Why am I always caught up in situations like THIS?

Question

I told my girlfriend I wanted to talk face 2 face so we could discuss our problems. she kept asking me when so I finally told her a time then she says what are we gonna talk about becuz she thinks its pointless. I said fine forget about it. then she says lets act like we never went out. I said ok then she said she sees thats how i wanted it 2 be(blaming me). I said i cant force u 2 stay ur mind is made up. she says she's feels good without a man and i tell her im glad she's happy. an older lady told me she was testing me to see how much i care about her and that she'll call back in a few days.she said if she doesnt call in a few days that i should call and apologize because she's probly waiting.she said if i dont call she'll think i dont care or im with another girl. i disagree because she's the one who called it off and if i apologize she will think that she can do things like this anytime she wants and i'll always come running back. i luv this girl, wut should i do? should i call?

Answer 1

You haven't explained what your "problems" are so that we answering people can understand the weight of them. However if your lady friend can't find the time for a face to face discussion then it sounds as though she doesn't need for things to work out between you.
Although you love her it doesn't sound very positive from your description of the circumstances so I'd leave her be. Don't call.

Answer 2

All women are not like that. She is obviously insecure and controlling. I know you love the girl, but guess what? You can fall out of love and fall in love with someone better with a little time. I suggest you wait. You seem like a mature enough person, and you are right. SHE broke it off. Give her a week, and if she wants to get back she'll call you, and you can go from there. If not, then too bad for her. Her loss. Drop it. Don't talk to her. Move on. Just keep yourself busy, hang out with your friends, and give yourself some time. You'll get over her, and when you do, you can go find someone a little more mature. It'll hurt awhile, but the payback is worth it. I think you showed some class by wanting to discuss this with her face-to-face. If she does not have that kind of maturity, then you're better off without her.

That's my stand. Maybe I'm wrong, but I've been happily married for seven years. I must know something!

Answer 3

If she doesn't call, which I think she will, then call her. But DON'T appologize to her. If you have to apologize, then apologize for things not working out. Let her know that you care enough to keep trying but she is going to have to meet you half way. You cannot do it alone. You two need to sit down and talk about the problems and work on them. Just talking about them isn't going to get anything done, you have to act on them as well.

Answer 4

The older lady is right. She is testing you. Though you may not agree with her methods, is it really that hard for you to give in. Call her and tell her how much she means to you. Obviously she doesn't get this enough.

Answer 5

You could call her and try to be friends with her - if you are having issues it is best to talk through them but - dont waste your energy on someone that isn't giving you what you need and deserve from the friendship

Answer 6

hi...perhaps the girl just isn't interested in seeing anyone right now?

if she IS testing you, she is playing games... do you want someone who plays games or who is real and can talk about issues and try to solve them or come to a compromise?

if it were me, i'd start dating other people. i'd figure if she wanted to talk to me or see me, she woudl call ME.

don't let her use you as a plaything. she sounds like a little biznitch.

Answer 7

just talk. Dont set a time or date, just talk about what shes doing wrong, and what your doing wrong.

Answer 8

find someone else