Girl friend...problems?

Question

Well...im having a problem. Been depressed for awhile over it.
I am a christian man in a relationship with the most beautiful,
smart and funny woman ever of 4 years. I really want to marry her
soon, but were having problems. She's had trouble with men before.
Cheating, lying and so on. So now her opinion is very bad about men.
She believes every guy is a lustful guy, wanting sex, cheating,
porn. But i tell her not every guy. I don't do that stuff, and
i honest tell her that. Its hard. I dont like being accused
of things i dont or will never do. I really love her so much
and i hate her upset, as a christian...how do i tell her in
a good way that I aint like those guys?

Thanks

Shes a christians, raised chrsitian also. Shes never had a problem with men. but her father abused her emotinally and cheated on her mother. and then she got with chrsitian guys that cheated on her...so she lost hope.

Answer 1

You should show her this question you posted, as "proof" that you are a truly wonderful guy. A scumbag wouldn't post a question like this, would he? Of course he wouldn't. It must be true. She sure is lucky. You should show her your question so she knows what's good for her. She can learn the easy way or the hard way. Here's hoping you only need to show her the easy way!

Answer 2

You should be talking to her as a human being rather than just simply Christian, Pagan, or Atheist alike.

Tell her that she needs to understand that you WILL NOT cheat on her. You never have, and you never will. You are a spiritual man who stands by his morals, and will fall short of nothing less.

If she STILL insists on accusing you of this and that, then you need to take a look at YOUR life. Are you partying often? Without her? If that is the case, then you are setting yourself up for persecution. Its not that she doesn't trust you, its that she doesn't trust you at a party with other girls. You diiiig? :o)

Counseling is a very good, and probably the BEST alternative.
May luck and wisdom fill your life ..

Blessed Be

Answer 3

Wow...thats a bad situation to be in....Ummmm im not good at advice but it seems to me that u can tell her anything and evrything possible to make her change her view on men but it probably wouldnt work...and if she doesnt believe u or trust u than shes not the right person for you...

I believe that in order for a relationship to work ther mnust be trust by both partners... You cant spend all of ur time trying to convince her of ur 'innocence'....Its just not right...Im srry that she has had some trouble in thepast with men but that doesnt mean that u should suffer for it..

Alot of girls who have trust issues just end up hurting their partners by accusing them of things all the time even if their significan other hasnt done anything wrong..

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I completely understand where youre comming from. Me and my bofriend KIND of have that problem, because Ive been hurt and used a lot, and he tries to reassure me hes not that way, but its hard. just be very understanding and DEFINITLY dont screw up cause then shell lose all hope. let her know everyday in a new way shes special and you love her no matter what. gain her trust. I'm sorry youre having this problem. its a hrd one to deal with. you seem like a sincere guy though. if youre meant to be together, god will put you together. just pray!!! :-D good luck darling.

Answer 6

wow.. ( you are slow if and i mean that in the nicest way possible i really do ) if you truly don't do that then just tell her that. how hard can that be she has been with you for 4 years right ? then she must like you on some level and trust you to some point just work on getting her to a conferable level with you, were she trust you completely. simpler than that i dont think it can be

Answer 7

amazing dude. you are such a nice guy!

just talk to her. and tell her why you are not like the rest of the guys.

pray about this. pray that your girlfriend will stop throwing tantrums. pray that she will understand.

if she is not christian, introduce her to a christian friend, a christian small group, that is in your church. encourage her to go to church with your friend, without you around. let her know God., and be healed from her past hurts.

after praying, talk to her again.

another question, is she a christian? if she is not, there are gonna be more complications!

Answer 8

Don't be discouraged, brother.

I believe the only way to prove you're different is through your actions. Be pure and honest, loving and humble. Do all that you can to help your fellow man, pray earnestly, and let God's will be done.

That's all I can say.

I'll pray for you tonight.


~ In Love

Answer 9

Honestly, I'd dump her.

Don't cling onto someone hoping you can change them. She has to change herself and since she has all of these preconceived notions about men, it's going to be hard for you to "enlighten" her. Getting married will only make it more difficult for your relationship.

Move on. You don't need the heartache. Don't be a relationship martyr.

Answer 10

I do lots of pre-marital counseling - and - just reading that made alarm bells go off. I recommend counseling IMMEDIATELY if you are serious about her. Otherwise...you are heading up the proverbial creek without a paddle.