he doesn't satisfy me sexually-not because he can't, he has in the past, it's just that he very rarely pays attention to what I ask for and when he does I don't think he fully understands....I try to communicate clearly and I've done alot for him sexually (I've joined yoga, learned to strip, read every "how to give a bj" book there is; I've bought lingerie and costumes, and he never tries anything new for me...)
he breaks promises all the time...he promises to take me on romantic dates but then expects McDonalds burgers on a blanket in the park to be enough for our three year anniversary...he promises a get-a-way, like the hotel date we were supposed to have yesterday, and it never happens...he promised he would marry me this fall and now he moved the wedding date back several years
and when I had my miscarriage all he wanted was to see a movie with his friend...
I hate him...but I keep thinking this is all somehow my fault
like I'm asking to much
2007-07-02 14:36:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to communicate all of this to your fiance instead of us..if you can, get pre-marital counseling together. Good luck!
2007-07-02 14:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by GoldenGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chic you should go ahead and leave. If you hate him there is no point in staying there and being miserable. Life is too short to be miserable. He sounds like he is a real jerk.. Personally i would have left him when i had the miscarriage and he wanted to go hang with his friends. That should show you that he don't truly care for you. Leave while you can.... the sooner you do it the better. You can find someone that will love and appreciate you for who you are not what you do for them. I think you have went way above and beyond your call of duty to make this man happy... what do you get in return... Misery! You don't deserve to be treated that way... Good luck.
2007-07-02 21:44:39 · answer #2 · answered by brat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You deserve SOO much better than that. I know it hurts to loose him because you think he's all you have but trust me it is worth it. I just broke up with my fiance of 6 yrs because of very similar actions. Do yourself a favor and lose the loser. There are soo many more guys out there willing to do what it takes to make YOU happy. It may take some time but it will be the best in the end. Good luck!
2007-07-02 21:42:50 · answer #3 · answered by chrisnterri520 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With all the books and everything you have learned you need to dump him and give me a call. DAMM!
What a fool he is not to give back to someone who is doing so much. Any marriage will be more of the same. He does not respect you or what you are doing for him. Dump him like a rock, don't talk to him for at least two weeks and see if he comes back begging.
You might be able to shock him back.
If that does not work, email me and we have have a nice vacation date to a remote beach.
2007-07-02 21:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
uumm this fiance of yours is an a**....u do deserve better, you put out alot for him, and hes given u nothin....and the miscarriage thing? WOW hes a jerk, u arent askin for too much, hes not giving u enough! find somebody else, hate to say it, but its true
2007-07-02 21:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by AJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dump him move on.there is someone out there that will be there for you when you need him and not take you for granted.it sounds like he thinks that because you have been together so long he can stop trying but a relationship constantly change and he sounds like he just cant/wont keep up
2007-07-02 21:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by wvgurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
break up with him trsut me. there is better. besides...you wouldnt want to marry him and then take things that far and THEN decide to divorce him...that is going thru too much troublle!!! divorce him while you still have a chance and it wont be AS hard as being married. there is better out there. you can do it. i promise you. you will find someone else that matters to you and you matter to them....the feeling may be mutual !!! do it!
2007-07-02 21:40:54 · answer #7 · answered by soccerlovesit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you engaged to a man you hate? Oh. Better question. Why in the name of heaven did you try to make a baby with a man you hate?! Move on. And be smarter now.
2007-07-02 21:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by Tom K 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
so move on already, what do you expect from the peeps on here? the romance is over. that's what you want is romance. he romanced you enough. why buy the cow when you are getting free milk? somebody musta been sniffing around your panties, thas what usually happens when women start to complain about not getting romanced enough.
2007-07-02 21:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him. Being w/someone you don't want to be with is torturing yourself when you could actually be looking for someone who will be your equal and be caring and sensitive to your needs. Good Luck!
2007-07-02 21:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by MamaBear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋