I hate my parents and i need something big i can do to show how they can't control me.?

Question

she blames me for everything that ever goes wrong
she calls me bad things that i dont deserve to be called
she's hit me once or twice
she raised me to speak my mind, but then whenever i think something she doesnt, she tells me to pretend to believe what she does.
i absolutely hate every single thing she ever does, and i let her know it
she's tried grounding me over and over, but doesnt get that it only makes it worse
i want to do something rebellious to show her that she should respect me as a real person.
ive been acting up with little things like lying about who i'm going to the mall with or whatever, but i need something big. ideas?

Answer 1

yeah-stop playing games and act like an adult. If you act like a child, your parents will treat you like a child. Grow up and then you'll really show 'em!

Answer 2

That reminds me of myself when I was a teenager. I was always looking for something to show my parents that I was in control of my own life...then I got kicked out at 17,and introduced to the real world...let me tell you that it was not as easy as I thought it would be.

My parents were harsh (and I got slapped across the face more than once) and I'm sure there must have been a kinder, easier way to work with me, but they tried their best. They simply did the best that they could do under the circumstances, and I'm grateful that they cared enough to try at all. They seemed so unfair at the time, but looking back on it, I can only see that they tried to protect me.

You shouldn't do anything just to get a rise out of your parents. That's rebellion for all the wrong reasons. Do something because you want to, or because you think it's right, but the only reason shouldn't be to hurt your parents.

In answer, that something "big" should be an honest sit down talk with your folks...if you have a mature discussion with them (no screaming, crying, temper tantrums and the like), they will be blown away by your poise and maturity, and might trust you with a later curfew, more responsibility, etc.

Answer 3

The best thing you can do to show your mom she can't controll you is to grow up !! How old are you? You are really going to get her to respect you by doing something rebellious ?? I Don't Think So !! Don't know how old you are but I would say you are a young teen. I know it is bad at times. It is hard just to be a teen much less to live in the society that we are in now. Try to work with your mom. You really don't hate her.Those are horrible words. She loves you very much. She would not even bother otherwise. I am sorry she calls you names. She is wrong to do that.! She should not hit you. There are other ways to get yourself across to your kids . What are you doing that she has to ground you ? Think about this ..You may(both) have to go for counseling if things don't get better. If she loses it, at least you should try to keep it together. That way, she will see that you are growing up and she will respect you . Rebelling only makes things worse. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I really don't know what to say. You're mom hit you and say bad things, but I really don't think it is that horrible unless you get black and blues on your face and body then she is physically abusing you and you can go to the proper authority for that.

She may not be perfect and doesn't even know how to raise you up properly probably because she wasn't also raised up properly by your grandparents. But that doesn't make her an unfit mother unless she abandons you and let you go your own way allowing you to do whatever you want without a care in the world of whatever happens to you. Now is that what you really want? Be free and rid of her?

Now, you really want respect. Then have self-respect first, focus and improve your life by being responsible and be a good daughter without her asking too. Show her you can be a decent individual without her hitting you or saying bad things about you. Then your mother will notice that you're a better person that she is and will either probably envy and hate you more or be ashamed of herself and strive to be a better person and a mother.

Answer 5

umm...yeah.

Your idea will only get you into further trouble.
You will only prove that you are not mature & cannot handle responsibilities. It might make you feel better if you do something sneaky, but what will it really prove?
Adults see things differently from kids. You won't teach her a lesson. It just does not work that way. Trust me, I tried it when I was young & now, as a mom, myself, I see the foolishness so clearly.
I know it is hard. You are getting older & want to assert your independence.
Wait until you are 18 & move out then.
You will only make your life more miserable by doing the things you plan on doing.

Answer 6

Whoa, slow down and take a deep breath. Take a day or two to think about what you are saying and what you are doing.
Maybe, perhaps you should talk to her, face to face, with someone else to act as a referee. You may have some valid points, but at the same time, you are doing things that are going to make her angrier at you. That is not the way to go. You want to win her trust and confidence, so that she will give you more freedom. Lashing out at her is not the way to do it.
Think about who you can talk to about this.

Answer 7

Lick the milk off your lips sweety. Grow up a tiny bit before you lie to your mom about who you are going to the mall with. I'd assume you are probably 13 or 14 by the way you talk. But no worries maturity will hit you one day. My parents mean the world to me no matter how much I fight with them about where I should go to college and when I should start paying my own bills.

Parents are always right. It's easy to say "yeah well we don't get to pick our parents do we?"

Well guess what honey? Parents don't get to pick us kids either

So respect her a little more and do me a favor...grow up.

Answer 8

Stop being stupid. Rebelling against your parents can only lead to one thing. YOUR destruction. Do you think they give you limits to be mean and ruin your life? They are trying to protect you because you are their child and they care about what happens to you. Wanting the truth from you about where you are at all times is only fair as you only THINK you know what dangers are out there.
And considering how stupid you are behaving do you blame them?
Try being honest and mature for a change instead of putting yourself in more trouble.
Girls like you often end up pregnant or on drugs or both. Quit while you are ahead and you havent done anything to seriously ruin your life yet.
They nag because they care. If they didnt then they wouldn't give a d*mn what you did.

Answer 9

Baby, sit your *** down before you end up pregnant, in jail, or dead. Tell you parents you want to be able to talk to them and that you want counseling, for everyone. Tell your counselor at school you need someone to talk to. But that's what you need, someone you can confide in. Not an idea to do something stupid and possibly *** up the rest of your life. Get real. If you want to be grown, want to be responsible. Grow up to be a person who respects others because she respects herself. Someone who, despite where she's come from or what she went through, is proof that you can be what you want to be. And want to be something besides a disrespectful liar. And don't go to hell for hating anybody. They don't deserve that kind of power.

Answer 10

The best thing you can do is to grow up, be strong ,and when the time comes go out on your own and show mom ,and the world the kind of woman you are on the inside. Good Luck!

Answer 11

i almost hate to be saying this, but if you truly need something, when she hits you, report her to children's services. Other than that the best thing for you to do is put up with it, and as soon as you're 18, move out!

I moved out within 2 weeks of turning 18 and have never regretted it once.

For now though, just try and stay out of trouble or it will make things worse.