what does he mean? personal but important?

Question

okay my bf and i have been together for 2 years and 8 months. i sometimes want to be intimate with him and he doesnt say anything just ''me too'' like hes bored. well, we havnt had s ex for about 6 months, and today i wanted to. well, after bugging him!!! we started, then he wanted to stop so we did, and i kinda was sad. i asked him ''u dont want to anymore do u?'' and he said ''it just doesnt feel good with a condom on'' and IN THE PAST HE ALWAYS WANTED TO AND EVEN SAID IT FELT GOOD. he got mad at me for caring about how he never kisses me anymore, never touches me, or never wants''to'' anymore. (when sometimes he hints for me giving him....(down below) i guess he rather has that.AND WANTS that..... im so upset what do i do? it just seems he only cares for himself

i give him what he wants...... if ya know what i mean

Answer 1

Well it sounds like your relationship has lost that flame that once burned inside of both of you! My suggestion is one of two things at this point, you either have to try to find that flame again, but it will take both of you to want to find it. Otherwise as much as I hate to say it, your flame will continue to die out. and both of you will have to move on. The following is only my opinion so please don't take it as more than that. Usually when I guy looses interest in a girl as pretty as you its either because both of you had a fight or disagreement that made him not want to continue the relationship or there is a third party involved, like another girl or someone giving him bad advice maybe. Good Luck! Email Me if you need someone to talk to!

PS. I saw were you wrote that you please him in certain ways, that's just fine, but if he doesn't have interest or will not please you, then he deserves no pleasure.

Answer 2

Girl, catch a hint! Your boyfriend's got a secret and it's not a touch of "boredom." Usually when a guy's interest turns to another person the first sign is that the sex stops and other intimacies like kissing and touching fall off as well.

Ask this guy point blank what the hell is up so that you can kick his butt to the curb. Just so you know, men do not consider oral sex as a form of intimacy-Need I remind you of President Bill Clinton and Monica Lewinsky in which he flat out denied having sex, which he referred to as "relations" with that woman? This form of sex is the man's ideal way to satisfy the body's needs without physical/emotional attachment

Don't wait any longer CONFRONT him today. Be brave and don't beat around the bush because this is your life that he is messing with and you don't have time to be playing games with some immature playboy. There are too many real guys out there who would appreciate a great girl like you so get it straight and move on.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Maybe you should marry him. That way he can do you without a condom, and it doesn't matter if you have kids then because you are a family.

I think that's why he prefers you going down below because then he can at least feel some kind of wetness from your body. I think that all he's wanting is to feel your natural wetness from deep within the core of your body. And if you two have been together for almost three years, it's time to raw-dog it, honey! Or move over to the side, and give another girl a chance.

Answer 4

If he used to say that if felt good with a condom on and now he says it doesn't feel good anymore, then he is doing some other girl without a condom. Otherwise, how would he know the difference?

Answer 5

I think you have to take a good look at your relationship, and what you both want out of it. Relationships only work if both parties are on equal terms of ideals, goals, and values. Sex is an important factor in a relationship, its a time to be intimate and close to each other. Maybe you need to discuss issues with each other... maybe he has fears. Ask why he doesn't enjoy sex anymore. But be sure to tell him how you feel, and how not having sex if effecting you. As for going down below, I wouldn't be doing that, because that's only sending out messages that its OK to attend to his needs without attending to yours. I honestly think your relationship was over 6months ago. But maybe its not 2 late to start over with him... with new values and goals.

Answer 6

Sorry but it sounds like the relationship has run it's course and neither of you is willing to say it. If he doesn't want "it" he doesn't want the intimacy part. But the "below" thing is not intimate. You know what I mean. Time to get a new guy.

Answer 7

sounds like you tha one thats caring more. for me a girl that goes down below alot is (for my opinion) a hoe, but thats my opinion im a straight forward man. this is the situation: he either want a baby (coz he dont want to use a condom) or he wanna give you aids (get him tested) or he not intrested in you. pick any of the 3 very honest answers. peace

Answer 8

First of all, I need more details like has this been going on for awhile and have you tried spending less time together!! Then maybe he might miss you more. Little less routine and go do your own thing and let him come to you!! Try it, it might work, let me know!!

Answer 9

He's either just not that into you anymore or he's actually Gay. Either way he is being selfish not to care about your needs.

Answer 10

something odd about such behavior, he is either very scared you may get pregnant or he may be gay....he could be cheating...because I don't understand a guy not being passionate , especially when he has a partner that is more than willing.