I live in an apt cmplx and have for 4 years. a new tenant moved in under me and another tenant in the next building. I go to school and work part time, and I never hang out, so I almost never come outside except to get into my car to leave and take out my trash. but when i do c ppl i speak. One day after about 6 months after they moved in, I saw the new downstairs neighbor, and the new next building neighbor hanging out side. As I walked to my car, I spoke to them, and instead of them speaking back, they turned up their lip at me and rolled their eyes. I never spoke again. For months after that, I started noticing that they would stare at me, rolling their eyes. Then about 3 wks ago, I went to check my mailbx, and saw where the downstairs neighbor wrote on MY a/c unit "monica wuz here, and I hate bitc@#s" So Itold the landlord, and she did nothing. Y is this? I tried 2 be friendly. Is it bcuz i don't hang out and im working toward getting away from the envi. and they are not?
2007-07-03 04:18:53 · 12 answers · asked by lwomar 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
for those who may ask "how do I know that they don't do much" is because they are always outside from the time I leave for school (8a.m.) till about ( 9p.m.) and all the times in between. They are ALWAYS outside with their children, always. They only go inside to sleep, they even eat outside. I went over the landlord to talk to the actual property manager, and he did nothing, and the first thing the police tells me to do is tell the landlord since nothing physical has happened. I don't want to be physical since I have two children, and don't want to set a bad example for my children. but Im tired of the stares, and the indirect/direct comments. I tried doing things the right way, and It didn't work, so now i'm like "okay whatever happens, happens." I can't move right now. Ive been living here for 4 years and have never had a problem w/ anyone until they moved in. What can I do?
2007-07-03 04:27:37 · update #1
its because they are immature, your trying to do something with your life and they think your stuck up because u dont have time to hang, but really its they have way too much time on their hands and need to do something with themselves. if the landlord doesnt do anything, go to the cops, they will take care of the situation, until then, dont move just because you have dumb neighbors who are judging u without even knowing u, keep on doing what your doing and be happy, im sure u have plenty other friends, who needs them, right?
2007-07-03 04:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by baby_love_marybeth 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because the AC thing is vandalism, take pictures and make a police report. You don't have to press charges, but make the report and keep a copy. This is just in case the landlord tries to hold you responsible for any kind of damages. Do the same for anything else that happens, but if anything is stolen or you get hurt, go beyond the report and press charges.
As for the rest of it, you can't change what they think of you or how they treat you, so ignore them. They are jealous, immature, and probably complete trash. They are not worth your time worrying about.
2007-07-03 11:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They have judged you unfaily. for that, you have become the focus of their hatefullness and cluelessness about you. Jsut keep on with you. You can't fix the prejudgement they have of you by smiling, and it doesn't seem like these neighbors really would care anyway. I would take pictures of the damage that was done and keep records of your telling the landlord as self protection when and if you do move out. If these people cause more damage, keep notes and records, call the police, file a report, tell the landlord again. The landlord as a reasonable responsiblity to do something about this. The landlord can't turn a blind eye on damage being done. If your landlord still refuses, contact your local housing athority to see what else can be done for your safety (if the neighbors behaviors do excel and become worse or threatening). Good Luck.
2007-07-03 11:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What do the other tenants say? Do you have some friends (tenants there) who could find out what's going on? Sounds like a misunderstanding. Once I was "in trouble" with my neighbors because they hadn't seen me wearing a wedding ring. Once I was "in trouble" because I was seen with someone's husband and the gossippers didn't know the wife is my friend and we were working on a project for her. Who knows what your neighbors are thinking?
2007-07-03 11:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you are away you really actually do NOT know if they are outside "all the time" unless you have a webcam set up to follow them around.
Either ignore them, or move.
How do you KNOW for sure that they wrote that graffiti on your a/c unit? Just because it happened coincidentally after they moved in does not mean that it is them that did it, even if one of their names is "monica" does not mean it is them. So you really don't know for sure.
Sorry to hear that they are not great neighbors though.
2007-07-03 12:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont get along with all of my neighbors either. I just pretend like I dont see them, and thats it. I wouldnt get so paranoid just because they wrote on the a/c unit. You reported it to your landlord, what more can you do.
2007-07-03 13:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm like you. I like to keep to myself where I live too. I hate listening to all the oh poor me stories about how sick they are and how hard their life is. I swear the world is filled with pity whores. Don't move until you can afford it. The best way to get back at people like that is not to get mad. If they insist on bothering you, hire someone to beat the hell out of them.
2007-07-03 11:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mister Bald 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have the police do a vandle report about the box so there is a record of this person bothering you and inform the landlord that you have done this he is also responable for keeping you safe at home
2007-07-03 11:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't move just because of some idiot! lol I am the same way towards people, a lot of people think I am snobby and stuck up because I keep to myself. I prefer it that way over having to deal with people's drama all the time. Just don't let it get to you.
2007-07-03 11:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by Goodbye 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Do your kids play with theirs? Maybe you could organise a little neighbourly get together(potluck) and maybe they will try to get to know you and realise you arent so bad. Or you could just be direct and walk up to them and ask them what their problem is and talk it out like adults. they could just be bored with their own lives and want to make you miserable cause you are better than them.
2007-07-03 11:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋