have as friends, I'm not sure what to tell you.
Now I don't mean that all you should be wanting is to get in her pants. I don't mean that at all. Just be a gentleman about it. Some people are shy. I would just go up and say "hey, would you like to maybe go grab a cup of coffee with me or something"? Then introduce yourself. If the cup of coffee goes well then ask if you can call her later.
Just going up and saying "hi, can I be your friend" will seem a bit weird I think.
Just my $.63 (increased due to inflation and the cost of living)
:-)
2007-07-03 05:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by David L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, because you don't want to be her friend, you want to be her b/f so you are misleading her, and if you do become friends you will want to turn it into something else someday after she has told you all the things she wouldn't want you to know if she had a romantic interest in you. you can't even ask a girl out, don't think you got enough skills to turn a friend into a g/f. it's a lot tougher than you think and usually doesn't work.
showing interest without showing interest is a tough thing but people do it every day. if she has no interest in you, your ego will recover. the more times you do it, the less it will affect you.
you will learn what not to do.
2007-07-03 05:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are playing around.
If you are serious, then thats weird.
I would never take a guy serious in this case. Cuz you didnt even get the time to get to know me and find out what you like about me. And if its looks that caught your attention, well, its normal, everyone becomes attracted to someone by appearance first. But then its when you get to know them, not just go into a relationship practically blindfolded.
2007-07-03 05:56:49 · answer #4 · answered by tata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't go up to a stranger and "ask" them to be your friend. You introduce yourself, and then go from there, as in seeing if you BOTH wants to spend some time together.
Your going about this as if one can "manufacture" a relationship. Nothing could be further from the truth.
If you act clingy, desperate, etc, she'll see that coming a mile away...
2007-07-03 05:53:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a girl : ) and I think, no.... I know that if you do REALLY just wanna be friends I think it is a fabulous idea...
On the other hand if friendship is truly not your only intention then dont fake it...
in other words girls and women are very intuative and if she thinks your acting like you wanna be friends to only get in her pants....
you wont have a friend because it will piss her off that you lied
and you never know, she may want to get in your pants too...lol
NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF TRUTH : )
2007-07-03 05:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by Amy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all. Maybe ask her if she wants to go see a movie or go to the mall first just in case she finds it a little weird you coming up to her right away and asking her to be your friend. Good luck
2007-07-03 05:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by i'm god 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the direct approach isn't the best aproach.
I would find that creepy personally.
If you don't know her, why do you want to be her friend? Do you share a class? Do you work in the same building? Find something you have in common and work from there.
2007-07-03 06:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by Absinthy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you jump off and ask her to be your friend, introduce yourself first! that way she may know your not a crazy person but a friendly guy! then once she sees that your a nice guy then ask her to be friends or go on a date!
p.s.- it's not a bad thing (but what can i say...i'm a guy too)
2007-07-03 05:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by parkerr65139 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not bad, but it's odd. If you don't know her then how could you possibly know if she's suitable friend material?
Typically our friends are our friends because we got to know them and thus like and trust them. A stranger cannot be our friend right off, any more than someone can set their eyes on another person and fall "in love".
2007-07-03 05:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no its not a bad thing bu most girls will find it quite sceary its not everyday that a guy come's up to you and goes can we be friends isit? bu dw if she freeks out and runs away then its her loss not yours ok? so dont feel down if som1 rejects your friendship your probably too good of a friend for her ;-) good luck xxxxxx
2007-07-03 05:55:23 · answer #11 · answered by girl_rocker92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋