I love him so much I know that I am not with him any more but I want to keepp him in my life. Ok let me start from the begining I broke up with my boyfriend and he moved on with the woman that was there all alone a mistress i migth say. She moved in with him after some problems with her parents. She signed for his car and now they are together. He was at first telling me that he was happy with the sitution and we should be friends because we do love eachother. Now he is saying that he is coming back I know that I want him back deep down inside but I also know that most likely he wont change. Every time I tell him to stopo callng me he wont and I cant help but to answer the phone. I really love him and know that sometimes you go through things to make the relationship stronger but should I stick by him through this? People lets be real dont just answer the general answers be real everyone has stood by someone that has did them wrong so is this something I should try for ?
2007-07-03 03:31:56 · 11 answers · asked by classiclady 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get over it. suck it up why don't cha? you wanna be the side piece instead? you want to relegate yourself being the jump off? smh...
2007-07-03 03:35:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you want him because you really truly like him? Or do you just want him because someone else has him. Especially since he was with this woman while you guys were together? I think that deep down you are just trying to prove to yourself that you can have him. You need to do some soul searching. Plus, lets say you got back together. Can you really trust him? He's had a chick on the side the entire time you were together. Can you really believe that he has changed.
One true way to know if he is serious is this. He says he doesn't want to be with the new girl. If this is true then it should not matter whether you take him back or not. If he doesn't want her, then she would be gone. If he has not gotten rid of her then I would be very wary of anything he says.
2007-07-03 10:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first go on a vacation! Even a mini one. Go with your close gal pals. Tell them to help you get your mind back to being you, and to help you to stop thinking about him.
Do some thing really really fun to get your mind back on your head. When you come back, you will feel like yourself before this relationship, and be solid on your morals, priorities, and instints, ..etc. Then ask yourself if you want the relationship back, with all the problems that come with it. Trust the very first instint that pops in your head, and that is your true feelings. This works for me every single time. I eventually act on what I truely want. I do it for every important decision in my life. It works. The only person that can truely know what the right thing to do,.... is YOU! Trust your instints
2007-07-03 10:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to see a doctor about your missing spine. Then go to a therapist and find your missing self-confidence. Why are you being a doormat for this guy? He doesn't deserve it and has done nothing to earn it. Do you like being treated badly? Does it give you a thrill? Do you keep after him because you like being the victim, having attention by people wanting to comfort you, and being able to walk around sighing and crying all the time?
2007-07-03 10:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i stood by a man i loved for way too long. it was the definition of unconditional love, or stupidity. everytime we worked it out, he'd find a way to f*** me over again, worse everytime. eventually i moved out of the state to keep myself away from him, because i knew i'd go back again if he asked... it's not worth it. they suck the life out of you and it's only once you move on that you realize how much you've missed out on being hung up on them.
2007-07-03 10:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decided if you can forgive him and move on with him if that's what you want. It doesn't matter what everybody else thinks.
2007-07-03 10:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by the_monamayfair 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people also know when there being used, do you...
2007-07-03 10:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by Greg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater allways a cheater move on dont be stupid
2007-07-03 10:37:39 · answer #8 · answered by STEVEN L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should move on with your life and let him go
2007-07-03 10:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will find another mistress and dump you again...
2007-07-03 10:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋