What do you think about being engaged at ages 14-16?

Question

Just opinions.

If your just going to call me names then don't answer. I never said it was about me. Get over your self.
Thankyou.

Answer 1

I think it's a very, very rare occasion to see a long term relationship work, when it starts this young. I highly value marriage, and I'm glad to see that young people want to have this in their lives...But at the same time, I have a hard time believing that the relationship would last more than a few years.

14 and 16 year olds are simply not done growing emotionally. There is actually a lot of physiological growth that still has to happen within a teenager's brain...If they can make it work, I say more power to them! There's certainly nothing wrong with finding love at a young age...it's just that who they are now is (almost definitely) not who they'll be in five years.

Answer 2

I think you are too young.... at your age you are still figuring out who you are and discovering new things every day about what you want in life. I am 25, and I can tell you I am not the person I was at 14, 15 or even 16 years old. Heck... I am not even the same person I was at 21 years old!

You still have many life experiences to go through before you even begin to realize what you want in a husband. It doesn't even matter if it would be a very long engagement....I would hold off on engagement until at least 19 or 20 years old. And if you are still together and still in love then go for it. Until then enjoy being young and testing the waters of life! 8 0 )

Answer 3

It's just plain silly. People change so much between the time they are 14 and 21. 14 year olds are not even close to the person they will become by the time you are 21. I work at a college and I've seen so many kids come into school a completely different person than they are when they leave.

Whoever is considering this, whether its you or your friend, tell her to focus on herself for now. Enjoy being in high school and not having responsibilities, think about her future, start looking at colleges (a married college experience is SOOO much different than a single one! You don't get to live in a dorm or have time for activities, etc), do all the normal things you need to to grow up. She may feel old and mature now, but she has no idea how far she has to go!

Good luck and best wishes!

PS: Along those same lines, you don't know the person this guy is going to become either! He will change as much as she will, and not always for the better!

Answer 4

I dont think there is anything wrong with it. When you really deeply love someone, why should age be a problem? Usually you can not get married until 18, so if you get ingaged at 14 and you last until your 18 then why not get married if you love each other in that way? JUst because you get engaged doesnt mean you are actually going to marry, it just means you are PLANNING on getting married. I would say another idea instead of getting engaged at that age would be maybe a promise ring. A promise ring is a ring that usually the guy gives the girl that mean he promises to ask her to marry him someday. Whichever way the person goes i think it is there own business. Good Luck to you or whomever the person is.

Answer 5

Becoming 14 seems like such a grown-up age.....if you're 9!

A person goes through so many changes from the age 14 to 24 and even 34. People in their 30's and 40's can wind up getting divorced, so the chances of a 14 year old making a marriage work are pretty slim. It's hard, even (sometimes especially) if you've got enough finances to live comfortably.

14 year olds would benefit more by trying to enjoy their youth rather than head into adult situations. What's the big rush?

Answer 6

I feel that those are young ages. I still feel like me getting engaged at 20 was young. I'm 21 now and will be 22 when I am married, yet I feel I'm more prepared since I will be engaged for a year and a half before I'm actually married. It depends more on the person, if you are ready then go for it, but don't rush things just because you want to be engaged or married! You want to make sure you make the right choices before things get too involved.

Answer 7

At 14 or 16 or even 20 you want to experience life first. Why be strapped down to a marriage at that age? I waited, I traveled, I visited friends all over the place when they moved away, I got all my "running" out so that I could settle down to just one man to spend my life with and it's just that life it could be 20, 40, 60 years together do you want to start that at 14 to 25? And I also looked at my friend, how many stayed married pass 25 if they married right out of high school, not many made it. So, save yourself the aggravation and do yourself a favor, get an education, get a job, be independent for yourself before moving from parents to marriage and risking that "never get to do that because I'm married" saying. Prove to yourself that you can do stuff independently instead of always having to deal with another person first.

Answer 8

not a good idea in my opinion...i was engaged at 17 and am SO glad i realized what a possesive tool he was and called off the wedding before it was too late...this year would have been my 5th wedding anniversary *shudder* im not sayin all young couples fail cuz my friend married her high school sweetheart..(shes 30, hes 32) but they have been together ever since and got married 3 years ago. they didnt rush and it was better..they were able to save and really plan for the wedding of their dreams (by their dreams i mean HER dreams...she was a slight bridezilla but i still love her) so if they got married right outta high school they would have had a smaller, less fancy wedding due to the budgets they had then vrs now

Answer 9

I think it's totally ridiculous to be engaged at those ages. People change SO much- that it's vaery unlikely that the marriage would last when done so young. I'm a completely different person as a 34 year old than I was as a 14 year old. And I can't even IMAGINE being married to my 9th or 10th grade boyfriend.

Answer 10

I think that an engagement before the age of 20 is a waste of time.

At that age, people are still developing interests and building skills. Young teenagers can feel passionately, but they do not necessarily understand the depths of those feelings.

If young teenagers feel the need to make promises, it should be done privately, to one another, after serious discussion. I don't even think promise rings are appropriate, although maybe one of those link bracelets could substitute for a ring. Just place links on it that mean something to each of you ... and wear it faithfully as a reminder of promises made.

If either party should change their minds, another discussion should be held, and the bracelet should be returned.