...would it be too much for me to ask her to dye it back to her "normal" color for the wedding? I don't want to have a bridesmaid who has neon glow hair in my wedding pictures. I don't want to be mean or turn into a bridezilla... (My wedding is still a year away, but I just want to find out the etiquette on this JUST in case she keeps it this color or dyes it again to another crazy color. This is the first time I've ever seen her do this to her hair, so I was shocked the first time I saw her with this hair.)
2007-07-02 11:21:27 · 23 answers · asked by mcmuffin324 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if it's a year away, i would hold off talking to her. 2 months away, i would try to tactfully tell her...because pink is not natural color. tell her you want all the girls to look natural in your pictures.
maybe she will decide on her own that that is not a good look for her.
2007-07-02 11:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
With a year to go, I really don't think it's worth saying anything.
Actually, even if it gets closer, the most I think you could say properly is a quiet comment that you prefer her hair in its natural color. If she takes the hint, great. If she doesn't, well then in years to come if she complains about the dress you can point and laugh at her neon hair...so long as you're both laughing at the time.
And who knows? By this time next year you may not think of it as a kooky color hair dye, but simply as what she looks like.
I really do think it's best to let bridesmaids make their own personal grooming decisions and focus more on the friendship than the photographs. I know you're only asking just in case, but sometimes it helps to think about the question in the baldest possible terms.
People can get very defensive about choices like hair dye, tattoos, and piercings. Proceed with caution and make sure you take your friend's feelings very strongly into account...should she keep the wild hair color at all.
2007-07-02 13:20:28 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HI, IF your wedding is a year away.......Calm down. As someone who colors their hair alot, she will change it again before your wedding, and the next time she'll do it you may very much love it. So DON'T jump the gun to fast. lol Stay calm but when your weeding is 3 months away and she does the ezact same thing, Then this is your moment and you want it to be perfect in your eyes. So, at that point explain it to her that you love her hair but would rather if she changed it for your wedding because it is your day! It only comes once so she should respect that! I hope I could help feel free to respond if you want to talk about it. I have aim and myspace IM if you want to chat that way! Congrats on the wedding! :)
2007-07-02 11:34:14 · answer #3 · answered by venus m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of my cousins had a similar thing happen. They had organised bridesmaid dresses that were backless and then one of the maids got a huge dragon tattooed right across both shoulders. The bride said she wouldn't like that in the wedding photos, when they would be standing up the front, so they had to hurriedly organise jackets for them. The bride was not pleased!
But hair colour, as the others said, is far easier to change, and it might be worthwhile, hinting to her now, that you would prefer a more natural look for the wedding.
Good Luck!
2007-07-02 11:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a year away!!!!! Chill out love, maybe she dyed it this far in advance so that she has enough time to grow it out. Honestly, just because you are getting married it does not mean you can take over your friends lives for the year before. Wait til around a couple of months before the wedding and say to her that her natural colour is much more flattering than her bright hair.
2007-07-02 22:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The wedding is still a year away - the colour will either fade or grow out by that time. I would just leave it alone for now. Or, maybe make some joke about it being like that for your wedding and clashing with the wedding colours. She might say not to worry and it'll be back to normal by then.
2007-07-03 04:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
phew! at least its a year away...give it some time- this might just be a "thing" for her...but in a few months if it still is flourescent- you might want to start out (jokingly) by asking her "what color will it be for the wedding? and can I make a request?"
honestly- if she is truly a friend- this isn't a shocking thing for her to do...if it IS out of character, she'll change it back and probably won't be offended...if this IS something she would do- she will be offended if you ask her to change it...
but you still have a year! good luck- hope it works out
2007-07-02 11:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by jmd72inva 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
LOL, is she by any chance 18? I ask because I did the same thing when I was 18 and was on my own at college for the first time, only it was 8 days before my sisters wedding and our dresses were fuscia(I have naturally light blonde hair). I thought it was great, but my parents had a fit when I called to tell thm, I have never heard my dad so angry and thank goodness I was about 3 states away from him or else who knows, I might not be here today! I had to sit for 2 days with Tide on my head to get it out. Alot of embarrassment went with me those 2 days, after the first it was a cotton candy pink and I walked around with a towel on my head to keep the Tide in, but it came out. Of course at the wedding I got alot of "We were expecting pink hair" smarmy comments from everyone.
I would tend to think that since she's never done this before and the wedding is so far away that she would be normal for your day. I dont know if its appropriate to ask because you didnt ask her because of her hair, you asked her because of who she is to you, and I dont normally think its appropriate to attach strings to such things (like when people ask others to cover tatoos in order to be in their wedding, I hate that) I think I would sit down and casually talk to her about it, why did she do it, how long is she planning on having it this way, are any other colors going to be tried out, stuff like that to get a feel of what the hair situation is and will be. I wouldnt go in with the "You're going to dye it back for the wedding right" attitude because you run the risk of pissing her off and having her keep it this way just out of spite.
Good luck!
2007-07-02 11:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, it would not bother be if a bridesmaid had an unusual haircolor!
If it did, maybe I would ask them all to wear updos or hats. If you are still in the planning stages of your wedding ....you should ask this within 3 months of the wedding.....unless someone asks sooner? If it really bothers you, there is always photoshop!
2007-07-02 11:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try convincing her that you liked the way her hair was before such as i really like you black hair better for example
or black was a good look for you
lol thats a tuffy cause u dont want to be mean and be like dye it back try being nice or just give it some time most people that dye there hair weird colors get sick of it and maybe who knows she will go for a more normal look
hope everything works out =]
2007-07-02 11:26:37 · answer #10 · answered by Kaitlyn =] 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tyou don't have to ask her now since it is only a year away. but i would hint something not in a way to hurt her feelings or sounding bridezillaish. i would say" I hope you change your hair color by the time the wedding come" but don't tell her dye it back now. it's only a year away if she's really your friend she wouldn't do anything like that to hurt you onyour wedding day.
2007-07-02 13:23:37 · answer #11 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋