Well my aunt is flying in from Holand this weekend and she is going to be in town for the month of July, and i have been with my bf for 4 years, and i told him that i would need to spend time with my aunt and take her around Seattle and show her places but he was not happy about it.
I told him the nicest way, and i told him that i'm not going to ignore him its just that we wont spend that much time like we always do, but it is only for a month and we still have the rest of the summer together.
I would like to take him with us but he doesnt want to come anywhere with us.
Help!!!! thank you.
2007-07-02 10:37:38 · 5 answers · asked by RAZZEL-DAZZEL 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not scared of my family or anything like that..... lol, i think he might be shy but he never is shy, so i dont know. and he doesnt want to talk about it.
2007-07-02 10:42:45 · update #1
Why wouldnt he want to come along sometimes? Scared of your family?
2007-07-02 10:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by melya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AHA! You DID offer to include him. If he pouts now, he is being manipulative, childish, spoiled and demanding.
Do not let this guy try to ruin everything for you. He is immature and controlling. Go ahead and have a wonderful time and enjoy your visit with your aunt. And if your boyfriend picks a fight, or becomes cold and distant - just ignore him. Or better yet, dump him. He isn't mature enough or worthy of you. He should be able to do without you for a few weeks while your aunt is in town. If he can't, then your 'true love' isn't so true is it? After all, real love survives the test of time. And then on top of it, you offered to INCLUDE him with everyone in the fun times! If he declines now and is angry or hurt, then he is just a spoiled child. Don't fall for that crap. He is trying to manipulate you into apologizing to him and groveling to him on your knees. You have nothing to apologize for.
And stop saying "Help!!!" as if you were screaming out of a window in a burning building. It's not that critical. If you can't see what's going on, then you are too immature for a relationship yourself.
2007-07-02 10:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is just being selfish and childish. Just do what you need to do with you aunt. Invite him to come with you a lot and still try to make a little bit of time for the two of you. He will get over it and if he doesn't then hes just a big baby and you should find yourself a man.
2007-07-02 10:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your boyfriend is acting in a selfish ,immature, uncaring, and controlling manner.I find it hard to accept the fact that you have been with this guy for 4years;unless he just recently became this way. He is not exhibiting the qualities of love--compassion, patience,understanding, tenderness, support---that you need now.He is simply intent on control; either to prove you love him or that he can. Have another talk with him on the virtues of love that I mentioned above. Ask him to support you at this time when you need him . If he refuses to change his position, then I think you need to reconsider the entire relationship and your boyfriend.
2007-07-02 11:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being extremly selfish, i hate to say it.
I mean, it's your AUNT. not a GUY friend or something.
Tell him you've offered to let him come, he refused, so really, he has no reason to be upset. If anyone does, it's you.
2007-07-02 10:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋