Is forty -- five years of being single an insult ?

Question

I'm forty -- five years old, and I've never been married . I feel insulted and offended that not one of the women I've known has wanted me to be her husband . Am I wrong for feeling this way ? If I shouldn't feel this way, why not ? Why is it wrong ? I don't have what it takes to be single . The single life is a big fat zero ! If Jimmy Jerk and Andy the Abuser won't let themselves be unattached, why should I ? I hate being single .

Answer 1

Jimmy Jerk and Andy the panda are wrong.
Do what you want in life and don't let anyone else tell you what to do .
If you wanted to be married already you would have "Settled" down.
"settled" as in lowering your standards.
I'm sure there is something out there for you.. but it might not be perfect
good luck!

Answer 2

No, its not an insult. You just haven't found the right woman. Its better to wait for the right person then to marry the 1st gal to come along only to wind up divorced 5 years later. My friend is running into the same thing, she is 36 and wants to be married but hasn't found the right guy. At least you are not female and having to worry about your biological clock. Try online dating, it has worked for a lot of people. Good luck, I'm sure the right woman is out there for you. In the mean time focus on yourself so when you meet the right woman you will be ready.

Answer 3

Have you asked any of them to marry you? and maybe you are trying too hard - if you approach your relationship right from the beginning wanting marriage - you will scare a girl away, not because she does not want to be married to you, but because USUALLY, guys only act that way to get you in the beginning, but they do not really mean it. so girls figure you are just like every other guy trying to get them in bed and not sincere. If that is not what is happening???? are you nice, considerate, treat them well, employed????/

Answer 4

well if you've been single for this long you probably are just a person that should date alot or just be single and deal with it. you can go exploring the world. and you always have guy friends to hand out with and watch sunday night futball(don't you) and maybey they could introduce you to some one your age, but don't try to date anybody under 45(please.) it doesn't work.

Answer 5

that is a problem, allot of people never get married(or are only married for a few months) and live happy lives, some people don't get married until their 60. if you are a nice guy you will most likely find someone who likes you enough to marry you

Answer 6

All i can say is that some are lucky in love and some aren't. Just start anew and travel somewhere for awhile and forget the world.

Answer 7

well maybe your picking the wrong girls to date and stuff,
and im sure there is someone out there who wants you, maybe you just don't realize it.

I myself would never tell a man that i wanted to marry him,
i would w8 to see if he wanted to marry me..

Being single doesn't have to be such a bad thing,
you can go out whenever, do whatever, with whoever.

but you really should try to find the RIGHT girl for yourself since it really bugs you to be single.
plz dont rush into marriage, bec going through a divorce isn't much fun!

She'll come to you.

Good Luck!

<3
-Chinaz

Answer 8

Perhaps the women know you are too needy. You need to be comfortable with you before you drag someone else into your life.

Answer 9

well being attached aint all its cracked up to be either. i am attached - never been married. i wonder the same thing about myself. im apparently good enough for something - just not marriage? hhhmm

Answer 10

Stay positive, your match will come to you. Be patient. Take it one day at a time.