when can a parent stop having to take care of kids that are now 23 and 26.?

Answer 1

Well if you don't raise them to be adults they never will.

Quit babying them, because it makes you feel good...if they have to take care of themselves they will.

If they can't it's your fault...push them out of the nest and let them fly....you might be suprised, that you did a good job!

Answer 2

OK I'm 29 and temporally living w/ my mom I pay all the utilities and buy most of the grocery's for me and the 3 kids. We are here because my husband lost his job and we lost our house. Better than on the streets. I home school our kids and in general we are responsible adults who hit hard times. My older bro (32) lives here w/ our mom and pays NOTHING he mooches off everyone even though he's the only college grad out of six kids. The difference is that even though were with mom we help out and there fore adults and he is a mooch who unless forced will do nothing. The deal when he moved in was to tear down the Garage that was damaged during Katrina and to do a lot of the general household maintenance that I have done b/c he won't.OK so I ranted a bit there but the point is how much do they help? Are they helping with bills? at that age and at home they should be helping out as much as possible with cleaning and bills and whatever needs to be done around the house or they need to get there own!

Answer 3

I was always under the impression that parents don't ever stop taking care of their kids. However at 23 and 26 you should be DEFINATELY encouraging independence but if you have been "taking care of them" for this long don't expect themt o be able to do everything on their own. At least that is my thought. I am 23 and living at home I have lived on my own and my mom did EVERYTHING for me and i had a hard time at first but ifigured it out but if i had learned before it being slapped in my face things would of been smoother.

Answer 4

It's not for you to judge when others should stop taking care of their children. If you don't agree w/ it, don't raise your kids like that. To each is there own.

Secondly, I'm not sure I understand your question entirely.

Answer 5

About 5 and 8 years ago. I know that alot of parents think they are doing the right thing by supporting thier children into adulthood but its really doing nothing but teaching them that they can always depend on someone else.

Answer 6

Well you could have stopped the day they turned 18... You dont have to do anything you are choosing to... They will survive but they choose not to cause you are not making them... In reality its hurting them more having you do everything for them then it would be if you let them loose... you can always be there for advise but you are doing things for them not helping them do it themselves... this will hurt them later on when they choose to get married and so on

Answer 7

Now is a good time.

Helping your kids out is always great, but they should be old enough to care for themselves now. But them loose!

Answer 8

You never stop being a parent. Now, if they still live with you that is a big problem, but if they're on their own and need help every once in a while, that's fine.

Answer 9

You are doing a dis-service to your children if you are financially still taking care of them.

Take a look at your life, and why you have chosen to continue this. Is it to fulfill your needs?

Answer 10

unless there is a specific reason why they are still living with mummy and daddy, you are way past the time for them to become adults. Have a backbone and tell them to get a life!