I work for a daycare and this one little boy, 4 and a half keeps peeing himself. it is daily. the parents bring in clothes and tell me to punish him. he poops once a week and pees himself once or twice a day. this has been going on for five months. should i put him back in diapers for a week or so. i'm tired of taking time away from the other kids to change him out of his clothes. what kind if i do that. i want to get this kid to stop doing it. when should i put him in diapers. next accident. next pooping accident. any other suggestions. help me daycare providers please.
2007-07-02 13:17:59 · 14 answers · asked by Ben C 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
First, ask the parents to take the child to the doctor to find out if there's anything wrong. Next, let the parents know this is a problem and takes away from the other children. This is the parents responsibility. Ask them to help the situation. Finally, I would put him in diapers the very next accident. I don't know if your daycare provides potty training, but if the child has this much trouble, then that's a clue that the parents are diapering him at home. This makes it almost impossible at daycare.
An extreme measure would be to either 1). don't allow the child to return, or 2). ask the parents to keep him home for a week until the child is trained. The parents can figure out who stays home between them.
2007-07-02 13:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ophelia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not put him back in diapers. And please don't punish him either!
Think about when he has his accidents. Are they before or after nap? On the playground? Try documenting in a notebook (for your eyes only) the time and what he's doing when he has an accident on a daily basis. Look for patterns, then try to break them. In the meantime, send him potty every half an hour. Stand there with him and watch him go, then congratulate him on being successful, or even on trying hard.
On another note, this kid is four and a half. He'll be going into kindergarten this fall. I think he could probably change his own clothes after he pees in them. You might have to supervise the first couple times, but once he can do it himself you won't have to take time away from the rest of the class. And he just might be more motivated to take himself to the potty! Don't let him change his own poop, though.
2007-07-02 14:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by Meghan H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a day care provider but I can tell you what one did once.
A child of the same age, also a boy, was not trained at all. He still wore diapers, and I don't mean pull-ups or anything of the like. The daycare provider thought a boy of his age should at least try, and she charged the parents an extra $10 per day simply because he would not even attempt to use the toilet and she did not like having to change his diapers.
While it's not completely the parent's fault (I knew the family personally and trust me, they tried EVERYTHING) the daycare used the charge to encourage them to try harder. In reality it's not completely absurd because you are performing extra duties. But also, kids will go when they are ready and not a minute before, so there's only so much you can do.
2007-07-02 13:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a day care provider i think this is an emotional problem. Do not put a 4 year old back in diapers that will not help the problem in the long run. I cant beleive as a child care provider you are even asking this. Do you have an assistant? You need some positive reinforcement. Try a sticker chart give a reward when he goes to the toilet for the whole day. I am afraid as a child care provider you cannot punish the child, you can not put a diaper on him. Your job is to care for this child so if he keeps wetting himself you are going to have to do your job. If you dont want to clean the mess, give him the wipes, toilet paper, him his spare clothes and get him to change himself. He is 4 and quite capible of this. Maybe to you can give the parents some reading materials on toilet training. Get them to do a reward syetem at home. They also need to stop punishing and look at this positivily rather than negativily., Good luck
2007-07-02 13:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by Iamme 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Punishing him is the worst thing to do
It could be somthing he can not help A MEDICAL REASON
it could be stress related, what i suggest doing is taking a little more time with him, and maybe take him to use the restroom more often then the rest of the kids go - I'm not sure if you do it like grade schools do it, they all go to the restroom at the same time a cpl times through out the day
if he would by chance have a medical problem he would need more trips to the restroom, pehaps eery 20 mins or so for a few days, Dirrectly after snack/ lunch time or any time he get's a drink
but Plz don't punish him that will only make it worse
DOes he do anything to give off a sign that he has to go to the bathroom before he wets hisself? like grabs his crouch , crosses his legs and starts bending at the knees (other wise known as he Pee Pee dance) does he all of a sudden go off some where by himself then come back wet?
he could also be having Seperation issues from his parent(s)
I would suggest to the parents taking him to the doctor to get him checked out my niece wet the bed uptil she was 14 when her mom FINALLY took her to the doctor, her bladder had growths on it (it made it look like it had ears) and that is was causing her to wet the bed,
it could be a number of differnt things, perhaps his bladder is not strong enough yet, it might not be completly formed, it could be deformed, etc
2007-07-02 13:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by atv_chick_2003 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a daycare provider and as a provider i am allowed to sit the children down for a time out but other than that there is no other punishment. As for him peeing himself i agree with the pull ups and talking with the parents about it. He is not going to learn if you teach him and the parents dont follow through with it at home. As far as not having the time rather or not if he should be trained and isnt that is our job as daycare providers. I dont believe punishing a child for not being able to go when he hasnt been taught by now is going to help him learn to go.
2007-07-02 13:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by aaltw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a daycare working and you don't know what to do in this situation? People are acutally PAYING you? It is quite simple. You tell the parents that OBVIOUSLY there child is NOT potty trained and that he should still be in diapers until he is fully potty trained. If your facility works with parents potty training you can tell them that you will do so but you are not to punish the child for doing what comes naturally, and if the parents ARE punishing this poor child then CPS needs to be called in.
2007-07-02 22:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a little boy who does the same...he's 7!! Sorry to say, you can do all you can, but if the parents are not on board with you, it won't help. I sat down with both parents of this little boy, and said...this is what I want to do........I told them about what I do which is every 30min (I know it takes a lot of time, but it worked in 1 week) have him go to the bathroom. He can't just say he went, you have to go in with him and make sure he tries. If he goes...praise him, praise him, praise him!! even get out a board with his name on it, and a 'potty'; every time he 'goes' he gets a sticker and if he stays dry all day, he gets a special surprise(find a little trinket to give him). Now, to make it so the other kids are not jealous of the extra time, give them something on the chart also..... I know that this sounds like a lot of work...but trust me, it is a lot less work then changing him many times a day!! It only took me a week to get him out of the rut!! Just be sure the parents ore on the same page as you are and do the same things at home, otherwise it won't work at all!!
Good Luck
Momma P
2007-07-02 13:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Momma P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the parents are not trying to potty train him, and they expect the daycare to do it for them. You could do a few things, 1)Tell your supervisor and ask her to tell the parents that he will be in a diaper when he is at daycare, until they get him trained. or 2) You could work on it yourself, get reward treats or sticker charts. Good Luck!
2007-07-02 13:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by serendipity_siren 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother runs a daycare! Usually the kids would wear pull ups and whenever they had to go they would tell my grandmother and she would rush them to the bathroom b4 they have an accident. IF they do have an acident changeing them is a breez remove the pull up put a new one.
2007-07-02 13:23:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋