i broke up with my long term bf a few weeks ago but the relationship had been bad for very long.
eversince we broke up i have bin flirting with a freind of mine and I think this guy likes me too. i dont think hes hot?? in fact hes kind of ugly n i wldnt date him yuk
but i like the flirting and attention.
i care abt bf but not love him. i think i want to do something with another boy but not seirous u know? like i just want him to like me n be here.
is thi wrong? is it cheating if i do something with the other boy? teelll mee pls.
2007-07-02 22:22:18 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know this wld hurt my bf in fact he said so.
but if i feel like this is it ok to pursue?
and i dnt think the boy is like mad abot me i think he jst wants something small too but not sure.
what if i do it but dont tell the ex?
2007-07-02 22:31:00 · update #1
I'm not trying to offend you but yes that is cheating. I think what you want to prove is that you can date a flirt with another boy to prove to your ex bf that you dont care....
2007-07-02 22:25:44 · answer #1 · answered by coco 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all your last relationship is over if you feel no commitment to him. But because you are asking this question, I feel that you do... Figure out if you did something wrong in the last relationship, if you did, then just clean it up.
Next you need to remove yourself from this other guy for a little while because you are not attracted to him, only the attention. Don't put yourself into a situation you will later regret. Just chill for a bit and then later you will find someone you like better. You don't have to be in a relationship ALL the time....Just break for a bit, even if just a couple weeks to collect yourself.
Cheers
2007-07-03 05:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by crewbrotha86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Erm, but you said that you broke up with your bf, so how are you cheating?
Seems like you have issues, first with not loving your former bf and liking the attention from this other guy.
You said you wouldn't date the other guy because he is ugly, so if you sleep with him, would you really want to be looking at his face first thing in the morning?!?!?!?!?! Sounds like you should just remain friends.
Just be sensible, okay? No, you wouldn't be cheating cos you broke up with long-term bf, and if you didn't love him, why would you care what he thinks, esp. after you said that relationship had gone bad.
Don't be in such a hurry. Maybe you'll find a guy who's right for you if you give it time.
2007-07-03 05:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is that you've broken up with him, so technically no you are not cheating.
However, maybe it feels that way because you still have some feelings for your ex as you were with him for so long.
No you are not doing anything wrong in the sense of cheating, but this friend of yours, you seem to be stringing him along in a sense.
Even though its okay at the moment for the attention, it won't if his feelings for you get any deeper.
2007-07-03 05:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by xjeanbobx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well technically you've broken up with your long term boyfriend so it's not cheating. but don't you think mabe you need some time before you get into something else? it may be nothing serious but does this guy know that? i think you should wait for someone who you actually are attracted too instead of someone who, yes flatters you, but have no real desire for. you just desire someone close to you, some attention after your boyfriend.
maybe take it a little slower, things could get messy here...
2007-07-03 05:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by sarahdoll300 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason I don't think you should cheat is only because I am concerned about your
friends feelings... your bf is not the one to be worried about... worry about the implications of the poor man you are planning on venting your rebound on!
Plus....it is really nasty to call your friend ugly.....i think you are ugly because you said that!
Infact, without knowing you....you are an UGLY person because you would use someone to make yourself feel better about yourself...... good luck in life......
2007-07-03 05:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your boyfriend are not together any longer. It is your business what you do. I would, however, wait to be with a guy I really liked alot! This jumping from sack to sack is dangerous, and usually very unfulfilling!!
2007-07-03 05:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know who'd that be cheating (except yourself). Don't use people for the sake of a little attention, it cheapens you in the long run.
2007-07-03 05:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by pepper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating applies to couples who are in love and trust each other. Since you are about to break that trust, then ask yourself whether it is considered cheating or not.
2007-07-03 05:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should just get some guy friends that you can hang out with, find a ladies man that you can talk to really easy.
2007-07-03 05:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋