He's almost 16, and I'm sure his buddies are drinking already. He came to me and asked if it's ok that he drinks at my house for the first time. He wants to try it around me so he can get use to it I guess. Maybe he just wants to be in a safe place when he tries it for the first time. I dont know what to do. I had waited until I was 21 to drink, but clearly he doesnt want to wait. What should I do?
2007-07-03 03:03:40 · 16 answers · asked by lolarusty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
let your parents in on the delimma so it doesn't cause a family squabble and convince them that it's obvious he's going to do it and therefore it's better if he does it with family to protect him. once, as long as you all set the boundries for him loud and clear.
my son did the same thing.
my daughter was drinking at her friends' house long before I ever knew it. She just turned 18 and I'm so relieved not to have to be held responsible for her actions anymore!
it's not fun to find out this stuff is going on behind your back. They will be much better off as a family; keeping this stuff out in the open.
2007-07-03 03:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by smartkid37138 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The average person starts drinking at about 13 nowadays (For real I watched a thing on CNN about it). I am not saying that you should contribute to the delinquincy of minors, but know that he came to you, and that he will find another unsafe place to get it, if you dont help him, BUT.... Its still not right. Just tell him, If you are going to drink, PLEASE be careful, and dont drive, and also let him know that what he is asking you, could possibly get YOU in trouble. Good luck.
2007-07-03 10:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. 26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is to young to be drinking and you shouldn't contribute to this need of him drinking. Explain to him the price he will have to pay if he mishandles his drinking. If he insist on drinking at his age, he would have to do it somewhere else. Keep letting him know you don't approve of this and stick to your guns. You are the older one, don't you be talk into something you maybe sorry for later. Just say NO.
2007-07-03 10:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would let him know that ita a 2 beer limit ,that he stays there and that will be the only time it will happen.that it will be only him,no friends.then give him all the reasons he should wait.that if hes caught even at someones house that the oldest person there is arrested,will have a police record and he(your brother) will go on probation.if he thinks its still ok to go party,then he knows thechances hell be taking with his future.
2007-07-03 10:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad that he came to you and did not do it while out riding or driving around. Get him drunk enough to where he vomits and has a hangover, maybe that will stop him from drinking again.
2007-07-03 10:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 16 isn't that young so give him a taste. i had my first taste of alcohol at 14 and it was nasty i never drunk beer again that was 5 yrs ago so hey your brother may not like it and never drink it again like me so i say give him a taste and hopefully he won't like it but if you don't give him none he'll never stop wanting it and it may cause him to obsess over getting it and that can lead to alcoholism
2007-07-03 10:19:13 · answer #6 · answered by love doctor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that its not a good idea, and you wont let him. Tell him, if he stays alcholhol free, than you will take him out for drinks on his 21st. Give him inspiration to not crack any open.
2007-07-03 10:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by italianchikita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him try it if he dont do it there he will find some other place to do it, and if he gets to drunk at least he'll have someone there to help him thrroutgh it.
2007-07-03 10:22:54 · answer #8 · answered by choochi80221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him people do stupid things when they drink and get in trouble wait till ur 18(adult) he will not want to wait but what can u do..
2007-07-03 10:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to him about waiting but don't get down on him. At least he is coming to you.
2007-07-03 10:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋