About a month ago, I met a fantastic guy! My cousin found out and made the comment that she hopes to meet someone like this. She is 25 and involved with a man that is 13 years older with her, who has four children, and a girlfriend. He has lied to her repeatedly, and the only way she knew he was still with his girlfriend was because she had THEIR baby in the same hospital my cousin works at. Yet she forgave him, and they are still "together" but she always complains about him. SO recently the guy i'm involved with mentioned his cousin, who seems like a good guy...no kids no gf, etc. I asked my cousin if she'd be interested in his cousin and she eagerly agreed. I told her to be on the lookout for his number on her cell phone, because he WOULD be calling. The next day she told me his number came up, but she couldn't answer and she promised to call him back. Well, I talked to my guy today and he said that his cousin has called my cousin everyday, and she still hasn't returned
2007-07-02 09:37:58 · 24 answers · asked by Class_Act83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
his call. I think this is so rude since she knows it is him, and since she was that excited about him calling. She promised me she would call him back. Does this make me look bad, since I am the one that gave him the number in the first place, and kept going on and on about what a great person she is? Should I say something to my cousin about this? I don't want drama but I think even if she wasn't interested she should have told me! Why would she complain about one guy who is horrible to her, but when the chance comes for something better she declines!? HELP!
2007-07-02 09:40:17 · update #1
No, it makes her look stupid. If I was you I would quit trying to help her find a nice guy. Obviously she is content with a loser, so leave it at that.
2007-07-02 09:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She will never leave her jerk boyfriend. Tell him shes not going to call ,shes just bulls----ing around. Forget about her and her 'love' life. Women in her position have low self esteem and dont want a good man anyway. No this doesnt make you look bad. Just tell her nevermind. Tell him nevermind.She would only be sneaking around behind her oldmans back with him anyhow because if she didnt leave him with that other baby being born then nothing will make her leave him. She loves being miserable and treated like a stupid old dog obviously. You just enjoy your new boyfriend and let her learn on her own.She will grow up someday and realize the years have went by and shes still not happy. Until that day comes ,she will not leave him. You tried, youre sweet. Oh well. Some women settle for less.
2007-07-02 09:48:46 · answer #2 · answered by lawson 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, here's the deal. If your cousin really wanted a new guy, she'd work on it. Truly, she would. If you want to avoid getting hit by a car, you stop walking in the road, ya know?! It was nice of you to try to help her out, but if she isn't willing to make the effort for herself, then it's all pointless. Since you've already tried to help, your guy's cousin may not be pleased, but I'm sure it'll be easily forgotten. Don't sweat it, but make sure next time not to work to help change someone's situation if they're not even willing to make the small changes for themselves. She obviously has a problem with her situation, but isn't willing to walk away, which means there is something keeping her there. Namely her lack of self-esteem, which is something only she can do something about. While it was great of you to try to help her out, don't waste your time anymore. Tell your guy and his cousin that your cousin is a great girl, but she wasn't as ready to date someone as she/you thought. Apologize, to them and let it go. I'm sure he's not heartbroken over a girl not calling him back. It wasn't a full-blown rejection, so not really much of a blow to the ego. On a side note, I hope your cousin figures out what she wants and goes for it! Good Luck!
2007-07-02 09:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by lys 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a good heart. Tell your Guy's Cousin your sorry and didn't expect that from her, and never bring him up to your cousin. Remember not to do that again. Your not to blame, just let him know you didn't expect it and really you can't explain.
As for your cousin, she's so into the other guy that someday soon, she will be hurt. Just make sure your shoulder is there for here to lean on and by no means offer your Guy's Cousin to her again. No matter what.
Good Luck!!
2007-07-02 09:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Charley 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're right, your cousin is being totally rude. No, in my opinion this does not make you look bad because you're cousin said she was interested, so it's not your fault she's being like this. You can talk to her, but I would suggest talking to your bf's cousin. Just explain to him that she said she was interested and you're sorry she's acting this way. You can ask him if he'd like you to talk to her about it or not and do so. It's not your fault. I think that if you really feel bad about this, you should ask your cousin about it, and then apologize to the guy for your cousin's behavior, because, she wronged you too, by leading you to think she was really interested.
2007-07-10 05:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by rainbow Brite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin is dating a man who has a girlfriend, or is your cousin his girlfriend? (Just wondering).
Why is your cousin dating a man that has a girlfriend, is this ok with her?? It would not be ok with me, but then again, we are not talking about me. Anyways.............
I think that you should finally call your cousin and tell her what you think and why she is not calling this guy.
You have done everything you can for your cousin, the ball is in her court to make the right decision, and I suggest that you concentrate on your boyfriend and your relationship with your boyfriend.
Hopefully, one of these days, your cousin will wake up and smell the roses and decide which lifestyle she wants.
2007-07-02 09:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your cousin is not ready to end it with her loser BF. She claims she is interested in your BF's cousin, but obviously, if she were, she would have answered the phone. The next time she complains about her man, tell her that you don't want to hear it. You gave her an opportunity to fix her situation and meet a new man, but she blew it.
As for you looking bad, I would just apologize to your BF's cousin for her rudeness and leave it at that.
2007-07-02 09:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldnt feel bad about it and you dont look bad at all just tell your bf cousin that you are sorry you tried to help her out but she doesnt want to be helped..She really needs to learn on her own no matter what anyone else tells her she will find out for her self but you are a great cousin and friend for tryin to help her out..just next time she calls complaining about her bf tell her that you dont want to hear it bc you tried to help and she didnt appreciate it..she will learn but she's not ready to yet
2007-07-02 09:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your cousin is both ignorant and stupid. Tell your boyfriend's cousin that you are sorry and you made a mistake in trying to set him up with your cousin - she's obviously not worth dating.
2007-07-10 09:36:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gonna have to take the bull by the horns. She has a stupid sence of loyalty. She's afraid. ask your frind to be paticent, she is worthy, man to a major flaw she's worthy. But your gonna have to be more cunning. She a loyal chicken. Good thing you care for her. And when things start rolling tell her to stop being so dramatic (that's advice for later, by the way).
lol
You can never look bad, when your heart is in the right place. Your cool in my books. ;)
2007-07-02 09:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it makes you look bad. You tried to do a good thing for your dumbass cousin. You might want to apologize to the friend for wasting his time on this loser. And I would certainly say something to the cousin.
2007-07-02 09:41:52 · answer #11 · answered by doyogafeelgreat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋