I am unloved and underestimated at work :( ....?

Question

I am not very loved at work... I eel that the other girls don't love me... first, I'm new, i've been working with them or three months and hey play the "know it all" and hey all wanna act as if they were my mnagers just because they have more exprience.. they're constantly looking after what I've done to make sure I haven't made mistaks (as if was dumb) . If I make a mistak they complain "why didn't you ask since you don't know" and if I ask they get annoyed and coplain that I ask too many questions


worse, one customer admitted he had a crush on me, and my co worker told everyone an told them who he is and everybody refuses to tell me who he is... they laugh and joke about it and I still don't know who he is

and I also try to be nice with customers... this girl said that I was flirting with some customer (who is about my father's age) and when I stood up to defend myself she was like "it's a joke"


why do they under estimate me and dislike me? what do I do ? :(

Answer 1

Honestly, it sounds like you are being over-sensative. It's nice to be able to be friends with your co-workers but remember, you're there to do a job and make money, that's what matters. If you want to fit in better try having more of a sense of humor with them. Good luck!

Answer 2

They seem hard to get along with, this will be a great place for you to learn to deal with difficult people. Make is a challange, just think next job you will be able to say you get along well with others.
You don't need to like coworker but you do need to work together. Try to find the balance between asking too many questions and not enough. Ignore the petty stuff, do what your manager wants even if the coworkers make fun of you. They may be teasing because you react.

Answer 3

Get a new job, honey. I spent four years in a job I was excellent at but hated because of the people, the crappy pay, and the total lack of appreciation. Sometimes it's just the company culture that fosters negative behavior in their employees and there isn't much you can do about that except quit and make your feelings clear in your exit interview (professionally, of course).

I finally realized life is too short to spend it in a job that makes you unhappy!!! I told my boss I was searching for a new job and she immediately gave me a promotion and 40% pay raise to get me to stay. It STILL wasn't worth it and I continued my job search. I soon got a new job for TWICE the money they were paying me (even after the raise) and said sayanara! I'm much happier now and in a much more positive environment where I am appreciated for what I do and don't have to put up with juvenile idiocy or stupid snotty guttersnipes with nothing better to do than create drama.

I'll say it again - life is too short to spend it in a job you hate or that's making you miserable!!

Best wishes to you and I hope you can find something that makes you happy!

Answer 4

You are the new girl. This position always cause fear and dislike in anyone who is not in that position. When you agreed to take the job was popularity contest listed on your job description? If not just do your job and stop letting the hags know they are getting to you. Do not follow in their footsteps or else that makes you no better than them. Do your job to the best of your ability and let your boss judge your job performance not the office haters. The only way to keep them from underestimating you is to raise the bar so they have to concentrate more on their own job performance and less on yours.

Answer 5

This is called "workplace politics." You probably won't feel comfortable there until you move up in seniority. Unfortunately, many people who have been through this kind of treatment fall into the trap of treating the new person the same way. If you decide to stay, rise above that kind of behaviour so that the workplace becomes a better environment.

Answer 6

Just concentrate on doing your job well. The others should be trying to help you achieve your goals, not let you struggle along. Sounds like they are unprofessional.
How can people become multi-skilled without help and guidance from others already in the job. They dont have the best interests of the organisation they work for in mind, just their own silly agenda's.

Answer 7

They're stupid little girls who once were new and felt the same way....instead of making you feel at home and developing you into a valuable team member, they are choosing to use you as entertainment. Don't buy into it. Laugh along with their jokes when appropriate (when they are poking fun at you...do NOT join in when they are doing it to someone else), otherwise, do your job the best you possibly can. Realize that managers and supervisors do watch and see who is serious and who isn't. Don't worry about them. If you were homely and stupid, they wouldn't feel threatened. They are jealous.

Answer 8

Sounds like you're a threat to your co-workers because of your excellent skills, knowledge and talent.
One thing you can do (which I find works well) is ask for your co-workers to help you with something, even if you already know how to do it. The trick is, you really have to sound convincing and sincere. When you ask for help, really sound like you need it, or else they will know what you're up to and they'll just act like they dislike you even more.

Answer 9

Dont feel bad about what they do. They are playing mind games with you. Women are like that. Remember middle school? High school? Just focus on doing the best job, and play along with them. Dont let them ever know that you arent playing along with them, or they will really try to destroy you. They sound like they are aggressive, and bullies. Feel good about yourself. Dont ever question your abilities when others are inconsistent with their comments. You are not responsible for someone elses actions, only your own. Do the best job you can do, and learn from this experience. There will be plenty more experiences like this one, and you will be more prepared.

Answer 10

Uh, expecting coworkers to love you is unrealistic.

You're all there to work, not give and get love.

It sounds like one of those work places where there's a clique, and the newbie gets the treatment.

You could try to talk to your supervisor about it, but you might want to start looking for another job.

Um, when you started there, it was perfectly reasonable for them to show you the ropes, as they DO know the job better than you.