Does this sound like love to you?

Question

Im the type of person who always second guesses myself on whether i like people. it drives me nuts.i think what scares me is that ill have to be with him forever and im thinking way ahead to marriage and stuff. i know its crazy, im young i should enjoy myself but its hard cause i think to much about it. i think i am thinking too hard on this but just tell me what you think. i can never get him off of my mind, he makes me feel good about myself, when im with him the world feels quiet and calm and i dont think about anything else but him, i respect him for who he is, and im not embarassed by him at all. Does this sound like love to you?

The only thing is, is that i really dont know how i feel about him. i know hes sweet but i really dont know how i feel. i know it seems stupid, but i cant tell you how i feel about him except for what ive already said. sometimes i feel like i dont deserve him because he treats me so good. i have my whole life ahead of me.

Answer 1

Sounds to me like you really are just infatuated with him... You don't sound like you are ready for the commitment of marriage... One thing my Mom told me a LONG time ago to use as a measure of my real feelings was.... "Can you see yourself changing his/her adult diapers??" Or "Can you handle waking up to his/her face for the rest of your life??" Trust me, it takes seconds to say "I Do", and a life time to deal with mistakes...
Your best bet is to SLOW DOWN.. You sound like you have a REALLY good head on your shoulders, you need to listen to your inner voice.. the feeling of being scared by spending your life with this person tells you two things... One, you are not ready, and Two he may not be "Mr Right" and down you know it.. I don't know your age, but that really doesn't matter.. You have a short time to be young... Adult life takes many more years... Continue to listen to your inner voice !!!! No one can tell you WHAT to think... You already know.. your inner voice is telling you not to commit... This may be right, but just not right now...

Answer 2

Take a deep breath. Now Think of nothing but the stuff you two have already done. If you two have never had a fight and have been dating for more than a month it might not be a good relationship. It means you two either agree on everything(which can really get annoying)or you two are not being open and honest (which means you don't trust each other to handle things that need to be said.) Marriage is okay to think about because you want to get married but talk to him about it. ask if you two were still together when the time was right would he marry you. that is one way to find out if he really loves you.

Answer 3

There's an old Chinese proverb saying that goes like: ' Bend like a bamboo with the wind' which simply means, let what's going to happen happen. Don't worry about it so much, if the feelings are true then, it will happen and will piece together like a puzzle. There's no rule that you have to do anything so don't. Be truthful to yourself, it will benefit not just you but the other person involved as well.

Answer 4

I am the EXACT same way. Nobody will be able to tell you if you are in Love with him. Love is different for everyone (in a sense). So if you are feeling this way and you just started dating him it may just be infatuation. If its been a while then you could be in love with the guy. In the beggining of a relationship we are trying to impress one another to keep them around and that may not be who they Really are later into the relationship. So he may be like this now but a few more months down the road he may not be like this anymore. But If you are in love with him you'll realize it yourself and everything will work out.

Answer 5

well how old are you? even though love has no age..it depends...cause if you're really young...everything changes with time...if you still feel the same way as you grow older...yes it is love...for now you can say it is friendship and u sure have an attraction for the person...it can develop into a relationship if u let it to...because a 'love' is a strong word...in love people stay with each other through tough times and good times...so yeah...it doesnt matter what we think anyways..what do YOU think? if YOU think it is love...so it is ;)

Answer 6

I was same way. I couldn't really decide what I liked and if things were for real. That was until i met by boyfriend. Right now it sounds like you really like the guy and thats the base of love.Eventually it might grow into love the more you spend time with him and get to know him. Trust me when its love you will know. You won't have to ask anybody about it.

Answer 7

To be honest, what's the harm with thinging about marriage? I think you'll find most girls have their dress, place, cake and songs picked out and finding a guy to share that with is all part of it. Just because you are thinking about it doesn't mean you're going to march him off down the aisle next week! Perfectly healthy I think! (or I hope so coz I do exactly the same!!!)

Answer 8

I think you are in love. But I think you should take it easy. How long have u been dating? Do u think it is long enough to be thinking about marriage? Why do you say you are not embarrasssed by him? If you were not in love with him would he embarras you?
It is great that he makes you feel good. If you just started dating than I understand why you always think about him. And that is totally OK. Just be careful, I would not like to see you get hurt.

Answer 9

It sounds like love, but make sure you date him a while and this feeling continues for a long time. Almost all relationships feed like this at first. It takes a while to really get to know someone though. Give it time to make sure the love is real.

Answer 10

Are you in an actual love-type-relationship, or is it just a friendship catching on fire? How does he feel about you? It takes 2 people to make a relationship, not just 1 trying to figure out if she is in love.
Just take it slow and let things unfold naturally.