2007-07-02 11:18:25 · 45 answers · asked by HO 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell him let's start with a guy
2007-07-06 02:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is the fantasy of most men, however, for him to ask you means either
A) you've said something that leads him to believe that you might be willing
or
B) he does not respect you and is only out for himself.
I don't know a single guy who has asked the woman he loves and cherishes for a 3some without her having prior hinted that it would be something she would or could consider.
If (A) doesn't apply to you - dump him - unless you just want to do a 3some, too.
2007-07-02 11:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Poppa Bear 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No...BUT...if you're not comfortable with doing that then he should respect your decision!!!!!
If he tries to pressure you into doing something that you don't want to do then he's just being selfish and disrespectful to your feelings! In that case, he's only concerned with what he wants and that's not the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with!
It's okay to explore things with your partner which may be what he wants to do but that requires good communication and respect for your partner's likes and dislikes.
DON'T ever compromise your beliefs, morals, and better judgement for anyone else and don't let anyone try to pressure you into doing that either!
You are in control of you! You do what you want and what feels right to you and your body! Follow your instincts while being true to yourself!
If he loves and respects you...he won't try yo pressure you!
2007-07-02 11:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite the pile of negative answers you're going to get..not necessarily does it mean he doesn't 'love' you. It may mean that he is so comfortable and secure with you that he feels okay about telling you what his fantasies are. The only person who can answer this for you..is him. Sit down with him and have a long heart to heart talk. If the idea makes you uncomfortable..say so. Never do anything you aren't willing to try..no matter who is asking. He should understand either way.
2007-07-02 11:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. It means your boyfriend cares more about himself and his needs than about you. He will probably say something like, "If you really loved me, you'd do this with me." Since you don't seem to be comfortable with this, give him the same rhetoric, "If YOU really love ME, you wouldn't ask me to do this at all."
Is this a relationship you think may lead to marriage? Ask yourself what you want out of this. Never do something you feel uncomfortable doing just to keep a guy around.
2007-07-02 11:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by grygazol 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your boyfriend, but... While it may be that he loves you... I doubt that he's IN LOVE with you. I would ask him why he wants one. If he just wants an adventure in bed even though you have doubts... and he still keeps bringing the subject up, or pressures you to agree... Then it's time to let him go. He's not ready to settle into anything long term. He needs to grow up.
2007-07-02 12:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by ✿Donna❀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it probably depends more on his personality than anything. Some guys are wired more towards those kinds of things based on their life experience. If he is pushing for it regardless of how you feel about it I would question his ability to be faithful in the future.
2007-07-02 11:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by Oh Snap! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello,
congratulations u got 40 answers ;), see just keep asking.
i`ll ask u one think, do u think that he loves u really? and ask urself do u feel that ur not enough? cause he never do something to treat u badly, enless if he just having fun with u, i mean he doesn`t love.
i guess ur guy like u said before he`s not serious, he can do what he want because he`s so far from u.
in my opinion, just cut it, he dont deserve u.
kiss
2007-07-02 20:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Je t`aime 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you need to talk to him about that becuz he mite want more action from u or he mite lik another girl but he still mite lik u too so if i were u i would find a guy that had respect for u and isnt an idiot and if u dont want to do that then talk to him about this and maybe u will be able to work something out
2007-07-02 11:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. If you were not sleeping with him, this wouldn't be a problem.
2. You better get your language straight or you'll never get a good job. Bosses don't hire people who don't speak proper English.
3. In my day and age, if your BF wants to sleep with someone else (with you or not) he's cheating. How can this possibly be great for you? But he's having fun, isn't he? And no, he doesn't love you, not really, unless he only wants to sleep with you.
2007-07-02 11:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't do it!
It is a fantasy that lots of guys have. Ask anyone who has done it and you will find out that they broke up shortly after.
I will tell you the truth, this is the kind of guy you will never ever be able to trust and he will cheat on you for ever.
A fantasy is one thing, but the reality will destroy you.
2007-07-02 11:24:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋