How should I act when my boyfriend breaks his neck to look at other girls...?

Question

Cute i must say... the girls that my boyfriend breaks his neck to see. My question is should i be mad ?.... because this is a regular thing.... or should i suspect him of a possible CHEATER? give me your opinion...

Disrespectful it is.... but sometimes i am like yeah she is.... but the more and more it goes on i feel like ****..... its always that perfect girl... but i feel like if i let him go i would be a wreck... he is like my best friend ... etc.
I try the looking at HOT guys but ..... they dont even compare to my man.. 75% of the time ... If i say something then i feel like i am showing insecurities... :(

Answer 1

Give him a dose of his own medicine, see how long it takes for him to change

Answer 2

What size do you think a 34-y.o. should be? Are you saying he's overweight? Because that will certainly put a damper on his sexual performance, if you know what I mean. Sex every day is probably a high expectation for a guy over 30 anyway. I agree, if he's eyeballing other women all the time but acting all jealous/suspicious and control-freaky toward you, that will only get worse, not better, without some counseling and commitment to change. If I was in your shoes the engagement would be on hold pending the outcome of relationship counseling.

Answer 3

It doesn't mean he is a cheater. He is going to look whether you notice or not...unfortunately. I believe the way he is doing it is disrepectful, but everybody looks. It doesn't mean he finds you less attractive or that hes sleeping with anyone else. Just ask him if he could look at them in a not so obvious way. If he cant manage to do that, and it bothers you enough, then you should find someone else.

I would not do what other people suggest by doing it back to him. Trying to one up each other only builds resentment in the long run. Good relationships aren't built on revenge...they are built on talking to one another like adults.

Answer 4

Silent treatment ought to do the trick :-P

Judging by the responses, I can tell that some women would rather get revenge and hurt him instead of calmly talking about it...

I can't exactly say cheating as he hasn't technically done anything, and you have no proof of it. But looking at other girls is a no-no.

But a man's eyes will wander faster than his brain can react to it. Its all just a physical thing, not like he's emotionally involved with them. But you people are all lying if you say you've never so much as looked at another person while you had a significant other. My thing is, I've maybe glanced at anotehr girl, but that's about it. Not only that, I can't really look at any girl without thinking of my gf at the time.

Golden Rule: Look but don't touch...

GFrog82: Two wrongs don't make a right. All she has to do is explain to him that she doesn't like him looking at other women.

Answer 5

It's unreasonable for a woman to expect a man to never see or look at other women, but you don't sound like you are that full of crap. You make it sound like he does this all the time, even when he has an arm around you.

One of two things: he's a dog and will chase any girl he has a chance with, or, he knows it makes you jealous and finds that you are at your best when you are a little jealous and a little unsure of yourself.

Answer 6

Hunnie,

Ditch the eye piece. First of all he is showing disrespect. If he respected you he would not look at other women in front of you.

Second a man that shows obvious interest in other women is just that. HE IS INTERESTED IN WOMEN BESIDES YOU. What does that sentence mean to you.

I had a boyfriend that did that to me and he ended up cheating on me. His excuse "I wanted to experience other women"

You'll know when you have found the right man for you. They are out there. When a man is 100% about you, you are the woman he watches walk by, not her.

Answer 7

kind of disrespectful to you if you've already voiced your displeasure or discomfort. he should be more tactful, quick glances that go undetected by you but not a whole bunch of ogling. just because a guy looks doesn't mean he's a potential cheater. talk it out with the guy. if he continues, then move on to the next guy.

Answer 8

You should do the same thing when a fine guy walks by and you are with your man. When he gets mad say, "Hey, everybody's doing it" and then tell him that it bothers you when he does it and that its not fair if he does it and gets mad at you when you do it. Communication is the key to a successful relationship and he isn't psychic so he doesn't know if it bothers you unless you tell him.

Good luck!!

Answer 9

It depends on how often he looks around and to whom. If he looks at the same girl everytime, then it might be possible that he is cheating. If you guys are making out and he suddenly turns his head to look at someone, that's not a good sign. Try talking to him and tell him that it bothers you when he looks around at other gils when you, his own girlfriend is actually standing next to him.

Answer 10

Have you never looked at another guy? It's what we all do. Next time he does that, make a joke "here, hon, let me wipe that drool off for you" lets him know you are noticing without it becoming on issue right away.

Now if he is also whistling or saying something to her, then thats completely different.

Answer 11

You should talk to him about it and let him know how it makes you feel. If you do not like it, ask him to show you respect, when looking at other girls. Let him know that Its okay to look just, dont break your neck looking.