yesterday. My finace` LOVED that dog.... oh and she just became my fiance on sunday evening..... should I get another one to help her forget about Ron (our dog)? Or should I let time heal her? She was talking about getting a mutt from the pound so that Ron would have a buddy about a year ago. I loved him, too, so it wouldn't be just for her.
2007-07-03 05:08:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Dogs
You know what the easiest way to solve this dilemma is? Talk to her. If you're this worried, she'll clear it up without the possibility of her getting hurt.
Congrats on the engagement!
2007-07-03 05:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I actually just went through this about 4 months ago. My finace` already had a mutt when I moved in with her a yr ago with my now 4 yr old German Shepherd. Her mutt was 14 yrs old now, and a few months ago, she started acting strange, wasn't as active as she had been, wasn't eating, and was snapping at us. I took her to the vet and he said she was really sick. We decided to put her to sleep and not let her suffer. We went out that afternoon and got a new puppy. The reasoning is that you can never replace a pet, but if you sit there and "heal" all you will do is think about all the good times. We still think about the mutt from time to time, but she now has a 8 month old German Shepherd that follows her around and helps her when she starts to think about the other one. I have found that it is harder to get a dog the longer you wait. And also, it is actually men that are worst about it when it comes to a dog passing away
2007-07-03 16:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by boleen03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all I want to say congratulations, second I would not get another dog right away.... let the pain heal first and then get another dog..You might pick another dog with a jumbled head if you know what I mean. Did you think about getting another German Shepherd instead of a mutt from the pound? Good luck with your dog hunt and sorry for you loss.
2007-07-03 05:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry for you loss. Give her and yourself some time to grieve. Getting another pet will not help someone get over or forget the one you lost so be patient with her and yourself. You have actually lost a family member so it will take time. Then, after a while, if you still want, go and adopt two dogs from the animal shelter in honor of Ron. If you get an animal so quick, it won't be fair to that animal because you will compare it with Ron in everything it does and it should deserve the opportunity to be loved for itself.
2007-07-03 05:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Catlover 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I lost my beloved Damien in December of '06. Your fiance will let you know when she is ready for a new addition. She will never forget about Ron and no dog will ever replace Ron. Support her and love her as she goes through the painful grieving process.
Time does heal the sharp ache of losing a loved one, but she'll always have a place in her heart for Ron. I'm sure Ron would be honored that she open her heart and home to a canine in need when she is ready.
2007-07-03 06:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by michelle h 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry that your dog died. It can be so painful to loose a beloved dog.
Give both of you a little time to heal and then think about adopting a German Shepherd from a rescue group. They are so in need of a good home, you can usually get a dog that is already housetrained. I have three German Shepherds from a rescue group and would never again get a puppy.
2007-07-03 05:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by zoenicekitty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should wait at least a couple of months before getting another dog. You can't just replace a beloved animal, but if you give yourselves time to really work through the grief process properly, you can heal enough to be able to love another dog someday. I think your fiancee would think you were being insensitive, though, if you just ran out and got a new dog today, even though you have good intentions.
2007-07-03 05:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so very sorry to hear about your dog!! God bless Ron!! I wish you guys the best of luck! But, I would suggest taking time to heal, you really do not want to rush the greaving process! That really needs to happen and at its own pace. Plus, you don't want to get a new dog and not be able to give it all the proper attention and love that it deserves because, you might be overtaken by sadness sometimes. It wouldn't be fair to the new dog who deserves all of your undivided attention!! Good luck to you and any and all future pets!!
and God Bless Ron!! RIP
2007-07-03 05:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by RGD69 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is very sad and I send much sympathy. You know you can't replace a best friend. Let time help heal the wounds and when you're both ready go to the pound and rescue a dog. Be sure not to say "replace" because that dog cannot be replaced, can he?
2007-07-03 05:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Obvious 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's too soon to go out and get a new dog, but that's just my opinion. Talk to your Fiance' and see if she wants to go to the shelter and look at the dogs. Don't feel like you have to find a "replacement' right away. You need time to mourn. A pet can be just like any other family member. Take your time.
2007-07-03 05:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by floridacrain 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've had two dogs die... after the first one died, I was in 5th grade and my mom had me wait a year. That one year was hell. Once I finally convinced my mom to get a dog, a cute puppy was up for adoption. Two weeks after we had the puppy, she died. This time, I couldn't stand to wait. So we went out to look for dogs that would be suitable and now I proudly own two. From my experience, I recommend getting a new dog soon to help get your mind off the old one that faithfully died. :( Sorry for your loss.
2007-07-03 05:27:01 · answer #11 · answered by joey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋