Is his mother odd?

Question

It was our 1st anniversary and she didn't even phone us to wish us an anniversary. My family sent cards, phone calls, my parents had us over. I constantly find his family distant and uncaring. Should it be normal for me not to expect a phone call on our anniversary from his mother?

Answer 1

having expectations of others is a set up for a big LET DOWN.

some people (me, for instance) don't recognize the anniversaries of others... however, i do remember birthdays and other occasions.

i don't see where his mother fits into the equasion... it's YOUR anniversary, not hers.

enjoy YOUR anniversary with your husband. it's YOURS to enjoy, after all...

i wish you many years of happiness.

Answer 2

Since you are newly married you will probably learn a lot of new things to expect or not to expect from his family, and apparently your anniversary is of no consequence to them, but at least you have your family to share in the happiness with. Obviously you shouldn't expect too much of his family and then you won't be disappointed. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

Give her the benefit of the doubt, maybe she accidently forgot, just because they seem distant and uncaring does not mean they really are, maybe they feel the same way about you, not every family is touchy feely by nature, you are fortunate that yours are, try to communicate with your Mom in law, deep down she's probabally very nice maybe just has trouble breaking the ice. Don't make your husband mad by badmouthing his mom or his family to him or anyone else unless you want to loose him in the long run. Remember "blood is thicker then water" and they are his blood.

Answer 4

Well... My future MIL is like that. We got engaged in December, and we have talked to her maybe 5 times since, and she was here visiting for the engagement. If I were you, I just wouldnt expect much out of her. I know its sad, but some families are just like that. You have to ask your hubby if this is the way she has always been, and learn to take her like a grain of salt. My MIL sends gifts to my daughter 3 weeks late for b-days, christmas, Easter and V-day, and has NEVER sent us anything. But when we didnt call her on her b-day until 10 at night, she threw a fit and didnt talk to my fiance for 3 months. Everything always has to be about her, and my fiance is just used to it, but it used to bother me. My parents sound more like yours. Like I said You have to take this woman with a grain of salt. Dont expect too much. :)

Answer 5

Some people are just like that. Don't take it personally and get upset.
My hubby NEVER sends cards for anything. I have to send them if they need sending and I forget a lot of times. It isn't done to upset people, it's just a bad memory not working again. I have to write everything on the calendar to make sure I get it done.

Answer 6

It might just be his family. *Shrug* Sometimes people don't really remember things like that because it is more of special date between you and him, not others really. I know my parents always call though, and do cute things for us, even for my dog's birthday, haha. His parents still haven't even visited our house, after many invites. The only time his mother really calls is to make sure I'm feeding him. *Rolls eyes* Yeah, you could have her for a mother-in-law. Be thankful. =)

Answer 7

An anniversary is personal don't worry about it. Hope you had fun.

Answer 8

Some people are pretty much wrapped up in themselves for whatever reason, and you can't expect much from them. His mother may be undemonstrative. She may also have just forgotten. Don't let it bother you so much. She is what she is.

Answer 9

No if they're distant & Uncaring people don't bother, let it go, & you keep your distant as well

Answer 10

Was marriage used as an excuse to completely severe ties with his relations?