Is suicide the only way out with a personality disorder?

Question

They are not treatable with meds and you can't change yourself.

Answer 1

you can change I have borderline personality disorder and DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) Is very good in the treatment for it.

Answer 2

many people seem to think medication will "fix you" by itself, but the point is to lessen symptoms to allow you to work on the actual issues that are causing these symptoms (but i know it's a long difficult process finding the right medication) - you did not say what personality disorder you believe to have, but many are caused by bad thought patterns you don't even realize are there anymore that CAN be worked on and changed, by you alone or with the help of a therapist, friend, book, whatever - there can also be physical problems that are causing your mental and emotional pain - again, i have no real information, it could be anything from poor nutrition to heavy metal poisoning

i'm not sure if any of this is useful, but my point is that there are many options you never hear about - ones that allow you to become a healthy and happy person, alive


http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/

National Suicide Hotlines USA
Toll-Free / 24 hours a day / 7 days a week

1-800-SUICIDE 1-800-273-TALK
1-800-784-2433 1-800-273-8255

http://www.psycom.net/depression.central.suicide.html


EDIT: in the time i took forming my answer, 30 other people answered that they didn't want you to die yet, people you don't even know - you're not alone

Answer 3

No, of course it isn't. As long as you're breating, there's always a chance and a hope. Some personailty disorders *are* treatable with meds. And changing yourself is ALWAYS possible, depending on how much you WANT to. The most useful thing for treating this would probably be having a support network (or finding one) and getting a good therapist you trust.

Answer 4

That is why people try suicide. It is a way out of the pain and out of the world that causes or makes the pain worse. Therapist and friends may say there are other ways around this, to not give up, you are young, blah, blah, blah. They do not understand how I feel, or what I been through. The world is a lonely place when suicide is your next step.
I do not have much advice for you since I have a mood disorder and not personality disorder. I try to think of of the people I will end up hurting if I made a successful attempt at suicide like my immediate family. If they were not around, I sure would not be here.

Answer 5

Your statement is accurate that personality disorder can't be 'cured' with medication and that you can't change yourself. There is, however, another way and that is psychotherapy. There has been a lot of research and work in recent years around this issue, and there are currently a number of pilot projects happening under the NHS in the UK to identify the most effective therapeutic help with personality disorders. There are therapeutic communities (some residential, some where you attend on a daily or several times weekly basis) in both the US and the UK, which have good results. Individual psychotherapy is also highly effective with a good psychotherapist. Try to find someone with experience with personality disorders - and possibly with a background in Self Psychology (a branch of psychoanalytic psychotherapy originated by Heinz Kohut in Chicago). You might also find it helpful to read "The Search for the Real Self" by James Masterson, M.D., or look at the websites set up by service users diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (the most common personality disorder), eg http://www.borderlineuk.co.uk

Answer 6

Cooperating with the Intense therapy & meds can improve the problems a lot!
Suicide is not the answer! Read this first ! http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/
People with BPD symptoms may begin therapy, but their impulsivity and difficulties with authority cause two-thirds of patients to cease treatment within months. Group therapy may be more effective than individual therapy, as many BPD patients have authority issues and tend to resist the authority of the therapist. Group therapy can help treat self-destructive and other impulsive behavior.

Medication must be treated with caution when given to people with borderline personality disorder. the impulsive nature of BPD raises the danger that patients will either not comply with medication schedules, or will abuse the medication.

While BPD treatments are limited, time brings some symptom relief. Borderline personality disorder symptoms, and suicide risk, are highest when the affected person is a young adult. By the time most people with BPD reach their forties symptoms have diminished somewhat and they are better able to function socially.

Answer 7

No!

Increasingly, people are finding ways to treat certain personality disorders. For example, the category of Borderline Personality Disorder can often be treated well by treating it as a form of Dissociative Disorder, and working with the subpersonalities (so to speak) and the basis of the trauma. Many can be treated with behavioral methods, and if it's done by a therapist (or even relative or friend) you like, you can make good progress with it. For example, Antisocial Personality Disorder can be treated that way. Others, like Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, respond to talk therapy.

Don't give up! There's lots of help available! People get better all the time!

Answer 8

Hi Billy.

I know exactly what you are going through. It's not the actual PD that is making you suicidal, but depression which is one of the signs of Borderline PD.

What you need is an anti-d to combat this followed by some CBT and maybe ask the be referred to a therapeuic community, where everyone there has the same problems and give each other ideas on how to overcome it.

I frequent a forum called BPD World. http://www.bpdworld.org.uk

Answer 9

Some people, like myself, have learned to live healthy lives with them. Some people do well with meds and some learn to cope without them.
Granted, there are some who have tried all kinds of treatment with no help, but the majority of people with personality disorders lead normal and happy lives.
You also need to take into consideration that there are many different kinds of personality disorders and many different classes and levels to each one.
To assume that suicide is the only way to treat people with personality disorders is ignorant and suggestion of international genocide.

Answer 10

You CAN change yourself! You can do anything you put your mind to and you make yourself they way you are and only you can change it!! There are other options than suicide, talk to your doctor. GET HELP ASAP!! But don't commit suicide, there is NOTHING EVER that bad, there are always other options! If you commit suicide think of how many peoples lives you are destroying!

Answer 11

Suicide,Ask me and my children. It is not the way to fix things.Myself and my children are having no fun in this week. Three years ago my husband shot himself.It has hurt the family more than anything you have to talk about. They may be upset,but you will still be there.Talk to some-one ,be willing if they are upset,it is only because they love you.There is always hope if you keep trying! Do Not Give Up!