2007-07-02 16:53:55 · 31 answers · asked by uber empress 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would say yes? Believe it or not, President Millard Fillmore's first date with his 2nd wife Caroline Carmichael McIntosh (she was a widower) was in a cemetary. President Fillmore took her there to visit the grave of his first wife, Abigail Fillmore. They had a light picnic and sipped wine.
2007-07-02 17:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by So Cal Johnny 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds kind of creepy to me, but it depends why. If the view there is spectacular, or if you and your date are both into geneology or old trains, or if you are nature seeking and there is a certain plant or whatever at one of those places, (an equally fascinating or cool reason) of course it is okay. If you are going there "just to be different" it's probably going to be misinterpreted as creepy. If you are going there for one person to threaten the other...("on your right you see the family plot...all my ex-wives!" or "this is where I tied him up just before the train came through...") well, then you probably shouldn't be dating.
Re: cemetaries, lots of people visit them with friends and family to remember their loved ones who are gone. While this is perfectly acceptable, I think it is way too personal of an experience to share with someone you don't know well. It's kind of a downer on a first date, and it sets the tone that you are grieving, and the assumption can be made that your date, if you continue to see each other, will be expected to help you deal with that loss. While this might be true, and while it's also true that most people dating are prepared to both take from and give to the other person, well, it's kind of like saying..."Hi nice to meet you, here is the stuff I'm going through that you will inevitably be subjected to if there is a second date" and you are more than likely going to end it right there.
2007-07-02 17:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by musicimprovedme 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE on Halloween. That could be fun, but only if it's in a group date, and you're all having a ball spooking each other.
Otherwise, absolutely not. Agreeing to it sends out the message that you are easy. Definitely not good in my books, but then to each their own. It also tells you something about the guy... a.) he's not creative (graveyards, how cliche...), b.) he has no money, and c.) he's likely not interested in more than a physical relationship. For me, this is not someone I'd want to go out with.
2007-07-02 17:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by splitseconddecision 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only for a prostitute.
Unless it's during the day, then maybe a cemetary would be cool. A rail yard doesn't sound appealing at all.
Don't put out, and get a nice lunch out of it.
2007-07-02 17:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure, if you want to.
My girlfriend and I had sex in the local cemetery many times. it was fun. plus we are both a bit on the creepy side lol...
actually what's more fun to make out in is an old unused movie theatre. we have one here and it's super old. had sex in that one too.
but for the first date, i'd say only if he/she knows you and thionks cemeteries are cool. i think they're cool lol
Don't worry about him being a serial killer, maybe he just likes that stuff lol.
2007-07-02 17:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lil 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you are both dead, or going on a train ride, I don't see why anyone would take a person to either place on a first date.
2007-07-02 16:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by njspanteach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..why...let me explain. My little sister lost her daughter at 36 days old to SIDS and that is her life...if a man can't accept that then he is history. It might be wierd but it is life for some people...I wouldn't go alone though unless you know the person or unless you know that there is public close by.
Good Luck
2007-07-02 16:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're joking I hope. Where did you meet this ghoulish lover boy? On serial killers.com? At any rate it's definitely not safe nor appropriate, so don't go!
2007-07-02 17:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a girl who used to hang out in A LOT of cemetaries with A LOT of boys....
NICE boys will want to take you someplace nicer. If you go someplace where there's really not much to do, there is something that they probably already want to do. Don't set yourself up for trouble!
2007-07-02 16:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not for a first date.
First dates should be stimulating to encourage conversation and learn about each other.
All he did was prove to you he's creepy.
2007-07-02 17:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by Nik 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋