what do u do when ur hubbies friend comes over he believes in god and i dont?

Question

I have asked what to do when he comes over talking about the bible and ppl said to listen and explain to him how i feel about it.. So the otherday i talked to him and told him that i didnt want to discuss it cause i thought it caused conflict.. I was talking about my daughter having a speech&learning disability and he says pray blah..blah... and says prayer will cure her in a round about way... so she missed her speech appt and he said i guess me praying worked... and now when he comes over he taunts me about it and always talking of "god" even more...... what should i do now??? im about tempted to tell him to stay away if he doesnt respect my wishes and feelings in my own yard!~

btw... everyone in my house besides me has faith in "god". i dont push my kids not to go to church and i dont push them to feel as i do... i dont mind talking about it every once in awhile.... but i made a joke about someone being scared of me cause that guys kid wanted to get out and play with my kids and he had to go sayin phrases from the bible... im like wtf???? grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr i dont push or hate anyone for how they feel.... i have lots of friends that go to church and so forth...

Answer 1

I'm a Christian, and I understand that he feels need to spread the gospel, but from what you said I think he's crossed a line. I mean although I go to church regularly now and I'm saved, I did have a long period of time where I didn't want to attend church (I just wanted some time to sort things out). I had this friend who was always going to church and wanted to be a preacher and he was always looking down on me and telling me I needed to get back into church. I think because of how he was treating me it kept me that much farther away from church. I think you need to tell this man, in private, that while he's trying to get a point across you need your beliefs to be respected in your own home. I also would like to say I admire the fact that you don't force your beliefs on those around you, like your children, and I hope your husband also understands why you're saying this to him. I know this may not be of any help and you may feel I'm wrong to say this, but I hope you know there are people thinking praying for you even if you don't think it will help.

Answer 2

Talk to your husband and explain that his friend is being rude, taunting and butting in where he is not welcome.. See what your husband says and does.. Your husband may talk to his friend and stop the rude behavior and taunting..

If your husband does not stop it the next time his friend comes over show him the door yourself.. If the friend refuses to leave and your husband doesn't back you up in showing him out .. Then you leave (take your daughter with you) go to the park a movie whereever while the friend is still there..

When you come back explain to your husband that he can see his friend but you would prefer it not be at your house.. If your husband insists the visits be at your house, explain that you will leave for the duration of the visits.. Above all don't fight with your husband about it just explain this is how it will be he can choose..

Which ever choice your husband makes will tell you where you stand in your husbands list of what's important and you can go from there..

**** My husband had a friend Derek (I can not stand the little **ick) When I gave my husband the see him elsewhere or see him here but I will leave options he chose elsewhere.. Within a few months my husband saw what a **ick Derek was.. It's been about 8 years since they last got together for a drink.. We occassionally see Derek while out shopping ect. I do not rub it in my husbands nose that his ex friend is a **ick and I am very polite and cordial to Derek..

If my husband had chosen the other option things would obviously have been far different as I would have known my husband didn't place the importance and value on my that I deserve.. Likely my husband would be single as Derek still is and they could be off being **icks together somewhere..

Answer 3

Forcing religious beliefs down a persons throat just doesn't sit well. As you well know. I personally believe that prayer doesn't hurt and could help. However, if someone is irritating you I would just tell them to stop it. If he wants to pray for your daughter he can do it without taunting you. He should respect your wishes, especially in your own home. When Jesus lived and healed people it was when they sought Him out not the other way around. He didn't taunt anyone to be healed or saved. It was each person's choice.

Answer 4

It is written by Isaiah the prophet: "I will send my messenger ahead of you, who will prepare your way." Your husband's friend is like "a voice of one calling in the desert trying to evangelize you." (Bible Mark 1).

It is your friend's nature, like a scorpion, who stings, it is what he is, he can't stop being a scorpion..Nor can a Christian freind stop trying to bring healing and salvation to those he love.

Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word of Christ.
Romans 10:16-18. Pray about it.

And if all fails discuss it firmly and ask him to respect your wishes. And tell you husband to stop it because it cause conflict.. Leave the room or share your faith with him?

http://www.spiritandsong.com/jukebox/listen/12089_1_5.mp3

Answer 5

As a christian, he should be more respecting. Jesus didn't chase people around and try to force them to believe. And a lot of christians err in believing that miracles (found in Act) are for today. Jesus and the apostles healed and spoke in tongues and other miracles because that is what God chose to get people to believe. His work is finished now (New Testament) and there is no longer a need for these signs and wonders. As a christian, I appreciate his enthusiasm, but no one likes to be hounded about something (I know I don't!!!) Tell him how you feel and if he doesn't respect it then do as u wish.

Answer 6

you need to tell him that when he comes over to your house he needs to respect your wishes not to bring up the bible and all that God stuff. What he does at his house is his business but at your house you don't talk about God becuz it's your right not to believe. If you wanted to hear about God and all that other happy go lucky bull**** then you would go to church. If he can't respect your wishes and rules in your house then he isn't welcome to come over there. If he said o.k. and then starts again with the God Crap again that's when you need to speak up and tell him to leave.I'm an atheist, and if someone wants to believe in God then so be it, but in my house you don't speak of God, becuz I choose not to believe and if people can't respect my wishes or rules in my house then they can stay out.By people preaching to me about God their violating my rights and wasting their breath, becuz I'll tell them to go F*** off. And that's the way I am. I always ask them How do you like me now?

Answer 7

Tell your husband that bible thumping is prohibited in your presence. He needs to make his 'friend' understand.
One person's rights end where the next person's begins.

Then give hime the 'or else': Or you'll do like Smilin' George says, you'll just have to go shopping while the friend is there, and spend lots of money!

Answer 8

He's being RUDE. Tell him you'd rather not discuss religion or politics with him, and ask your husband to talk with him about disrespecting the two of you and your daughter.

IMO it's rather disrespectful of your husband (if he knows how you feel) to keep inviting this *** over to your house. If you can't come to an agreement, I guess you just gotta compromise and make yourself scarce whenever he's over.

Answer 9

It's your house. He's being disrespectful. Some people need very firm boundaries and he sounds like one of em.

Don't smile. Say "I wasn't joking. I wouldn't push my beliefs on you and I don't want you pushing yours on me. This topic is OFF limits in my house. If you can't respect that, then please don't come over."

Answer 10

Tell the bible thumper that while you and your husband enjoy his company that religion is not a topic that you wish to discuss. If he persists, ask him to leave and not come back until he has prayed for some manners.