My boss has asked me to take care of her mother (elderly, w/ alsheimers) before, and I have done it. Well she was just gabbing at her husband on the phone about what to do with her mother this weekend, and who could take care of her. This conversation took place where I could not help but hear, unless I were to leave my desk. Do you think she was thowing hints? I really don't wanna do it. Not this weekend. I am totally wiped out, and have to plan for vacation next week.
2007-07-03 05:17:52 · 8 answers · asked by Shelly P. Tofu, E.M.T. 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
to the last person.. I did not take any offense, but I should mention that I have in the past worked as a certified Nurse's Assistant, in a nursing home, no less.
Also I forgot to mention, she does pay me when I watch her mother.
2007-07-03 08:34:09 · update #1
If she was throwing hints, she shouldn't expect to get anywhere. I would ignore it until she confronts you. If she asks, politely say you have other plans. You have a right to say no. Even if she is your boss. Your weekend is YOUR time.
2007-07-03 05:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you are a very caring person, but I frankly feel uncomfortable with the issue of your employer leaving an elderly person with special needs with (and please don't take this the wrong way) a person who is not a qualified health careworker. What if this elderly lady became (more )confused and walked out of the house, or fell, or required medical treatment?
2007-07-03 15:09:22 · answer #2 · answered by bethanne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very giving person to have done this in the past. Most people wouldn't.
Just tell her that it is not convenient as you have plans.
She should not be putting you on the spot like this anyway.
2007-07-03 12:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to care for yoru boss' mother, regardless of whether you have plans or not. If she asks you, just say, I'm sorry, but I have plans. You don't need to explain what those plans are.
2007-07-03 12:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ignore the hints. If you are asked directly, simply say, "I am sorry, not this weekend!"
You do not owe an explanation so don't give one.
It is really none of her business what you are doing this weekend.
2007-07-03 14:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by Goddess of Laundry 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Life is a wheel and what we give of ourselves in this life to help others will be given back to us twice fold... (in this life or in the next)
2007-07-04 15:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by Captgoody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to ask you to do somthing she can ask you directly. you are not her personal assistant and doing stuff like that is sort of manipulative. if you respond to that, you'll be feeding into it and she'll come to EXPECT you to kiss her a&# in the future.
just wait til she confronts you, but think of your excuse now...
2007-07-03 12:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't say anything until she says something to you.
Then say "sorry but I have plans".
2007-07-03 12:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋