i recently split with her it was last thursday , after 2yrs the first year was extraordinary however this years new years day she hit me ( i am a man involved in domestic violence ) i forgave her but it carried on and eventually our relationship dwindled becoming worse and worse , i ended it and now feel terrible i feel like i havent ended it because i wanted too but because i had to , however i just spoke to her and all these emotions came flloding back like a tsunami , it made me feel wretched what should i do should i talk to her or try and forget everything . all i wish for is to be happy and have some one who wants to be with me and respects me
2007-07-03 00:30:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its easy for people to say stuff because we don't feel how you do but remember we've all loved and lost.
in my opinion if you think she may have changed give her another chance if she lets you down this time then walk away!
believe in karma and everything happens for a reason. how do you know there isn't someone better and more loving out there waiting for you?
if you continue to go back you will never move forward to bigger and better things.
she needs help and if its hurting you your obviously not the one to give it.
2007-07-03 00:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by gout2getit 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No don't try and sort things out, save your energy for a girl that will respect and love you.
You split up the other week the emotion has to come up to help you to move onto better horizons.
2007-07-03 07:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by bambam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you always do what you always did then you'll always get what you always got. You have done the right thing. Nobody deserves to be a victim of violence. Hold your head up high, be strong, and keep away. People like your ex thrive and continue behaving the way they do only by controlling others.
2007-07-03 07:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your first decision to not be with her sounds like you were being objective and that you meant it. You need to try and distance yourself from her and move on with your life. I know it sucks and it's so hard. Nobody changes over night and nobody changes without a serious effort for behavior modification. It sounds like you're a good guy and you should have someone that can treat you like you deserve to be treated.
2007-07-03 07:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound a bit desperate no offense, i'd settle for something better. Its understandable that you will have some emotions coming back, to me it just soundsl ike you've failed to find someone to fill the spot of your gf that will keep you happy and care for you. Don't settle for anything find someone thats on your level or even better!
good luck.
2007-07-03 07:36:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just give it a bit more time and see how you feel. You are still fragile from the break up. See if she comes to you. She must make the changes, if she loves you she will.
2007-07-03 08:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by jessieket04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It ended for a reason, alot of couples try again but it don't work again for the same reason--that will come floading back to you alto soon.Like greasy chicken, it might taste good but your stomach will make sure you don't do that again. So will yours.
2007-07-03 07:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by kim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont deserve someone that is abusive physically or emotionally and your right forget her and find someone that wants to be with you and respects you.... and that wont use you for her own personal punching bag.... good luck
2007-07-03 07:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wimp
2007-07-03 07:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by bkk 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well the decision then was right, talking to her now is not.... however if you both want to be together, start counseling first and dont start living (if you were) together until the right time
2007-07-03 07:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Just Ordinary. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋