My fiance's cousin is 18, he has a friend who is 14. My fiance is going to be 20 in August. Keith(his cousin) came over a few weeks ago with this girl who is 14. She seems like she is flirting with him every time she comes over, It makes me worried. He has never cheated on me in the 3 years we have been together, but he jokes with her and things like that and it kind of bothers me. She always wants to come over, with or without my fiances cousin. He says there is nothing to worry about because if he wanted to cheat on me he would have done it already. But I just don't know. And the girls other friends like him too. They always say Hi like in a flirty way, etc. Am I being too Parinoid?
2007-07-02 13:24:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my man is the same way.. he has a flirty personality.. but i trust him more than anything.. i know he wouldn't cheat on me.. and the fact that girls are after him kind of make me smile.. cuz i know he comes home to me at the end of the day.. and im the one that gots him, they can only dream.. though, my man wouldn't let those chicks at our house.. so i think that you need to draw the line some where.. hope i helped..
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2007-07-02 13:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by grneydmexi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and I don't know why on earth you want to get married at this young of an age. Do you think he'll be "all yours" then? Is this your way of securing him? Married men cheat all the time, babe, and then you've got a divorce to look at.
A 20-year-old guy is really not ready to settle down. Just because you've been together for 3 years doesn't mean that marriage is the next logical step. Have you both finished college? Gotten careers under way? There's going to be a lot more stresses in your 20s than some 14-year-old girl hanging around, believe me. If THIS is stressing you out, I'd put marriage on the back burner for a long time.
2007-07-02 20:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be a little paranoid, they are just 14 year old girls and probably have a crush on your fiance, If you guys live together then I think you need to put down your foot and say that you don't wnat then coming over too often, they shoudl get friends of their own age. Anyway it's illegal for a 20 yr to be with a 14 yr old. But in general I don't think you have anything to worry about your more woman than a 14 yr old kid. It's just I bet they have a school girl crush on him.
2007-07-02 20:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your deffinently not paranoid. It seems like maybe you have been cheated on before? I know I have and it's no fun so i understand what your saying. That girl is 14 and your fiance is 20. So I don't think that will happen. But, you should have a talk with your fiancee and see what he says. you never know. also, he's your fiancee your getting married. Hopefully he wouldn't do that to you and screw it all up.
2007-07-02 20:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by brittany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was fed the line for 7 1/2 yrs " if i was going to cheat on you i'd leave you first" BUT that was a just that a LINE he cheated on me more times then i can count (and i can count pretty dang high)
but my question is why is a 18 yr old man with a 14 yr old girl???? FRIENDS or not He needs female friends closer to his own age and i would NOT allow a 14 yr old in my house rather she flirted w/ my b/f or not there is no reason y a 14 yr old is hanging out with OLDER guys except for somthing SHE SHOULDNT EVEN BE THINKING ABOUT YET !
2007-07-02 20:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by atv_chick_2003 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being a little to paranoid. If your fiancee has never given you cause to doubt him in the past, why wouldn't you trust him now? If he says there is nothing going on, then tell him that you are uncomfortable with this girl coming over. If that doesn't work, then talk to the girl, tell her that you don't feel comfortable with her coming over all the time.
2007-07-02 20:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont blame you for getting paranoid if u were. I would be paranoid too, if a girl were being to flirty with my guy and being TOO close. So it's nothing personal just keep a close eye cuz u never know.
2007-07-02 20:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by Sheila ♫ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, a 14 yr old girl is flirty cause they can be. That's their nature. Your boyfriend is right, if he want to cheat, he will, whether or not you bug him about it. A little jealousy and worry goes a long ways. I would drop it.
2007-07-02 20:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by animal lover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't prone to screwing children, I can understand your distress at witnessing such vulgar (and, quite franky, inappropriate) behavior. You need to tell him point blank that it is simply not right for him to joke and carry on with a fourteen year old. You have reason to be concerned but I think that you're worried about the wrong thing. Cheating on you versus child molestation.
2007-07-02 20:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by The Ex Factor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it girl your'e too young to get married!
Im sorry but no 20 year old is mature enough to even fathom what a marriage entails. Cut your losses and move on trust me theres bigger/better fish in the sea!
2007-07-02 20:31:04 · answer #10 · answered by nads 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋