I was wondering if my boyfriend was using me... I feel like sex is all i'm good for. He treats me like im wonderful. But i treat him poorly. I dont understand why he'd want me. I'm feel like... theres no reason he should like me. is sex all i'm good for? He said its okay if we didn't have sex or anything anymore. but I still feel like hes using me. I dont know why. he seems sad about us not having sex. I dont want him to be sad.
2007-07-02 11:37:46 · 35 answers · asked by clover.hearts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You treat him bad and he's the one using you....sound a little backwards too me.
Your the one doing the using as far as I can see.
2007-07-02 11:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's many reasons you should start liking yourself. Sex isnot the only thing you're good at. And if u don't want him to be sad, why u treat him poorely? Chear up, feel more confident about urself, and ur relation, then work on treating him better, and creat enjoyable times rather than sex. This will help both of u, still, when u feel like sex, Never Hesitate! the best sex comes from the best realtionship, they're not apart, it's one whole issue.
2007-07-02 11:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by Reham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he's sad. Wouldn't you be?
You seem young, which makes it worse.
If he treats you well, he's not using you. If you treat him poorly - don't. Guys won't stick around just for the sex and treat someone well. He would treat you bad right back. He may just be a pushover or not know how to stick up for himself.
Either way, you don't want a guy like that!
2007-07-02 11:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think these feelings are normal. However if you truely treat him "poorly" then he wouldn't still be using you for only sex. If he's still with you after being treated badly and hasn't developed an attitude toward you then I would say he's in love. Hope it helps
2007-07-02 11:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by dwydale 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well any guy would be sad if their girlfriend or wife said "no more sex". The sad part is normal. Only time will tell if he is using you. If he was then he will stop being nice to you and go after another girl or just dump you.
2007-07-02 11:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by faintlysocold 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are YOU having sex? Do you feel that is the only way that you can keep him or make him love you? I get the feeling that you don't really want to be having sex. Besides that, premarital sex is unhealthy and emotionally and psychologically damaging to your future relationships and your self esteem. A guy will only use you if he sees that you do not love yourself enough to demand that he treats you with respect and honor. If you do not love and honor yourself and your body, why would he?
2007-07-02 11:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The better question is are you using him? He's treating you like a princess, and you're treating him poorly. If you're not head-over-heels with this guy, break it off.
2007-07-02 11:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you suspect it, trust that feeling. From what you describe, it seems so. The next boyfriend ought not to get you into bed so fast. Do not let yourself be used anymore. Show him that you are a person of class, restraint and character.
2007-07-02 11:43:49 · answer #8 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're the one using him when you said that you treat him poorly.
2007-07-02 11:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by yellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. you think every things all about you. stop being selfish he doesn't just use you if he treats you wonderful. He is blinded by love.Its more like you are using him or taking advantage of his kindness. take a step back and look at the way you are acting its not fair to him. Break up wtih him or change your selfish ways.
2007-07-02 11:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by *smiLe :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋