I have paruresis ("shy bladder"), which means I physically can't pee with other people around or if my time is limited. However, whenever I try to tell anyone about it, they either accuse me of being a germophobe or think I'm making it up. This causes big problems with my family; when we go on long trips, they always pressure me into using public facilities and then ask me why I didn't pee. (I should add that I'm a 16 year old girl.) I try to explain, but they get really mad at me for being "picky" or "too self-conscious". Has anyone else ever had to deal with people not believing them about this? How did you eventually get through it?
2007-07-02 10:28:35 · 6 answers · asked by Lycanthrope777 5 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Don't give some stupid answer if you've never had this problem; you don't know what it's like if you haven't. Sorry if that's rude, but you just don't know unless you've personally dealt with it...
2007-07-03 17:04:29 · update #1
My daughter has this and the way we relieved most of her issues is that when she has to go on trips or is away from home she ALWAYS carries her mp3 player in her pocket and puts them on before she leaves the car to go to the restroom. What we found with her is that it wasn't the place with people, it was the people making noise and talking that made her get "shy bladder."
You can try this trick and see if it works for you like it did my daughter. She has issues every once and a while but not like before.
2007-07-02 10:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am the same way, I just deal with it, and I don't feel the need to explain anymore. I always come back with" we have been through this before, you never believe what I am telling you," so I won't say a word about it.
2007-07-10 05:50:20 · answer #2 · answered by cheri h 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
tell them you have a medical condition (give them the name so they can look it up themselves)...then if you are at a rest area or other public facility have someone stand guard at the door and tell whoever tries to enter that the restroom had to be cleaned (this will give you the time and peace that you need)
i havent been there but you have my sympathy
2007-07-02 17:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by pocahontas80_1999 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'm a male and i have the same problem . i just wait until everybody is gone or i leave and come back a minute later .
just tell your rude family this is a privacy issue and you cant help it.
2007-07-08 22:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Shark 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well well well .... an actress in Greece had said that when she was a teenager , she had the same exactly problem !She said that being shy is bad !you are being "closed"" from others , you don't share with anything , they don't share anything with you ...Genneraly , being shy is BAD !
But ... for be more commuticated !you must look around and understand who are your REAL F.R.I.E.N.D.S ... If you see that the are worring about you, the want to be with you ... talk with them ... Also ... you can make new friends from your school ! ---Party--- invite some friends from your school !!not only close friends !!when the come you party talk with them !learn more about them ...both of you share your phone number ...that could be a good idea ! good luck !
2007-07-10 12:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by Starsailor Chris 1 · 0⤊ 5⤋
yes i had this problem till i was 30 something then it just went away it is awful and i understand your frustration hang in there you will be ok god bless you
2007-07-09 14:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by lulu 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋