I was with my guy for 2 years and we ended things many many times. The last (and final time) we ended things was about two months ago. We didn't talk at all for the first few weeks but then we started talking. Recently we've been talking more and more but we still have huge fights. He never wants to talk about anything because he thinks it's too stressful and he was always like that. But now that we're not together we should just be able to talk and be friends but it's still so hard. He gets mad because I want to talk and I get mad because he doesn't. A lot of the time I say really nice things to him about how I still care for him and he just blows it off. I just don't know if I should change the kind of relationship I have with him (i.e. how often i talk to him, what i talk to him about....etc.) or if I should just forget about him.
2007-07-02 17:32:05 · 6 answers · asked by aslhjsd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All of your advice is really amazing but the thing is, he's been there for me through so much. We've ended things many times before and it's always worked but now for some reason it's a lot harder. I honestly have barely any feelings for him anymore.... I love him but I'm not IN LOVE with him. I'm already dating other people.... The thing is I just want to be able to talk to him... we haven't even seen each other since we ended things..... its not like we hang out. I just want to be able to talk to him a lot....... Maybe I'm just talking to him about the wrong things.
2007-07-02 17:58:52 · update #1
Oh and also... I feel like our relationship was ended so abruptly...even though we've talked about it over and over but nothing ever gets resolved.
2007-07-02 18:00:09 · update #2
It sounds to me like you need to just shut the door on this relationship and move on.
Unless you like a relationship that includes a lot of arguing and stress, you are probably setting yourself up for a lot of problems if you continue as you are going now.
Put it behind you and find a less stressful relationship with some love in it.
2007-07-02 17:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me (I'm a female by the way--I just like Pitfall Harry-the action figure). I was with my boyfriend for 2 years and he broke it off (had tried several times before). I tried to remain his friend, but every time he started dating someone new, it broke my heart. Sometimes it's better to remember the good times and go on to make you some new memories with someone else. If he really wanted to be with you, he wouldn't be giving you the run-around--he would show you with his actions and words and definitely wouldn't piss you off all the time. It's hard, but move on.
2007-07-03 00:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Pitfall Harry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By maintaining this sort of relationship you still have not let things completly go. If you not talk to him at all, you'll feel hurt for a little bit, but that will pass. Then you can finally move on with your life.
2007-07-03 00:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Noah M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you sould try talking about other things that have nothing to do with the relationship because you are not in one anymore..an it might make him feel uneasy?.. or maybe you should forget about him and try to find someone who will not get made at you!? and in about a year after the feelings are gone in that way it won't be so hard for him to DEAL hopw this helps =)
2007-07-03 00:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Wendy W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just forget him, clearly he doesnt want anything to do with you, and you're just making him angry and hurting him more by still wanting to be around him. you can do that, or try to talk to him about this
2007-07-03 00:39:38 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Monroe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea just forget about him. hes not worth it. by the looks of it, hes no longer interested in you and you should move on!
2007-07-03 00:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋