What's the best way to keep my boyfriend overseas happy?

Question

He has been deployed since april and his deplyment is at risk of being extended...how do i help him with his home-sickness

right now there is a 14 hour time difference so we are both up almost all night so we have more time together...jis deployment has been tough on me more than i immagined....i cry almost evey time i communicate with him and he hates me crying whether i am happy or sad....he is on the computer texting my phone as often as possible but it is still so hard...emotionally i am not sure i can be as strong as i have been much longer...he was deployed the day after he was supposed to start grad school and when he gets home he is going to pursue that while i graduate and then start working on my pre-med degree....sometimes i just need a hug but he cant give it to me...we keep entertained when we talk and our relationship is as strong as ever...are other ppl going through this too? if you want to you can IM me my sn is kimberlylovespink52 .... thanks

Answer 1

Write to him often, talk to him, give him a little present to remind him of you.

Answer 2

Im in the same situation.. my boyfriend is over seas too on his second deployment. :/ All you can really do is talk to him as much as possible... send him pictures of yourself in places that you two have spent time together.. it'll help him remember how he felt when he was there with you and make him feel better. Send him care packages of things he likes.. like food or something of yours that he can have with him while he's there.. like a shirt.. teedy bear.. a little bottle of your perfume...or whatever else you can think of. And just be there for him when he needs you, thats all you can really do. I know that it is hard.. believe me.. this is the second deployment that i have had to go through.. its not easy. but i have so much respect for you for waiting for your man, because many girls dont. So just stay strong.. and do what you can :) It will be so worth the wait when you finally get to be in his arms again :] Good Luck!

Answer 3

dont worry...you're not the only one going through this. but i think you are doing an excellent job along with your mate by working hard to keep you relationship in play. the only advice that i can give you is for you to send him some sexy nude photos of yourself, maybe even a video. try to keep the sparks flying while he's away. so that way when you two are reunited once more you'll both give each other somethings that could never b e forgotten. good luck and i wish you the best.

Answer 4

I've been in your situation. The best advice I can offer is; send care packages filled with things he likes, and things that will remind him of how loved and thought of he is. Make a CD of his favorite songs. Make a CD of songs that remind you of him and label it as such. Cards ... send lots of cards. And don't forget letters telling him about what you are up to. Also, send lots of pictures - of you, his family, everything that he misses. Another idea: Take an old shirt of yours and make a pillow out of it for him. Spray some of your favorite perfume on it, (or inside on the stuffing) so every time he lays down, he smells you. I had even once sent a silly package, to my guy, filled with squirt guns of all sizes, a beach ball, a bucket and shovel, and silly putty.

I hope this has helped some. :)

Answer 5

Keep a stiff upper lip. Tell him about the people he knows and cares about, keep him up on the gossip, let him know how much everyone misses him. I would probably avoid stories of all the fun things you are doing. No I went to this party yesterday. Talk about future plans for the two of you when he gets home.
Most important, let him tell you how he feels without him having to worry about stressing you out.
You need to be the cheerful one.

Answer 6

Send him things he can only get in America. It will help with the homesickness and if you send extra will make him a fan of his friends over there. A lot of the guys share if they have extra. Extra battery packs if he can have portable video games. If he is in a area where he can have computer access, a web cam, you can send him lots of video mail. Keep it clean, you bet he is gonna want to show off his sweety to the other guys. And write, write , write!

Answer 7

im deployed right now. write him everyday either email or by letter. send him packages and never cheat on him or even let him think that you would. as long as he knows everthing is fine at home it will keep him safe over here. stay with him tell him you love him and dont leave him.

Answer 8

talk and write as often as you can, send him care packages with some things he can't get there. talk to him about home and what's going on here. nothing bad though. you need to help keep his spirits up. don't ask him about what's going on over there, whhen and if he wants to talk about it he'll bring it up. he'd probably much rather talk about the good happenings back home.

Answer 9

call him, write him letters, just let him know you miss him and you want him home. send him pictures, care packages, love notes. let him know you love him and care about him and that everything's going to be allright. let him know about everything thats going on so he feels like he isnt missing anything. get messages from his friends. just make him feel like he's right there at home. best of luck.

Answer 10

SWEETIE I KNOW HOW HARD IT IS ON YOU AND ON HIM!
WHEN YOU TALK TO HIM TELL HIM ABOUT THE NEWS AROUND TOWN... STICK WITH GOOD NEWS AND TELL HIM WHAT YOU ARE DOING ON A DAILY BASIS... PLAN FOR HIS HOMCOMMING AND TELL HIM ABOUT YOUR PLANS. TELL HIM ABOUT FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND WHAT ALL OF THEM ARE UP TO.... CREATE A SUPPORT GROUP IN YOUR AREA AND HAVE REGULAR MEETINGS AND TELL HIM ABOUT IT! HE WILL LOVE YOU EVEN MORE FOR THAT ONE!
JUST TELL HIM EVERY GOOD DETAIL AND IT KIND OF MAKES THEM FEEL AS THOUGH THEY ARE HOME....
GOOD LUCK TO THE BOTH OF YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU BOTH! TELL ;YOUR BOYFRIEND I THANK HIM WITH ALL MY HEART FOR HIS FIGHTING FOR OUR COUNTRY!
SOUNDS LIKE A REALLY GREAT GUY! HANG IN THERE HE WILL BE HOME SOON AND IF YA NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO JUST DROP ME A LINE OR TWO... MAKE SURE YOU MENTION THIS SITE OR I WILL NOT OPEN THE MAIL....
GOD BLESS
ROBIN IN NC