do long distance relationships work?

Question

i know they usually dont work for many people, and it is probably even worse that im only 15. but, i am in love with this guy. although he does live 3 hours away, i really think we might be able to pull it off. do you think it could work for someone as young as me? and if so, got any tips on how to make it a little easier?

Answer 1

AHEM!

I was in a long distance relationship (try 2,000 miles kiddo)
and i finally moved across the country to be with him.

Now... I do not regret it at all. I love him very much and I am happy with my decision.

The thing I *do* regret is not allowing myself to explore my options while I was in high school. I should have dated a little more, gotten a little more experience, etc...

At fifteen, you should be having fun, not sitting at home glued to AIM/MSN/Yahoo!/ICQ or glued to the phone or writing your latest letter.

How would you visit him? You are 15, not even old enough to drive? Could you truly see yourself putting a lot of effort into a relationship with a guy you will not see often, and you will not know what he is really doing (trust issue, another thing to deal with).

I am an example of how it can work out, but I do believe I am a rare exception...

Please consider my advice...

Answer 2

You are too young to even know what love is and what you are even about your self. You will never be 15 again, so you should enjoy it while you can. Go out with your girlfriends and have a lot of fun, talk to a lot of guys your own age. Don't have any serious relationships with any one on the Internet. People on the Internet only show you their best sides or made up sides, pure fantasy.

Don't grow up too fast. There is a time for every season.

Answer 3

You're going to do whatever you want despite everyone's answers. You'll eventually find out the answer, and it will go something like this...

You'll try it to see if it works...eventually, he'll stop calling because he's found someone else closer that he can be with all the time, or vice versa, you will, then it will end up in someone hurt, and you'll wonder why you ever decided to do this. But remember, it's all a part of growing up - you take chances, and if they fail, you learn from them.

If you think school is over when you graduate, you really haven't learned anything. Life is one continuous session of learning. Do whatever you want because if you decide you don't want to try it, you'll live in regret not knowing, but if you do and it fails, you'll hurt, but live and learn. And how knows, you two may be some unexplainable mystery that works. You never know until you try.

Answer 4

Lol this seems like dejavu. When I was 15 I met a boy that lived 2 hours away from me. We really liked each other. It worked for the first 5 weeks but then he stopped returning my calls and then I find out he has a girlfriend there. Yeah, I was crushed. But this guy may not be a prick like my guy turned out to be... try it. What do you have to loose. Just don't get yourself thrown into it. Always keep ture to yourself. Long distance relationships can work just fine... both people though have to make it work. Make sure that he is willing to put forth the effort to it. Good luck sweetie!!

Answer 5

Everything is possible girly.
Personally, I would make the relationship on the terms where you are able to see and hang out with other people. Whether you hook up with those people is entirerly up to you. In highschool, my boyfriend was a senior when i was a junior and when he left for college we didnt stay "together" but whenever he came back home we always hung out and it was like things never ended. I still loved him but it made it so that it was okay for both of us, and not me just miserable while he lived so far away.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

I was 15 when my bf left too. We kept in touch and talked wrote letters and got to know each other really well. We will be married 18 yrs soon. The key is honesty tell him if you want to date others and be sure he does the same thing. It is not easy. But you will get to know each other by writing and talking because you won't be able to be physical. Your 15 you should not be physical! Don't be physical that will not keep him!

Answer 7

If you want it to work it can work. My sister's BF lives 3 hours away from her and they work it out fine. It's all about compromising. One weekend she visits him and the next one he comes over.
Another example, a friend of mine is married to an Egyptian man and she is in Puerto Rico finishing her degree while he is on the other side of the world, but they still find the time to talk to eachother everyday.

Honey, as I said, if both of you really want it to work it can work!

Answer 8

well for my sister it worked but she knew the boy and they been going out for 5 or 6 month and we moved away but they still kept dating and they are like dating for about 1 year and 3 months i believe she is visiting him in the summer but what they did they talked on the computer everyday and they saw each other with webcamora and call every week since it is an international relationship it depends if you both are really into each other

Answer 9

They can...when I was in College, my wife an d I were apart from April to September 2x and then over a year...lots of letters flew between NYC and FL. back then...today with email, free cell to cell calls if on same company plan, video IM, Skype, etc...your ability to communicate is lightyears pass what we had...but the key is communication never the less.

Answer 10

girl you are young. this relationship isn't going to take you anywhere. if you two were 18 or older then thats another story. if i were you i would move on. many people think they are "in love" at 15 and trust me you will get over him really fast