My girlfriend dumped me after 4 years. Her reasoning was that our relationship wasn't moving forward (she got her masters and had to move away and I was getting my prereq's for a masters programs that I'm still not sure if I want to do), my moods were too volatile and she didn't like living with me. While she was looking for a job and was under lots of stress and I was stressing about having to get all A's in college inorder to get into my desired grad school, we would get into fights, but then we would talk about them and everything would be fine. I think she lost attraction in me when I became depressed after quitting my first real job and then not making the grades needed to get into a grad school. Right now I miss her and I thought it would be a good idea for us to take some time apart, but she wanted to break up. I know that I will be that man she used to love in 6 months, but I don't know if I can handle her dating other guys right now.
2007-07-03 00:17:44 · 5 answers · asked by Jeff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It isn't the answer you want to hear, but you need to let her go. Go on and be the man you want to be in 6 months...not the type defined by what she would want...just you. It isn't easy when someone you love moves on, but you need to define your life for yourself now, a life without her. Perhaps the depression you felt, the stress you expereienced was tied to the relationship as well. Sometimes we get too comfortable where we are, and then it isn't so much about the "love" we once felt but about how used to a situation we became. In six months you may surprise yourself and be OK just being you.
2007-07-03 00:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by T~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on and move on to your life coz it seems she's not interested at all, but if u really like and love her then accept of what she is and hope in the later she will realize how good are u.
Good luck!
2007-07-03 00:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by Dawnz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi if she says she wants to break up there is not much you can do about it, just be honest with her about how you are feeling and that you think you'll be yourself again soon, maybe she'll miss you to and come back.....Either way it sounds as though you put way to much pressure on yourself to succeed, maybe if you took more time out you will feel alot better about yourself and your grades, maybe have a plan B in place that you are happy with if you don't get your expected grades...good luck
2007-07-03 00:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by misstth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow tough break it sounds like you have alot of time and energy into this relationship it also sounds like you have alot going for you with your school let her go if thats truly what she wants if you force yourself on her and thats not what she wants your only going to drive away focus on whats good for you don't let anything stand in the way of your education
2007-07-03 00:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by famousamos075 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and accept she has moved on she knows her mind and you are not in it ~~
2007-07-03 00:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋