I need help from my fellow Christians!?

Question

I was brought up Catholic but knew nothing about it. Since I started studying all different forms of Christianity I don't know what to call myself but a Jesus loving girl! I want to change my lifestyle (partying, and living the typical college life) but have no support from the people around me who told me that I was Catholic and there was no other way. This is one of the most difficult things I have ever faced but want to learn and experience so much more through the Lord. PLEASE HELP ME! The man I'm with now is the one I want to marry but he only knows me as the college party girl who goes to church on Sundays to repent what happened that week. Additionally, he's atheist and so is my father. What should I do besides pray until I can't pray anymore?!

Answer 1

It sounds like God has really been moving in your life, and reaching out to you in very cool ways. It would be really good if you could find a group of Christians near you that really love Jesus too, and can help support you and pray for you.

Lord Jesus, give strength to follow the Truth, and send true Christian friends to help support and pray, and fellowship. Provide a good church, and a good church family where she can grow in you, and grow in the knowledge of Your word. Holy Spirit, fill her, and help her discover her giftings. Bless her!

Please contact me if there is anything I can do to help. God bless you!

Answer 2

Regardless of how you were brought up, Catholic or otherwise, you should really listen to your "gut". The little voice in your head telling you the difference between right and wrong? That little "gut instinct" everyone has? That is God trying to guide you by talking to your soul. Listen with everything you have and He will provide you with the answer you seek.

It is not well that a believer should marry a non-believer because of the pull the non-believer could have on the other. However, everyone has a choice to make. You have free-will to decide what path you want to take. So the question is not what should I do, but rather "which road shall I take".

To have a closer relationship with the Lord, you must sacrifice that of worldly lust and materialistics. To be born again means to give up all that. It means to strive to live the way each one of us knows the Lord wants us to live. It means to turn your life around and really make that effort.

Keep praying. The Lord will reveal the answer to you if He has not already. Sometimes, the answer will be right in front of you. But you must be open to receiving that answer....

Answer 3

Well you are not going to like what I am going to tell you. Get into a good bible based church if you believe in Jesus that is all that matters...you can go to any church you want just because you were raised Catholic doesn't mean they are going to exclude you..If you want to change your life style then do it, stop thinking about it and change it..only you can control that and God can help you...As for the man you are with..save yourself a lot of future heartache you cannot change him and we are not to be unequally yoked..I know that is hard to hear, but all you can do is pray and confess his salvation..but if you want to be happy and live the life God wants to give you, then you need to end it and let God be your husband/boyfriend for a while until he brings in a man that you can pray with and who will want to raise your kids in the church and who will share your beliefs not criticize them..it is hard, but it is much easier to do now than to do in twenty years when you are fighting and tired and not living the life God wants to give you.

Answer 4

I am an atheist and my wife and all of her family were Catholics. We all got along fine. We just didn't discuss religion very often and if the subject ever did come up it was always cordial and kept general.

The difficulty was in what to do with the children. My wife was not a regular churchgoer so it wasn't as much of a problem as you might have. The kids were never baptized or members of any church. They have turned out fine. My daughter married a Jewish man and she will help to raise their children in the Jewish faith. The guy you want to marry will not want to go to church. If you continue and take your kids, it will be without him. He may also undermine what the church teaches them. Intellectual freedom dictates that he should be able to have his say, but religious tradition is not receptive to that. It could be a source of some arguments.

But if you love each other, you will find some compromise. I believe it is important that both of you discourage other family members from meddling in your affairs where this issue is concerned. BTW, many atheists celebrate Christmas as a time of family, love, and giving, so unless he is a militant atheist, at least you will always be able to share that. Each of you will have your own meanings attached.

What did *I* sacrifice for her? We got married in her church and I will be buried next to her in a Catholic cemetery.

Answer 5

Slow down, girl. Please don't marry an atheist. 2 Corinthians 6:14 "Be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers". It's a recipe for misery. What you need to do is pray that God will direct you to a good, Bible-believing church. Some of the Baptist churches are good. Check the phone book. Start reading the New Testament and pray every day. You're going to have to get your support from your church family. Start praying for your boyfriend to get saved. If he doesn't pretty soon, I advise you to break up with him. You need to get away from the party life as fast as possible (by partying I assume you mean drinking, etc.) I'll pray for you. God bless you.

Answer 6

Its great that you believe in Jesus. Thats the first right step you've taken. Jesus said that when I go I'll send you the Comforter who will guide you in all truth. This Comforter is the Holy Spirit. From today pray that God will anoint you with the Holy Spirit. Read Acts chapter 2 to see what happened when they received the Holy Spirit. You may ask why receive the Holy Spirit? Its bcoz he gives you power to overcome, when you're tempted to go to a party or do other stuff others do, he prompts you in your heart "No, No". He takes away that desire in you to party and do other things that are bad. To be more practical let me share something.

Recently I was delivered from some wrong thing that i used to do. I cant say that 'wrong thing' bcoz its too public in yahoo. But anyway I'll tell u what I did that made me free from doing that wrong thing. I fasted and prayed for one day. Fasting is so important and so powerful that devil just gets mad when a person fasts. Please remember you've got to pray earnestly!!! when you fast. And make sure you pray specifically for God to deliver you from the wrong things. The day I fasted was on Saturday, the next day on Sunday as i was praying in church a person few feet from me saw like a evil spirit leaving me.

The thing you have to do is fast and pray your heart out just for your weakness. If God can do for me he can do for you.

If you have any more questions you could mail me at [e-mail]

I dont mind answering any doubts you have.

Answer 7

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Firstly, the Lord never wishes to be separated from you. Remember that God is always with you, always watching. Make your decisions with that thought in mind.

Being in a marriage or relationship with an atheist is very difficult. Trust in the Lord, talk to him. You don't need the formulated prayers...just talk to Him. Then, in the SILENCE...listen. He will answer you. You may not be listening because of all the hullabaloo that is going on around you.

My first suggestion however is to find a Catholic Church, if you wish to return and go to Reconciliation and speak with the priest or deacon. He will help you. I will keep you in my prayers.

My second suggestion is do not live by what your boyfriend tells you to do or not to do. You're a big girl. Only keep the Lord's laws.

Answer 8

First of all, way to go! You have chosen Jesus! Honestly, I know this is going to sound hard, but possibly you should not marry the man you want to. Ask yourself: Is he going to always look at you as the party girl, or is he going to dig deep and ask you who you are, and what you think about. Is he going to drag the marriage down if you are a Christian and he is an atheist? The bible clearly says that we should not marry unbelievers. This really sucks, because a lot of great people in this world are not Christians. Tell the guy you like what you just stated here. Tell him you are concerned that he will treat you the way he sees you right now as the typical college student. Take marriage slowly. Spend time with each other and ask God if you are really right for each other. Life gets tough sometimes, God Bless!

Answer 9

First of all, I want to say I'm happy that you want to change your lifestyle and live for God!!! That's wonderful!!!

Next, if you read In St. John 3:3-5, Jesus told Nicodemus that he MUST born again of the water and of the spirit or he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. In order to start living a changed life, you have to be changed from the inside out.

In Acts 2:38 it says, "Then Peter said unto them Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the Holy Ghost."

First thing you have to do is repent...that means to tell God that you're sorry from your heart for all the things you have done.

Only baptism in Jesus' name is the only way to have your all sins totally removed.

After that, you receive the Holy Ghost which is God living down on the inside of you. You will know that you have the Holy Ghost when you speak in tongues as the Spirit gives the utterance. That means that God will talk in a different language through you -- not your yourself.

Other scriptures to help you are:
Acts 2 - entire chapter
Acts 4:12
Acts 10 - entire chapter
Acts 19:1-6

If you have any questions or need a church to go to, e-mail me. God bless you.

Answer 10

Keep praying, draw closer to God, and He will find you if you're really seeking Him. You don't want to be Catholic. I was also raised Catholic, but then saw through their lies. I'm not trying to be mean but, there it is. Find a good, bible-based church, and attend as much as you can. Get in a bible study.
As for being born again, as Jesus says we must (Read the account of the meeting of Jesus and Nicodemus in the third chapter of The Gospel of John.), God blesses us with grace to have the faith to believe and call on the name of the Lord. We can't do any of the process of being saved ourselves. We just have to be seeking Him, broken and repentant that you've sinned against a Holy God.
As for your boyfriend, someone above me posted not to be "unequally yoked with unbelievers." Sorry, but it does say that in the bible, and any honest Christian will agree. I do.

please don't give up, talk to Him at any time

-blessings-

Answer 11

First let me say that I have no intensions of offending you. I am not a learned man of different religons but this is what I do know.

What you need is Jesus in your heart. You need to be saved. Salvation is the only way to heaven, and there is no other way. You cant pray it out, you cant work it out, you cant be good enough to get there. Jesus said "I am the way the truth and the life" "no man comes to the father accept by me" that means mother Mary cant save you, your priest and your family cant save you. It is between you and God and the only way is through Christ. The Bible teaches that all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. The wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Christ Jesus. Jesus Christ was the ultimate sacrifice for the sins of mankind. He will deliver us from sin just like he delivered us from the law. The day he died was the day you could go directly to God with your praise and petitions you no longer needed a high priest. " and the temple vail was rent from top to bottom" When you accept that Christ died for you, was beaten, spit on an mocked hung between heaven and earth on a cross, and died for you and if you beleive he arose on the third day after spending three days and nights in Hell for you, you can be saved ... In Romans you find that if you confess with your mouth Christ is Lord and you beleive in your heart that God hath raised him from the dead you will be saved " romans 10/9 You will also find that salvation is the faith and trust in the Lord and not baptisim, you will be compelled to be baptised by full submersion. Baptisim is the symbol to the world that you are born again. "accept a man be born again he will not see the kingdom of heaven" the conversation with Nickodemous.

Trust Christ as your saviour today for today is the day of salvation. Faith is what it takes not works... IF your truely saved you will want to work. God will change you only after you become his child. While your a sinner you belong to satan, God will not chastise satan's children.

I must also say this salvation dont make you perfect, only forgiven. God dont save the body he saves the soul, the part that will live forever.

I pray you find peace and comfort in the Lord and may you accept the gift of salvation today. May the chains of bondage be broken about you.

When you get saved bet in a Bible believing church and serve him all your days...


God Bless