For the past week, my bf and I have been spending some time apart due to the fact that he "doesn't want to be in a relationship right now and that he needs his space". We still love and care for each other very much but he has some issues that he needs to work out. For about the past two weeks, we had no contact with each other. When asked why hadn't we talked and he said that he knew that I would try to persuade him to get back with me which isn't the case. I told him that if there's a possibility that we may get back together then it would only be right that we communicate with each other at least on a friendship level. He then said that if we do talk to each other on a friendship level, he's going to want to do things that friends don't do (and you know what that is). I know that it would burn him to know that I was sleeping with someone else just as I know it would burn me. Since we first talked about this, not once has he brought up sex but we communicate more.
HELP!!!!!
2007-07-03 03:08:13 · 16 answers · asked by alexis_luvada 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to have sex with him when I have the urges to but sometimes I don't. Honestly, part of the reason why we aren't together as of the moment is because he lost a parent recently and he just shut everyone out, including me and his friends. This week was the first time in weeks that people have heard from him.
I know that if I resisted sex from him, he'd have no issues with it and would respect my choice.
2007-07-03 03:19:01 · update #1
There’s a difference between a regular guy, and a decent guy. A regular guy treats you like a beautiful flower, one that smells nice, and is very attractive and desirable. A decent guy will treat you like a princess, and obey as he interacts with you. Remember, the princess will one day rule, a flower wilts and dies.
Tell him your needs and desires and ask him if he is going to fulfill them or not.
2007-07-03 03:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by davew/ad 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That wouldn't be the best choice to make. You should wait until you two are back together and let him know that you are not going to sleep with anyone that you are not in a relationship with. That will show him that you respect yourself enough not to do it, even with him. Also, it may push him to work on those issues he is having.
2007-07-03 10:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not ok to still have sex then you're never going to get back together he not gone care cause he getting two in one he not in a relationship and he still getting some and then if ya'll did get back together then he's not going to care if ya'll break up again because he already know that ya'll still gone be having sex he's a man not a women you know they think way different then us we're emotionally attached and their physically attached
2007-07-03 10:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by : )Baby( : 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend and i were like for 3 months, but because it was a forbidden love situation. we acted as if we were going out but we couldnt. we hung out secretly and saw each other secretly. but we didnt have sex because it would have felt awkward and i knew i would be ashamed of it. the best thing to do is repect him , and give it time because time is sometimes the best way to go. he'll appreciate that more and it will avoid arguements. good luck.
oh and if a guy says "he needs his space" or "or needs to think things out" it most likely means he is done, not from experience but from male nature. but maybe he's different.
2007-07-03 10:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it if you want to, but that is not really 'taking a break.'
If you want him to come back to you as a boyfriend make him realize that he is missing the 'whole package' by not being your boyfriend. Otherwise he just gets his physical needs attended too without the effort of maintaining a full relationship, i.e. friends with benefits.
2007-07-03 10:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He dosn't love and care for you, he just dumped you. This whole "space" thing is so he doesn't have to hear you scream and cry and have hurt feelings. You know he's sleeping with someone else. Guys don't dump their girlfriends unless they do something really upsetting or they already have another girl on the side.
2007-07-03 10:12:52 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he wants some space and doesn't want to be in a relationship, doesn't that say he doesn't want sex either? Just wait until he's ready to get back together.
2007-07-03 10:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by SmileyFace 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would try and refrain from having sex with him. I mean why get back together if he can have just have it without the relationship.
2007-07-03 10:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lynnae_1969 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he wants to sleep around to me but if you want to sleep with him go ahead there is nothing wrong with two adult friends doing that. but if he does sleep with someone else think of how that would afect you to know he was sleeping with you too. good luck make your own decison but i would try to move on.
2007-07-03 10:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't. sex releases endorphins and chemicals in your brain that you can mistakenly interpret as love. if you two are trying to work out what your true feelings for eachother are, i'd keep sex out of it.
2007-07-03 10:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋