My boyfriend died in Dec. and now I am extremely depressed. Sure there are other reasons that I am depressed besides that but now I have nowhere to go. I ran away a couple days ago (following advice of some other people) and am now living with my friends family in NYC. They are concerned about be "well-being" and are sending me to some "group meeting" for people with the same problems as me. I need to find a way to appear happy so I don't have to go. Should I go anyway or figure it out on my own?
2007-07-03 03:44:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why do you want to appear happy when you are not? If you don't deal with your greive over the loss of your boyfreind now it will come back later, and will be harder to deal with. Stay with the group. you don't have to talk if you don't want to but listening to others going through this can be very helpful. If you truley don't care for that group youcan ask the folks you are staying with to help you find another form of greive counceling. There are also many good books on this subject, check the library or check on-line. The most important thing is to not try to handle all this alone. I speak from my own experiance, I lost my husband when my daughter was 8 and I had to do the best to help her though her greive while dealing with my own greive..Good luck
2007-07-03 03:57:44 · answer #1 · answered by Gayle L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking two contradictory questions here:
How do I move on?
How do I look happy so I don't have to go?
The best answer to the first question makes the second question irrelevant. You should go! In fact, not only should you go the group meeting, you should ALSO get some face-to-face time with an individual grief counselor. You need all the help you can get. Running way and trying to figure it out on your own is just going to prolong the pain and hurt you MORE. Your deceased boyfriend would want you to be happy. Your family and friends, too. Don't hurt yourself and them by going this alone. That is what friends and counselors and group meetings are for.
I wish you the best of luck. It is a difficult thing that you are going through. You shouldn't have to do it alone, though. Take as much help as you can get!
2007-07-03 03:57:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been thought the worst possible scenario - having someone you love die on you. Group therapy will be a piece of cake compared to that. If you don't go, you are basically saying you want to wallow in your misery and not get better.
Rejoice that you have people who care about you. Be open to getting and feeling better!
2007-07-03 03:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the group you need to talk to someone in your area who can give you serious answers to your very serious and very specific questions. Let your friends parents know all of what is going on otherwise how can they help you?
2007-07-03 06:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by grizzliesgurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the meeting, by only pretending to be happy you are cheating yourself out of a chance to be truly happy. remember no one can help you if you don't help yourself first.
2007-07-03 04:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by asguard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋